Just wondering?

Question

I was just wondering what everyone thought about the roles that a husband and a wife should have. Are there any? Or should it be a 50/50 thing when it comes to housework, kids, etc.

I think some of you took the question the wrong way, the 50/50 thing had to do with duties around the house and working not anything having to do with the relationship. Of course, I know that a relationship should be given 100% by both people.

Answer 1

I think it should be split between what you and your partner are good at and support each other. Obviously men and women are different but still the same. Just compliment each others actions with full support and do what ever needs to be done. Both parents are suposed to be there and do there best. NOT THE MOST. The most important thing is the children. One person may do more but it doesnt mean that they are the best. My father was at work most of the time but the time he spent with the children was very valuable. Just do what ever needs to be done. If your partner thinks you should do everything then your partner isnt really your partner. RIGHT?

Answer 2

no, never a 50/50 because that means the person is just working half way to make things work. It has to be 100/100 and there is no right or wrong duties for a woman and man. the man can cook if he wants to, the woman can take out the trash if she wants to. It is all about what the couple decides is best for their household.

Answer 3

I think it depends on what you both agree on. If both of you agree on a "traditional" family situation, then the woman stays home and takes care of everything while the husband works. In that scenerio, I don't see where they would do the 50/50 thing.

However, if it is a home where the wife is working, roles have shifted, and yes, I think it should be closer to 50/50.

But, agree upon this before getting married, or you will not be happy.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

LOL there is nothing 50/50 about marriage, what a myth.

sometimes it's 80/20, other times 10/90.
where couples start to feel resentment towards each other is when one of you is ALWAYS the one giving more, ALL the time.

Also depends on who's working more hours outside the home etc.
It also helps to try to focus on the things that you each bring to the marriage and not just on who does the wash more often. Keeping score in a marriage is a sure way to kill it.

Answer 5

It should be a 50/50 thing. My girlfriend and I had this argument at the begining of our relationship.

Roles go back to a generation or two ago, where the man, had to be a man and work all day and the female had to do pretty much anything he say.

This isn't the case anymore.

Answer 6

Relationships are not 50/50 they are 100/100 you have to put 100 % into it .... if one does not show 100% there will be a fall.

Answer 7

I don't believe in the 50/50 rule. Both ppl should be giving 100%, there for it should be 100/100.

Answer 8

I think that a relationship between husband/wife should be something that both parties agree on. some households are where the man works and the woman stays home. others are where the woman works and the man stays home. some people have a dual income household where both the husband and wife work. it all comes down to what the individual husband and wife team work and agree on.

Answer 9

It is an absolute must to shoot for a 50/50 marriage or relationship responsibility venue....but lets be serious.......there will always be a slight imbalance in this area.......duties and chores should be set in agreement to each persons involved......What has worked for us over 29 years is........
We both have full time jobs...
if not make necessary adjustments in time related responsibilities.....
We both share in the household duties.....
I do all the shopping, cooking, share the wash and drying duties..make the bed together....I dust while my wife sweeps and vacuums...
My wife enjoys the dishes versus shopping and cooking....
I could go on and on...
The point I'm trying to make is, I would not expect my wife to change the flat tire........as she has tried to with no avail......
as I had tried other domestic skills that shes better at.....
....communication.....fairity......understanding one an others strengths and needs is of the utmost importance!
Coming to an agreement and acceptance of each others skill area and need area and strength area are the secrets of helping one another to have a fairly shared life . ...... in both fun and needed tasks to maintain a relationship....


thanks for listening.....good luck!!!

Answer 10

It's traditional, women are expected to clean and cook for their men.
In my house, its me and my dad. I work and get home kinda late while he stays home in a small shop we have. He does the cooking so I can eat and relax after work. When I'm done, I take over in the shop till closing time. And I clean the mess he made in the kitchen.

It's all about everyone chipping in, time and schedule may be factors, as well as who's better at what. - My dad cooks up a storm. But some days, I might do the cooking anyway. He likes it and I don't mind.