one of my friends has died! It was so unexpected and I'm so devastated. I'm supposed to be going out tonight with my hubby and kids to the Pantomine for my birthday which, I can see far enough away. Should I still go? I want to go to bed and cry and I have mixed emotions. I will have to be really happy tonight for my kids but how hard will it be?
2007-01-09 00:17:32 · 33 answers · asked by floss 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Omigod...you are all being so thoughtful you've made me cry even more. It's so nice to know there are people on here that care. Thank you all.
2007-01-09 00:31:04 · update #1
My kids are 4 and 7 and they'r really excited about tonight! This is so hard!
2007-01-09 01:02:23 · update #2
It has been so helpful hearing everyones advise, I want to say a huge 'thank you' to you all. And now I have to pick a best answer!!!!!!!
2007-01-10 23:08:47 · update #3
It has been so helpful hearing everyones advice, I want to say a huge 'thank you' to you all. And now I have to pick a best answer!!!!!!!
2007-01-10 23:10:17 · update #4
You should go. Your friend has died and that is very very sad but life is for living for those of us who are given that opportunity. I have also lost someone very unexpectedly and I know what you feel but I can tell you absolutely that to go on and laugh is absolutely the right thing to do. Sometimes we all laughed at things that I am sure other people balked at but they are the memories we hold onto now and it didnt denegrate the memory of our friend at all.
2007-01-09 00:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My condolences to you. All you can do is something your friend perhaps wanted you to do. The birthday party. There is time for you to mourn silently about this. But i think your friend really wants you to go to the Pantomine since it was all planned. I know you are upset. It is devastating news. All you can do is tell your family how you feel and go to the Pantomine and enjoy it for the moment and then you can mourn when you need to. Just take it easy and let them know so they can take it easy with you too. It will be very hard. The thought of you doing something and your friend is not there or anywhere anymore. It is painful at first but if you take it easy it will all be alright. A prayer might help if you are religious or not.
2007-01-09 08:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by DARIA. - JOINED MAY 2006 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im really sorry to hear about your friend. it must be devastating. i really wouldn't know what to suggest as i think many people have different ways of grieving. in my opinion, i would go to the pantomine and celebrate your friends life-but this may be very difficult. i think you should decide how you feel. i know this probably wont help, but i dont know what to suggest. im really sorry, happy birthday, deepest sympathy and good luck x
2007-01-09 03:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by lalala 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear about your friend and on your birthday aswell there is no right or wrong thing to do you are very emotional right now so do what your head tells you to do later if you need to be alone stay at home if it helps for you to be around your family then go out tonight and celebrate your birthday and your friends life
2007-01-09 00:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by claire 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know that it's your birthday but something like this is so sad, especially when it happens on a day that you should be happy about....you could sit your children down and explain to them what's happened then promise them that they will go to the panto another time, but not today because mummy is feeling sad, OR you could have a family member take them instead of you, so they still get to see it, kids at that age dont really understand the meaning of death, so try and get someone to take them so they don't miss out, and you have time out to grieve...i am so sorry for your loss hun, i wish i could say happy birthday to you, but i don't think it will help much...bless you....x
2007-01-09 01:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
.Saying happy birthday in this situation doesn't seem quite right cos' clearly your having a miserable birthday,
I think you should go tonight, after all your friend wouldn't want you to stay at home on your birthday,at least try to enjoy your self and later have a good cry ,I'm sure your friend would agree.
2007-01-09 08:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all deal with grief in different ways but i went to the theatre 3 years ago the day my mother died because the tickets were booked months in advance and it took my mind off of my feelings if only for a couple of hours. I'm sorry for your loss but you do have to be strong for your kids.
2007-01-09 00:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Loo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh no poor you I'm so sorry that your friend passed over,this is a very sad time for you.don't go to bed and cry ,have a good cry if you want,but think of all the good things your friend had and how lucky you are with your life,again I'm sorry for your loss when its some one close it brings it home to you.go tonight have a really good time enjoy your family.lots of luck babes,happy birthday.
2007-01-09 00:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by karen. 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
HEY girl well just to let you know its my b-day today too and i'm also having a bad day but because of my mom! but look this is about you, its hard to lose a friend cuz i been there, but think that your friend is now in a good place! think about what your friend would want you to do, he/she would want you to celebrate YOUR day and know you are happy while he/she watches down on you! happy birthday girl i feel you!!
2007-01-09 00:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by *(¯`ξŔ1₭4´¯) Ł4 (¯`₮Ř4V1ξ§4´¯)* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the pantomime will be just the right thing: you can spend time with your kids doing something together that will absorb your attention whilst not needing too much effort on your part.
Sorry to hear about your friend.
2007-01-09 00:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋