Why do men "deserve" beatings ?

Question

All violence of a man against a woman is wrong, however if you ask the feminists, when a woman beats a man it is not the same. Then we have to look deeper in the case, to see what he did to push her to beat him, or if he deserves it before we rate her behaviour us justified or wrong. Why is that ?

please refer to this topic for people who express that men deserve beeing beaten by a woman. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlkS9rQI8uR.aONTzlAmR8Lzy6IX?qid=20070108234731AAsumkg the post of Karena K

Answer 1

A true feminist would believe that violence in any form is totally unacceptable. Feminist values are bases on equality between genders. Feminist are against oppression in any form and that would include classism, ageism, ableism, sexism, racism etc. Check the definition of feminism if you have problems with this and that will verify what I am saying. Hope this clears this matter up for you.

Answer 2

I don't believe that a man ever "deserves" a beating. Even if a woman is responding to a man's abuse towards her by hitting him back, it's completely inappropriate behavior on her part. I'm not saying all feminists do this, and keep in mind that I am in fact a woman, but I think some of them take it too far, such as beating a man and then asking society to look at her "justified" reason for doing it.

Answer 3

Violence is violence and it doesn't matter who commits it.

Although the difference exists in effect, NOT cause, because a man, being physically stronger, is capable of much more damage than a woman. But there is no reason for a woman to beat a man that is any better of a reason for a man to beat a woman. It's always wrong and should never be done. Period...what's the debate about anyways?

Answer 4

Kind of complicated, isn't it? On one hand, most people would say it's OK for anyone (man or woman) to defend himself/herself if he/she is being attacked. On the other hand, most people also believe that two wrongs don't make a right. You also have the situation where women who are victims of abuse wait until the abusive male is asleep, drunk, or otherwise incapacitated and then they attack (and sometimes kill) these guys. See, it's one thing if you're in immediate danger and you have to protect yourself or else you could get killed, but an abuser who is "out cold" presents no immediate threat. And yes, there are some feminists out there who say it's different when a woman attacks an abusive man, but there IS another choice -- the woman can get the heck out of that house and go to a battered women's shelter. BOTTOM LINE: If a woman is getting beat up and she fights back right then and there, that's self-defense and that's cool. But if she waits to catch the abuser with his guard down and attacks him when he's not expecting it then she's no better than he is, so she should face the penalty for her crime.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Man there are some good answers here, good luck choosing one. As a former man beater and battered women myself, I can say that violence against any human being is wrong and not only the batterer needs help but the person being battered does to.

One of the problems in society today is that the roles have changed due to the women's movement. Women have become stronger and men weaker, there was another question here about 'where have all the dominate men gone' that correlates with this question. Kinda funny..

Since the start of the women's movement
and the entry of women into the workplace, it has all affected gender roles. Some men feel that the de-emphasis on the male as a primary provider has harmed their ability to even attract a mate and it has. Then when they find a mate, she will most like be a strong dominate women. Opposites attract. Once they are well into the relationship, she realizes that he is weak and her needs as a women are not being met. The anger builds and builds towards him.. Then guess what she does? The name calling might start, then that's not enough so the physical violence starts..

My mate used to make me so mad because he wouldn't make a decision, I would call him names, slap him, like wake up you sissy be a man. But let me add that alcohol and drugs were usually involved and in most cases of abuse they are.

It wasn't a feminist thing, it was an sickness thing and we both needed help.

I wasn't raised to be a feminist and I don't think most women in this country were, but we were raised to be strong and take care of ourselves and when we put that care in the hands of a man and he doesn't measure up it makes us angry, even violent.

I think due to a high divorce rate in past years the adults of today were raised in single family homes and a lot of them have unresolved anger at parents (male and female) that is being taken out on their mates. 'You're just like my mom, you're just like my dad' I hate you. Boom I hit you, but I hit my dad, my mom, the low life that left me..and you'll leave me too so I am going to kick your butt because you don't love me the way I need to be loved, why are you so weak? Get the gist?

Women of today have not had good male roll models to look up to and respect as providers, made to feel safe, taken care of and women, I don't care what the feminist say, need to feel safe, protected , defended and loved. When they don't feel that it makes them very angry if they are needy.

It's a twisted way of thinking, we hurt the ones we love when we are an angry person and when we don't feel that we are getting our needs met all hell can break lose.

If any feminist thinks it's OK to beat a man she most likely needs help dealing with her unresolved anger at her father ..


"A Former Man Abuser"

Peace

Answer 7

Nobody has the right to physically, mentally, or sexually abuse anybody. I think it is because there is a stong imbalance of physical power (you can not deny men are stonger than women) and people feel the man can defend himself. Well, not so true. He has been raised not to hit women. He might be psychologically aboused by the woman and she may make him feel like **** and so he thinks he deserves to be hit. It is just as wrong. My sister is very violent and I am very affraid that she would do that to a guy. Oh and finally, is anybody forgetting history. Men throughout history do tend to be the agressors.

Answer 8

No, violence is right against any one for what ever reason. People need to learn to control their temperament and how they reason with others. Especially with children because children should be brought up to learn from their mistakes and not be beaten because of them.

How can a child learn from their mistakes if they are not instructed on how they are mistakes to begin with. I think that it's a cop out for those who think that by taking a stick or a belt is the way to handle it by enforcing punishment on a child. I think that the adult has to learn how to discipline a child by way of gentle correction not brute force.

How can a child love a parent who beats them all the time or beats them because they feel that is the only way to get through to them? I think there are other ways and I also think that the parent has to find the right way to deal with the child as an individual not treat all children they have the same way.

All violence is the same and a person who thinks that violence is unequal then they are only deceiving themselves. If a woman had the crap beaten out of her by her own father then most likely in some cases she will learn to hate men because she will only see the one person who should infact should have been there to protect her as someone who is a bully and not a mentor or a parent who loves them.

How we learn to relate to the opposite sex does have a big effect on how we will in the future precieve the opposite sex. I really believe that and also it's not just with women either. It's the same with men. How men relate to their own mother is how they will relate to them in future relationships. Something I think both sexes should really question and think about.

Another thing if parents split up and divorce that will also affect the children in many ways especially in the way they will relate to others. Our relationship with our parents does affect how we will relate to others.

The way to break the chains is to start the healing process by forgiveness, dealing with the anger, and connecting to a good support group who will help the person to get through the rough spots. For some of us it's having faith in God for our healing.

Another thing is to not choose the same path that you have just gotten off from because then if you go down that same path again you will repeat unhealthy things. Be careful who you date because sometimes people can hide the real truth about themselves until you really get to know them.

Answer 9

Why or when? I'll give you a "when": you and now. You deserve a public flogging for being a crank so snap out of it Happy Bullet! Your god awful writing and obcession with the subject matter give you away.
Just wanted to let the others know not to waste their time taking you seriously. Your "questions" are the product of a disturbed mind; the mind of an obcessive CRANK and W-A-N-K .

Knowing that you are linguistically challenged, I've included a dictionary definition for you:

http://www.webster-dictionary.net/defini...

Definition of Crank
Pronunciation: krăņk

4.A twist or turn of the mind; caprice; whim; crotchet; also, a fit of temper or passion.
Violent of temper; subject to sudden cranks.

5.A person full of crotchets; one given to fantastic or impracticable projects; one whose judgment is perverted in respect to a particular matter.

6.A sick person; an invalid.
Thou art a counterfeit crank, a cheater.

Why do I call you a crank? Because you are "one whose judgment is perverted in respect to a particular matter." The proof is in the insane, offensive "questions" you post. As I have pointed out repeatedly, your sources are either mental midgets like you (your fellow cranks) or, when it's to your advantage, you simply LIE about what the actual "evidence" has to say on a given matter. That bit makes you a W-A-N-K.

Answer 10

It is NOT true that "when you ask the feminists" they say it is not the same. I'm a feminist, and if you ask me, violence is wrong in any context, except self defense. If a woman attacks a man, he has the moral and LEGAL right to defend and protect himself. The opposite is also true. It is true that women are not as strong physically as men, and so some may rationalize that, because women cannot do as much "damage," it is not as "bad" for a woman to attack a man (hand to hand) but that is hypocritical. (And NOT "typical" of feminist attitudes, at all.)