I have been w/the same partner for 16 yrs.. On the 26th of Dec. she told me that she still loves me but wants her freedom. We still do and go everywhere together but now sleep in seperate bedrooms. She says that there is something missing but says that she can't explain what it is. She knows that I love her very much but still wants to come and go as she pleases. Please help me .
2007-01-08 23:37:08 · 6 answers · asked by single again 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What more can I give her I love and respect her. I told her everyday just how much and told her that she the sexiest woman on earth. Maybe I gave to much to her and she didn't think that I did. We raised a son together and there were times that she wanted another and I don't. I hold her and touch her all of time. The kissing is what I think I left out. By the way we are 10 yrs. apart. Could that have something to do with it. I gave all of the time and she didn't.
2007-01-09 11:20:22 · update #1
she wants u there for her needs, when it's convenient to her but if u need something she isn't willing to give it. she wants to come and go as she pleases, which could only mean one thing, that she is cheating on u, and keeping u around to pay the bills, and do whatever that makes her happy. anyone willing to stay in a marriage like this, has no self respect for themselves, and is willing to take whatever crumbs she throws at u. u need to confront her, but if she says something is missing, than she is not satisfied with u, u do not meet her needs, her sexual needs anyway. u need to get out of the marriage, and move on if at all possible. we teach people how to treat us, by what we are willing to put up with from them. it will continue like it is until u change it. personally i would not want to be with a person who didn't want to be with me, who didn't find me attractive, as evidenced by her not sleeping with u anymore.
2007-01-08 23:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 16 year as a partner and you haven't married. There lays the problem! After 16 years you both should've committed to one another legally----(I'm assuming you're both hetrosexual) If you are GAY---maybe you both should renew a vow with each other at a place you both find special or has many memories.
Just like the song that alicia Key's sings----Falling in and out of Love -----you both need to rekindle the LOVE that you both once had for each other1 Don't delay start romancing the stone !!!
2007-01-09 07:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows why this happens to females...but then the same happens to some males....maybe they reach a point that they feel like they missed something in their life, or realize age is creeping up on them and it scares them...who knows...
Give her wings, trust her love for you, send her flowers...still romance her on a different level....and be her best friend now until she can sort out the problem.....stand back take a good look at you, and if you see something that you need to change...... change it....
Don't pressure and give her time....always keep communication lines open..you never know what wonderful things could happen........Couples who overcome this are even stronger.....God Bless!!
2007-01-09 07:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by snickers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is being the selfish one, not you, you aren't the one who is undecided what you want, when you are in a relationship you don't just come and go as you please, i know you need to do your own thing without the other once in awhile but not what it seems she is wanting to do. It sounds like she has grown tired of being tied down.She could also be feeling older wanting to experience life out side of you, again she isn't being fair to you or your feelings, i think you need to ask her you or her freedom, does she want you to just sit around and wait on her to make her mind up, maybe do a little cheating perhaps? Go to counsling (if you can afford it- i know it isn't cheap). Good luck to you
2007-01-09 08:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats missing is marriage together with love and respect. She needs security and stability and you are not prepared to give her that. Read the book Love aned Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs
2007-01-09 07:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. Only you know exactly what's going on. I would guess that slowly you two have drifted, and maybe she's trying to remember what you two used to be like. Maybe do something sweet and romantic to jolt her memory. Put together a special night or something, it can't hurt can it?
2007-01-09 07:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋