A question to men....or women ?

Question

Getting married would you prefer a casual affair or a formal one. Was your experience pleasant or stressfull. Serious answers please. Thanks.

As in a casual ceremony "affair" ,event,reception GEEZ. Low key or Big to do!!!

Answer 1

Dear Sheila... Jen was only referring to the wedding as formal or casual and not a cheating affair! I hope you apologize for what you said!!!

Now, back to you Jen, I would prefer a casual affair surrounded with my family and all our friends... unfortunately his family I cannot leave out, so it has to be both families!!!

As being stressful, I would'nt know as I am not married yet, but I hope it wouldn't be so!

Answer 2

I've been married twice. My first wedding was a huge Italian/Greek formal ceremony, over 250 guests. While it was nice, it was overwhelming! I felt I did not have any time to enjoy "our" day, too many people want to talk to you, you barely eat, goes by way too fast. Ultimately that did not work out for me, I was very young, and had a "perception" of what a wedding should be. I met a nice man in my mid 30's. We were married on the beach in Hilton Head with only 30 family members/friends. My mother and I made the food beforehand, my husband purchased the drinks, and we stayed in a large home on the beach that had a pool, hot tub, volleyball, and everyone had a blast. It was intimate, and is one of most cherished memories. No stress, casual, comfortable, and fun!

Answer 3

Some women prefer the formal one with the big church, flower girl, the whole nine yards. But from experience, I have been married twice, the first one was formal, the second one, casual. I loved the casual one better. We got married at the minister's home in the presence of my sister-in-law and brother-in-law. My two sons gave me to my now husband. It was wonderful and I would perfer this kind of wedding to anyone. The casual wedding is the way to go.

Answer 4

A casual wedding with only your very closest friends and family. I've been married twice and the first one was a huge, expensive production with around 300 guests. I felt like I was "on-stage" and it didn't feel very intimate at all. Plus, it was busy and I had to entertain and worry about all the guests. I didn't even eat anything except the piece of cake we fed each other! It was exhausting....
My second marriage, I only had around 50 people at a backyard ceremony and it was perfect! Everyone was sitting at round tables even during the ceremony, so it felt relaxed and casual. And we laughed and talked during the ceremony...it was very relaxed. Plus, this time I had the minister cut the ceremony to last around 12 minutes instead of 45 or longer! then we had a catered mexican buffet and we even had home made ice cream with the cake. It was definitely about us and was very comfortable. There were a few people who were not invited who were a little peeved, but that's why they weren't invited...they thought it was about them instead of us, you know what I mean? Anyways, make it as personal as possible and don't worry about other people for this one special day. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I remember being offered the money from my family instead of a formal wedding. Personally, I wish I had taken it. It's not that it wasn't beautiful,nice etc. but in hindsight, it was such a blur of a day after months of preparation that I think it was a waste. I could have done a lot more with that kind of money and had just as memorable of a wedding somewhere small and less expensive. If I ever do it again, it will be somewhere unique, remote and intimate.

Answer 6

I personally picked out the things that I liked and paid no attention to etiquette or tradition. I had a church wedding with the big dress and all the works. For my reception, I wanted it outdoors under the night sky with a more casual, party feel. Keeping focused on what Me and my Husband wanted gave us the most memorable day of our relationship. It's always hard spending so much money on one day, but it was soooo worth it for us, we had a great time and enjoyed every moment of it. Our guests too, told us later that they also had a great time and I think because we had no worries or preconceptions, we just wanted to have the best day we could and stayed focus on the fact that this was a day that was celebrating our relationship. Good luck to you and I hope your experience turns out as well as mine.

Answer 7

lol i thought that you were talking about an affair, but i read thru everyone's answers before my answer. casual is much better. you dont' have to deal with fancy clothes, getting everyone together to look super good and so on. i'm 25 and i've been married once and still am married and i went to the justice of the peace. in and out, i'm happy. no dress, went and ate at outback afterwards. i just didn't want to deal with the whole ceremony and worrying if everyone would make it there.

Answer 8

I've been married twice. First one, big church, dress, formal sit down dinner for 150 people.... complete stress festival. I almost passed out during the ceremony from exhaustion.
Second time, barefoot on the beach at sunset with about twenty close friends and family, followed by huge party for everyone else. No stress.
If I ever do it again I'm going to fly to Vegas!

Answer 9

A mix of both. You want to do the dress and tux and all that crap but having 100's of people is overboard. A small church with the closest friends and family... photographer and someone you know with a video camera to show those you didn't invite.

Answer 10

mine was kinda a fantasy come true to life but it was small however my reception was huge and that is how we wanted it, but i tell you a secret i almost passed out rite before i walked down the isle i totally had a panic attack! but it was like no other moment in life i will ever have again.