me and my bf want to move in together wen we cn afford it is 4mths datin too soon???
2007-01-08 23:02:45 · 15 answers · asked by luce1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you think that he's the one for you, then there's no such thing as too soon. but since you're having doubts.. i suggest you follow your gut feeling that it's too soon.
2007-01-08 23:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by reijene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first thinking is that 4 months is too soon to move in together no matter how old you are. But if you have asked your self some of the following questions and are satisified with the answers you give yourself, then consider it. Ask the following:
1) Can I afford the rent if something happens and I end up alone?
2) What will moving in together mean to our relatonship?
3) Is this the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with or just "some" time with. And does he feel the same way?
4) Hard times are bound to happen in any relationship. Are you prepared for them?
5) What are you leaving behind in your current living situation?
At 4 months with a BF, your still experiencing the Romance of it all. I say enjoy the Romance and if he's still around in a year or so then go for it.
2007-01-09 07:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by onebuddy2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...if you guys get a long great, and know you want to be together I say go for it!
I met my boyfriend in august of 2005 and we moved in together that December. It was a lot different than I thought it was going to be! I didn't realize how he did things (like left his clothes on the floor, leave his dishes everywhere, etc.) when we were dating, so it was kind of a shock when he did stuff like that for the first time. You just have to think of those kind of things before you guys move in together. Also, make sure you trust him! If he's the type of person who flakes out on things, he might just flake on rent...don't get yourself into a situation like that!
We're now engaged to be married this year and I just gave birth to our baby boy 2 weeks ago :) We love each other more than anything, and we're proof that something like that can work!
Good luck :)
2007-01-09 07:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do this: check his credit rating, job history, past relationships, cleaning habits, can he cook, and does he have any kids u dont knw about. If u feel funny about anything then stay at home with your folks or with your roommates.
When u move in its not like being married , u r playing house because if u guys r really serious about your relationship think about marriage or ask him how he feels about it, then ask about kids.
4 months dating aint long enough to knw everything about a person. What if this dude likes has some weird morals trust me when u move in the true colors will show.
DONT GET PLAYED
2007-01-09 07:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by KB48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move in together just yet, keep just s little of your lives to yourselves for a while, once you move in together everything changes, it puts more pressure on the relationship than you really need at 4 months, enjoy the fun for now, and enjoy missing each other. Keep you independance and identity, at 4 months you really need to keep a little mystery and privacy in your realtionship, no matter how strong it is.
2007-01-09 07:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I have a positive take on this, unlike everyone else. My husband and I moved in together about two weeks after we started dating. And then six months later, we got married. We have been together now for seven years and still going strong. We are happy and have a wonderful life.
2007-01-09 07:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by godbeyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes---ask again this question when you've been dating 2-3 yrs. Moving in together is wrong. You each should have places of your own and learn to develop a strong bonded friendship before you move in together to play house.
2007-01-09 07:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a big argument with him yet? You need to have got over the perfect period before you move in with each other. 4 months is too soon
2007-01-09 07:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by The Guru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to share everything that you have with this person? Are you ready to see this person almost every moment of the day? Can you financially depend on this person to keep their end of the rent? If you can say yes to all of these things, then why not get married first?
2007-01-09 08:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by Nique T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you feed a new born meat and potatoes?
Yes, 4 months is too early to move in together.
2007-01-09 07:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes much too soon. Wait at least 12 months.
2007-01-09 07:08:43 · answer #11 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋