is not being able to cope with my ex finding & being with someone else. I have children & am prone to depression so i'd hate to spiral & take my kids down with me. Any ideas as i'd reallylike to get out of this cold relationship.
2007-01-08 22:57:48 · 8 answers · asked by Mishell 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's borderline "possession" in my opinion. You don't want him, or want to live with him, but you don't want anybody else to either. You don't own him. If you don't want him, let him find someone that does. Plus, you'll do yourself a favor by getting out of a cold relationship, and be able to find someone to love you.As I see it, you ending this relationship, is win-win!
2007-01-08 23:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't have it all your own way. If you leave the relationship he is allowed to go on with his life just like you are. Have you tried telling him how you feel, have you tried counselling or can you find a friend who can act as a medium between the two of you. Since you know you suffer with depression make sure you have the necessary help/tools in place to stop you from going into a downward spiral. Maybe you are prone to depression because of your relationship so wouldn't it make you feel better to be out of it?
I've said it before & I'll say it again don't stay in a relationship for the children because some times that can cause more harm than good.
There is a place called Relationships Australia or your doctor should be able to advise a good counsellor. Good luck.
2007-01-09 07:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get yourself a big support network, friends and family that will stand by you, get some professional help for the depression, take these steps first, work through your feelings slowly, with someone who can help you and leave him, it's all you can do, but the most important part is the big support network of people you trust and can rely on any time of the day, people who you can open up to and be completely honest with, because if you stay ur kids will sense ur despair anyway. Get help and get out
2007-01-09 07:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate, I am on my way to failed marriage two. Each ten years. My relationship now has been abusive for the last two years. Verbally and a couple of times physically. Being a gentleman, I did not fight back. I am living and teaching in S. Korea, I will return to S. California in two weeks to resolve the situation. I am going to be fifty and I'm not excited about returning to dating at this age. but I can't stay in my present relationship.
Talk with a doctor, there are some great depression medicines out there. Also really confide in friends. you need to lean on them at this time. don't worry about the kids, they are amazingly resilient!
Good luck! Take care of yourself first and you'll be able to care for your children.
2007-01-09 07:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Rich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please know that when one door shuts, another one opens. You must have faith in God and only trust in him. Take a leap in faith this man may be the cause to your depression. I'm not one to say leave your husband, however, if you read between the lines I've pretty much said it. Only you know the real deal there. If you know that the children would be better off with him and if you can live with that on your concience leave the kids with him. Then go with no regrets.
2007-01-09 07:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the reason why you both break it but you need to let go of him. He seems to be over with you and he is having his own life, there is also more life for you, be positive and don't pull your kids with you into your conflicts because you are creating in them many problems and traumas in their minds.
Life for you has not end, perhaps is a new beginning to focus in yourself to explore what life can offer you outside, time to enjoy and find a new love, you are closing the door to find perhaps something better for you and to make your kids happy, because if they see you happy, you will be happy.
Dress up nicely, take care of your body and embrace positives thoughts go out for a drink with a friend... Start to reborn again.
2007-01-09 07:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by getting_a_new_life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a plan, a detailed plan, on where you'll go what you'll do. Think about the wonderful things you'll do with your kids, dating again,etc. Also go to your doctor and ask him to perscribe an antidepressant. If your so worried about your ex are you really ready to leave?
2007-01-09 07:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant have your cake and eat it too missy. Either say goodbye or get used to your cold relationship quick
2007-01-09 07:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Steven R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋