She is probably waking in your room as well but is not completly alert and does not cry. She can hear the rythyms of your breathing and goes right back to sleep. Dr. Mindell has some great sleep research and great supportive books.
Our 13 month old was the same as your daughter. Once we followed the advice of letting her fall asleep on her own in helped so much.
you don't need to let her cry it out, or rock her to sleep. For us it was gradually removing ourselves from her sleep equation.
When we let our daughter lay down while drowsy but not yet fully asleep, rub her back and shush, shush her, she starts to drift off. Gradually we moved from standing next to the crib for a good half hour while she got off to sleep, to sitting a few feet away, to being out the door. She would fuss and cry for a few minutes, we'd comfort her then go back to the position we were at. When she awaoke at night we would rock her or hold her and get her back to sleep. the Mindell approach is to let them learn how to get to sleep on their own- but provide whatever comfort is needed to get back to sleep at night.
After several months of waking a few times we eventually got her to sleep throught the night with no crying at bedtime. Of course this is when the first earache showed up and all that went out the window!! We are doing the sleep "training" again- last night was the first full night of rest in our household.
rest assured that eventually your daughter will sleep throught the night. It will happen. The best thing is to let her learn to be on her own at bedtime so she learns how to soothe herself. You can do that as slowly as is comfortable. With our first child, who is now 7, my husband and I were never comfortable with letting him cry it out at all- not even 5 minutes- and we never made it a priority to sleep train him, consequently he never sleep through the night until he was almost 5 years old!! We have researched as many sleep methods as we could find and the Mindell a[proach made the most sense and was based on the best research in our opinion.
I hope this helps- Lord knows baby's parents need afull nights rest more than anyone else on the planet- except maybe the baby herself. i'm always irrate when someone mentions "sleeping like a baby", especially the "i wish I could sleep like a baby" I always ask them if they mean sleeping an hour at a time and waking up screaming for their mommas!LOL.
Best wishes!
2007-01-09 01:50:07
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answered by jettyspagetti 4
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Hi there !!!
How I miss these moments !!! It seems so frustrating when we are in this situation, yet as time goes by, like in my case, and we look back, we yearn for these situations, for they are filled with so many life expereinces, they are tender moments, in which we are teaching our child, we are their world, and it is our mission to guide them in this journey we call life.
I had this situation with my babies too. I placed my baby girl in her room to sleep, ( while she was asleep already, yet as soon as she felt her crib, she woke up and began to cry) She wanted to be close to me always, ( and I wanted to be close to her as well)
I would run my fingers through her golden blonde hair and sing soflty to her ( she loved the song from dumbo)
Sometimes we let them cry, but this to tell you the truth was so hard for me, I could not take the pain and would end up crying more than she would.
I made her room her safe haven, I involved her in the decorating of her bedroom. I made that room so beautiful that she wanted to sleep in her bed. This was her special place in the house. Very comfy bedding, more comfortable than the crib in my room !!!!
I had the whole nine yards, the colors, the scents, the linen, the toys, you name it. If you can not have all these things, it is ok, improvise, just make it appealing to the child.
Never send the child to their room as punishment in this phase, so your baby does not associate being in the room with punishment.
You can also get your princess a special doll or stuff toy if not allergic, that she can sleep with.
Remember not to lose your cool, don't scream or yell at the baby, she is only 8 months old and this would not do the baby any good, or you for that matter.
Wishing you the best of luck
Love light and peace
2007-01-08 23:18:30
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answered by ? 3
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Let her cry until she's too tired. Then she'll sleep... I had a friend who tried that on her son cause her son is also been crying though the night and she read a book about it.
But you must have patience and endurance in the sense that some kids wants attention by crying. So if you go to them when they cried, then your work will go to waste... You have to do this gradual, meaning lengthen their crying time day by day...
Over the nights, their cries will be lesser and finally do stop...
Then again, all babies are individuals...
P/S: Good Luck!
2007-01-08 23:04:28
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answered by Mary 2
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You can go in to check she is ok but don't pick her up (that rewards her) sit by the cot but don't look or acknowledge her (even when screeming) slowly inch towards the door every now and then till your out. Its hard to do, I remember sitting outside mines door crying myself while she screeemed. That was cold turkey style with my first it takes a few days tops. I did the inch out the door with my second but I think that was more for my comfort than hers. Its one of the hardest things I ever did but so glad I did. You need some time too, you can't be a good mum by day when your soooo tierd.
2007-01-08 23:08:39
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answered by alexrichardson4u5h 2
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Sometimes, you just have to force her. Close her door, and when she wakes up, let her cry herself back to sleep. Or what I did was sneak into their room when they wake up, and sing or start rubbing their back, or run your fingers through their hair until they fall back asleep.
She needs to know that it's not scary to sleep in her own room, if your voice is there singing her back to sleep it will comfort her. My mom let my lil brother sleep in her bed because it was the only way he would fall asleep and he slept in her bed until he was 11 years old. Break the cycle now while you still can!!
Good luck!!
2007-01-08 23:02:23
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answered by natalie 6
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My son slept in a bassinet subsequent to our mattress till round 6 weeks, then we moved him right into a crib in his possess room. We had been advised its great to get them to sleep independently as quickly as viable, so he doesnt develop connected while he will get older
2016-09-03 18:51:33
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answered by ? 4
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I would recommended the complete sleep guide by Gina Ford. She has wrote a few books about bringing up babies and toddlers and comes highly recommended. The key to getting a baby to sleep is a good routine, i hope you can find one that suits you and your baby. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-08 23:09:56
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answered by retardomc 2
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put her to sleep in your room and then transfer her as long as she thinks that she is in your room she should be right and if she likes put some of those baby soothing music on. If not i can give you some more tips
2007-01-08 23:13:16
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answered by Curious 1
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