being married for four years, i have lived a hounted life, i cant love my wife, every time i think of my ex- she is married for one year, weve been communicating through. even though she betrayed our love, i feels that i could have given her a second chance, she loves me nd i do, am confused on what i should do to be happy and to get the best love and in return to offer the best of my heart
2007-01-08 21:46:54 · 8 answers · asked by shi-kibe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well.. i think she is happy with her new life, as you said they are married for 1 year while u are married for 4.. so your the one who decided to go on with his life..
and to think of, what about your wife ?? is it her fault that you cannot forget ur Ex.. she said yes to you and she was expecting a nice and happy marriage.. so give her that !! and move on okk
2007-01-08 21:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by Princesa De Muerte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As another answerer has said, if you don't love your wife you should leave her so that she can find someone who does.
I don't think you really understand what love is when you say you want to 'get the best love' - love is something that grows between two people; it's not something you can 'get'.
You and your ex are being selfish and you are messing up 4 lives - your own and your partners. Leave them and get back together. You will probably make each other miserable in no time, but at least it will only be the 2 of you hurting.
2007-01-09 05:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say "our" but i only read about your feelings. and what you feel are her feelings. that is not the same as "our" feelings.
on that basis, i dont think you should rock the boat. you have also noted that she was the one who broke up the marriage in the first place, so she is not a reliable party. you, on the other hand, having suffered, would naturally prefer to reconcile.
of course, with people you should always give them a second chance cos they may have turned over a new leaf. if your ex has really stabilised (which i doubt since she is also in the process of betraying her current husband if this works out as you wish) and is truely only in love with you and not with her present husband, then you have a clear cut case to proceed, since you cannot love your current wife because you never cut the heart strings from your ex.
2007-01-09 05:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass might seem greener on the other side but beware of the thorns and thistles on the other side.
You need to learn to fall in love with your wife of 4 years. How long has it been since you've done something spontaneous with her? Think about the positive things that made you fall in love with her in the 1st place.
You've been married for 4 years. ===== Maybe you married 4 years ago not out of LOVE but loneliness!!
You need to quit focusing on the 2nd chance would've could've should've routine.
Your x wife probably is very happy in her 1 year marriage----and adding you into her equation isn't part of her place.
She probably is very much in love with her new husband....it's best you just let the dead dog lay .....
Think about your wife of 4 years if you're telling her that you don't love her!! Think about her feelings just for once! It would serve you right if she filed for divorce and took everything you owned in the process!
2007-01-09 06:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to be comimg in the the true world . ur ex has been a wife of some one be practical & understanding . don't let ur love come in them . her hubby muct be really loving her . let her live alone . Don't make her betratred her husband.
control ur self go away from her so that u can also be leading a good life
2007-01-09 05:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by dilu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shish Kebab.
2007-01-09 06:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by spud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant love your wife leave her and let someone else love her.
2007-01-09 05:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have no heart.
2007-01-09 05:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋