When it becomes to pre-marital sex, what are your perspectives?

Question

This is only for our Report in English Subject. Thanks to those who read this, and please answer it!! TIA

Answer 1

I feel that if two consenting adults are talking about marriage later anyway, it's fine. There were no formal marriage ceremonies in biblical times. It pretty much was like an agreement and exchange of property. The women had a dowery attached to them, meaning whomever is going to be with her, inherits her wealth. The men pretty much picked the virgin they wanted, and announced his intent, made the arrangements and they were together to reproduce. Nowadays, we have formal wedding ceremonies but all couples don't want to get married, nor see the need to, if they don't intend to have children together. You see, we marry for love today, and not to inherit property.
My personal perspective, is that I would rather be with a man who is with me without a piece of paper that says he has to be. He's under no obligation to stay. He's with me because he wants to be, and he loves being with me. A piece of paper/marriage license doesn't make a couple stay married, look at the high divorce rate. So premarital sex to me is fine, as long as it's with the one you intend to be with. Hopping around from person to person, shows no committment whatsoever. That virginal bride thing, is pretty much out the window these days, although, it's fine for some people. It's really according to an individual and their individual religious beliefs.

Answer 2

I (hypocritically) will answer this. (yes I had premarital sex) But knowing what I know now, am completely against it. I feel that when you have sex with someone before marriage, it is meaningless. Waiting to have sex shows commitment. Commitment to yourself for waiting to share something that special, with someone special enough, to wait for you. The wedding night isn't as exciting or special either, it ends up being more like a re-rum of the same old TV show. Waiting to have sex until you are married will also prevent an unwanted pregnancy before marriage or before finding the right person to be married to & have a child with. I think it greatly confuses a relationship because the sex takes more attention than really getting to understand your partner. Also with the promiscutiy of premarital sex run the risk of contracting an STD, which could affect your health & fertility. Why give yourself the headache. Abstain from premarital sex. I cannot think of 1 good reason for it! Hope that helps!

Answer 3

In hindsight, I wish I would have waited until I was married. It would have saved a lot of heartache!

And biblically speaking, that is the way God designed it.

Unfortunately everyone these days seems to be having sex younger and younger.

I think as long as you wait until you are older and in a committed relationship, you should be okay. But young kids sleeping around is just wrong. Unless you're ready to have a child, you shouldn't be having sex. That's just my 2cents on the subject!

Answer 4

Most every ones perspectives on this subject are too shallow to be considered valuable.
Think about it, do people run to the toilet all the time because it feels good to "go", or do they only go when it is time to "go".
The only time sex is safe, is when two people , who have never had sex before, get married(this means they are making a promise between themselves, God, and everyone else, that they care enough for each other to have an honorable life, with honorable children, [as opposed to bastards], and are not going to submit to anything less than the best of themselves for each other.

Answer 5

I believe in "True Love Waits". Waiting for marriage to have sex has far more benefits that not waiting. If both individuals have waited til marriage, just think, there'd be no subconscious worry about "comparisons" to former partners and there's pretty much a guarantee there'd be no worry of STD (granted neither had even had oral sex in the past). There'd be no regrets of past mistakes or wishing you could start over and do things differently.

Also, what an honor it would be to give your bodies to each other after the commitment of marriage - - - you'd have something new and exciting to discover, truly bonding your hearts as well as your bodies. I just think there's an extra special blessing in it if people waited. And I think that most people who DO wait for marriage never regret it, whereas there's plenty of people out there who have regrets for not having waited.

Answer 6

A recent study and survey by a university showed the majority of folks had sex before marriage. Now we all know this is the norm these days, but the interesting thing is they also surveyed all age groups and found it was common in the 1920's on etc. Also now days many many people live with their mate without ever getting married.

Answer 7

I think Pre Marital sex is okay.I am just someone who believes in the expression "You have to test drive a car before you buy it." I would HATE if I got married to someone and the sex is horrible.Sex is a huge part of marriage and if you are not satified with who you are having sex with then you are not going to have a strong marriage.

Answer 8

Premarital sex is wrong. It doesn't matter how old the individuals are, or how much they claim to love each other. Casual sex without commitment to the indvidual is destructive emotinoally, particularly for the female. Additionally, there is ALWAYS the risk of pregnancy, regardless of the method of birth control used. So premarital sex brings the risk of an unexpected and unwanted pregancy, meaning a child will be brought into this world without the kind of home he or she should have. And, we haven't even begun to address the issues of STD's.

For your report, an unequivical vote against it.

Answer 9

I come from an extreme end of the spectrum. To me ALL pre-marital sex is wrong. I don't care if somebody is in "love" if they're engaged, whatever. For me it's a combination of religion and what's smart. I'm a Christian and the Bible is clearly against pre-marital sex, and so I believe in abstinence until marriage. Also, all of this pre-marital sex is creating lives who are getting aborted or who are being raised in homes who aren't ready for kids.

Also, think about STDs and other stuff. And how awesome it would be to save yourself til the wedding night! You would feel a sense of accomplishment and self-pride! Kudos to everybody who makes it!!!

-My two cents.

Answer 10

I think people should wait until they are in a serious relationship or marriage, and I say serious relationship because some people do not believe in marriage. I am sick and tired of seeing people pregnant that are my age, and I am only thirteen! There are plenty of other things to do out there other than have sex and do drugs.