I know that life can be cruel, but how do I stop getting my feelings hurt and become emotionally stronger?

Answer 1

it's all in your mind. you know how to do this, you just haven't come to terms with the fact that it will be going against your nature to harden a little bit.
i used to be in your positi on. i used to be very softhearted and i used to care so much about other people that it tended to really affect my life sometimes. i sought out bad relationships b/c i thought i could help guys who, in reality, needed to help themselves.
i allowed criticisms at work to really hurt me instead of viewing them as simple speed bumps. i thought every little comment meant the end of the world, but i forgot to see that i still had a job and i still had a lot going for me, so i shouldn't let it bother me. i started to learn from my mistakes instead of allowing them to dominate my thoughts for days, weeks, sometimes forever...

so, i wouldn't be intent on shutting down the caring part of you, just practice putting things into perspective. things in life, unfortunately, are rarely personal. when we call that cell phone customer service rep and they shoot down any request we have for our bill to get fixed...well, it's not personal. they don't know you, they don't care, they are just doing their job. so, instead of getting upset, ask them "why" they can't do that. if you don't agree with the reason, then simply ask for a sup.

if a co-worker seems to be "mad" at you. don't worry about it all day. simply ask them, "hey, did i do something b/c i'm getting some bad vibes and i have no idea why. if it's me, please tell me, if not then can i help??"
that is being caring, but also mixed with the understanding that most people aren't too concerned with you and your feelings. sucks, but they just aren't. the sooner you learn that the easier it will be to practice not getting your feelings hurt.

it's hard, but it can be worth it b/c it will save you a lot of pain and heartache in the long run. you will start to see the world a little differently and realize that you are just one more spoke holding up the wheel and that sure, you matter, but not to everyone and vice versa.
don't stop being kind, just practice not letting things get to you so much. there's no real trick...just practice. mind over matter. instead of thinking the worst, think of the best. instead of allowing someone to drain you, only give them what you are willing to lose.

my grandfather always said that relationships of any kind are always you giving 60% and the other person giving 40%. that's how it should feel on both sides. you should be giving 60% and the other person should feel they are giving 60%, even though you may only feel they are giving 40%...get it?? b/c they probably only feel you are giving 40%.
life is rarely 50-50.

take care and remember that its all in your mind.

Answer 2

Yeah, you're right. Life can be cruel sometimes but then at the same time, life can also be great as well at times. It's just that we have to focus more often on the great side of things instead of the negative. At the same time though, the things that hurt you emotionally you deal with it either through taking a walk or talking to somebody you trust about it etc. but also never forget it as well because at least you know what hurts you and you can find ways to either avoid or prepare for the situation rationally so you won't feel that way again in the future. Hope this helps and is related to your question.

Answer 3

Your moniker "I Care" says it all. You will probably always get your feelings hurt, but I think you should be proud and focus on the fact that you are one of those rare individuals that are compassionate and sensitive. You are the kind of person that can make good changes in the world. I bet you always try to do the right thing. I think if you try to channel your emotions toward making positive changes in the world, you will be better able to deal with your emotions. Take comfort in the fact that you are a good person. Trust in God.

Answer 4

I was a very sad sensitive person, and i never felt strong enough to face the world until I found love inside through meditation.

I guess some would call it God's love...

Now I feel like - however bad things are in the outside world, on the inside i always have love, and that gets me through.

Answer 5

Stand up for yourself and be a man/woman and do not hang around people who make you feel that way. You can only be used or taken advantage of as much as you allow it. And stop feeling sorry for yourself. I am not being rude or cruel, but look out for yourself WITHOUT being selfish.

Answer 6

there is alot of things u can do to grow strong emotionally u have to learn how to think more positively and let the little things in life just roll off Ur shoulders. just keep telling yoUrself that ur strong and better then the rest, learn to love yourself and people will respond to the more positive u.
GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

All emotions are bad. You need to train yourself not to feel them. Giving way to emotion is the adult equivalent of not being potty tranied. Try Zen meditation or something similar.