Can't sleep wondering if he's lying/cheating. We stopped talking 2 other people. Atleast i did. A couple months later i found out he was still talking 2 girls. I confronted him about it & he lied, he even swore to God & everything. I had the proof that i needed 2 show him that i did know. So I broke it off. He swore & promised me he would stop all the calls, texts, pics, etc. So i took him back.
Now we just had a year 2gether in December. I love him & i get along great with his family, & my fam loves him 2. He was showing me his new phone the other day since he upgraded & i was looking thru his contacts & i got that same feeling as b4. He has names with just a letter E, or G, u know? Not spelled out. I wrote these #'s down 2 see if i can find out who they are. I don't just want to call these #'s or even ask him about them. But these #'s are cell phones, so how can i find out? He's talking about going 2 the next step but i need 2 know first. I'm going crazy & getting sick over this.
2007-01-08 21:29:31 · 7 answers · asked by QueenKika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
PLEASE HELP!!! I REALLY NEED SOMEONE TO HELP ME. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO AND THIS IS KILLING ME. I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.
2007-01-08 21:30:37 · update #1
He goes through my phone all the time, but i don't have anything to hide. We we started going out he erased all the guys numbers that i had. So i'm i the only one being freakishly controlling???
2007-01-08 23:24:32 · update #2
It could be that he's just hiding talking to girls, even though they're only friends. I think it's more likely that he's cheating, though, based on the fact that he's extremely suspiscious. I think it's called emotion transference or something when someone blames the other of doing what they are. in layman's terms, if your boyfriend starts accusing you of cheating (especially suddenly) he probably is cheating. as for lying, watch this video http://www.videojug.com/film/how-can-i-tell-if-someone-is-lying-to-me
and then hone in on him when you ask him if he's cheating. if all else fails, call the numbers. most of the time the girl won't even know he has a girlfriend (cheaters are slime that way) so she won't mind confirming that he's been cheating.
2007-01-09 07:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are smart. Boyfriends can be VERY good a lying. If I were you I would just call the number, if a girl answers then you know he's calling them. You can pretty much guess already that he is calling them because the name isn't spelled out which is an obvious give-away. I caught my boyfriend in several lies, but ONLY when I would search his phone after he went to sleep. If you don't trust him, maybe you should continue this behavior. I read online that you need to limit it however, tell yourself something like "If I don't find anything after I look 8 times, then I'll believe him" or maybe "I'll randomly look for 1 month, and if I don't find anything, I'll believe him"
I don't believe him, I'd call the numbers, and then confront him by saying "Look, I saw these numbers, who's numbers are they?" and if he says it's a guy, you can always say "whatever!! I called them and a girl answered"
Good luck, you're smart to not move to the next step until you find out for sure! I'm sure you could find other guys who get along with your family as well!
2007-01-09 05:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by natalie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get another cell phone, and text him a message pretending to be from another girl. But make sure the message says something sexy or ask him if he has a girlfriend, who knows he may text back, that way you will get your answer for sure, it's a bit sneaky but if there's no other way to find out the truth, why not, you got nothing to loose.
Or if you don't trust him, maybe leave him, just a thought!
Good luck!
2007-01-09 05:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't trust him! Why do you want all this drama in your life? You have made a poor choice in the mate department.
2007-01-09 05:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously DON'T trust him and have already chosen to believe he is cheating... Why bother trying to find evidence of his transgressions when you want to believe he is guilty...
Just dump him, that is what you want to do anyway... :D
2007-01-09 05:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with talking. Hes with you.
2007-01-09 05:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by JHAMAINE E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating and lying. as usual.
2007-01-09 05:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋