Hes loving, caring and affectionate but im always the one to initiate sex (once a week) and im sure it feels like a chore to him. Why is it like this?
2007-01-08 21:28:15 · 10 answers · asked by Flower Power 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he depressed or stressed out? Has he always been this way?
Sometimes too much stress or depression can lower down a man's libido.
2007-01-08 21:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by donna_nova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw a Dr. Drew segment this week concerning a lack of sex drive and 9 times out of 10 it's due to a physical problem. From diabetes to heart issues, a man's sex drive can be the first sign that there's something physically wrong with him. Before you start worrying about other issues, have him get a complete physical - with bloodwork and all - to rule out any physical conerns. If that all checks out fine, have a good heart-to-heart with him and ASK him what's going on. The answer may be a very simple one. Blessings...
2007-01-09 06:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a compromise; give & take. May be he is mentally depressed, thinking something always. Only such people can do like this. ANother thing, may be he is too shy to start. For few times you initiate continously, thrice a week or so. See the results. Then still same, consult a doctor. Try to become close to him mentally.
2007-01-09 06:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by meena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he this way, even in his 20"s? Some people are just not horny-natured people....some are. If he used to be, and now he's not, he could have some type physical, or mental ailment that has taken away his sex drive. If he is otherwise healthy, have him checked out by the doctor. A normal guy in his 30's ought to be "hot to trot"... I was! I was married to a "none" at the time.....makes for a frustrating life. Good Luck.....have hubby checked out.
2007-01-09 05:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is exactly the same, and has been through out our relationship. he just has a lower libido than i do. it is hard, because it is something that is rarely talked about in public, and it is really easy to feel alone... but i promise you that there are other marriages like yours.
my husband is wonderful, but it would be lovely if he initiated sex sometimes. but he just doesn't think of it.
having said that, it is possible that there are physical reasons for your husband's lack of libido, such as a lack of testorone or other similar things. or it might just be stress.
good luck.
2007-01-09 05:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just not attractive to him. Since he's a good husband except for this one thing why don't you have a frank talk with him about finding another woman to take care of this one part of the marraige and then you guys can be happy with the rest.
2007-01-09 05:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he have a physically demanding job? Maybe he's tired of the same thing over and over. Always try to spice it up! Maybe sexy lingerie? or Role play. I don't know. You should also have a talk with him about this and discuss possible solutions that both of you are comfortable with! Good luck!
2007-01-09 05:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by falala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, men peak and 18 or so, and from then on, their testosterone level declines. He should get checked out with a urologist, to have his testosterone level checked, and make sure everything is okay.
2007-01-09 05:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks u are ugly, but is a nice person and doesn't have the heart to tell u or cause all teh trouble of breaking up with u..... think about it!
2007-01-09 07:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he is every womans dream
2007-01-09 05:31:49 · answer #10 · answered by Wow! I have a pig nose! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋