Do you think the high divorce rate stems from people falling in love with a persons' potential?

Question

Instead of who they really are?

Answer 1

That may have something to do with it. People jump into marriage much too fast, and can get out of it much easier. Divorce used to be taboo, now it's common. Instead of people trying to work out the problems, they run from them. And of course they carry those problems from relationship, to relationship.

Answer 2

Or people's unwillingness to communicate and work it out like mature adults.

Or the ones who jumped into marriage cause of infatuation based on attraction and the 'halo effect' giving no regard to who the person is personally (in which this case the person's potential as you have stated).

Or the fact that the relation was based on sex in the first place or the initial thrill and fire of the 'stranger' they were attrracted to and suddenly later down the road they become complacent with each other, lose the fire, and suddenly they feel like the marriage is lost or changed and there's no love when in essence it's just they became 'USE' to each other and so suddenly they wanna 'find themselve's or get their fire back through someone else...cheat, and then divorce.

And lastly .....convenience....easier to divorce then handle an argument about dirty socks...or confronting your significant other about something they ASSUME is bad and then argue cause they can't tell the truth or loo for an answer so they break up cause it's so bad and there's no answer.

So....yea it can be the fallacy of the persons' potential as the model for mr./mrs. right...but it can be a number of things and cannot be biased.

Answer 3

you may be on to something there .
i think that overall the divorce rate is so high because the fabric of society is badly torn and even a TV show that has a married couple in a traditional marriage is becoming very rare.
i am sorry to say that i think not only will the divorce rate continue to be high the youth crime rate will rise along with it and the adult serious crime rate will become even worse.
did you know that right now 1/3 of all population total in USA is involved in the juridical system right now

Answer 4

No I don't think that is the reason for the high divorce rate.I think it is because people are lazy these days.They rather walk out on a relationship than put any sort of effort into it.They figure if this person won't give what I want when I want it someone else will.

Answer 5

i absolutely believe this to be so true. when i married my ex, he lived in a small mobile, had nothing, had been through a string of bad marriages and relationships, so in me he saw some sort of normal life with someone who had a home and a job, but as the years passed we ran into money problems, too over extended, and he became disenchanted with me. he met another woman who knew the same trade as him, so he left me to be with her, they began a business,he thought he would be better off financially, but today after the divorce, after it was all said and done, he now is back living in the same old mobile home, he pretty much has the same old life he had before. he only saw me as a person who could better his existence, a person who had potential. and when he got let down, because we are all human he walked out on me for someone else he thought had more potential, but looking back now, the joke seemed to be on him, because this other woman was looking for potential and financial stability to enrich her life too.

Answer 6

sorta, i think people fall in love with who they want the person to be. or else the mind is clouded with lots of hormones, and they can't think. maybe a bit of both.

Answer 7

Ya. I set my standards too high for my soon to be ex husband.

Answer 8

I think it is because we use the word "love" very loosely in our society now. People are not in love, they are in lust. Lust only lasts so long.

Answer 9

wow, id never considered that before, but it makes sense to me!

Answer 10

I prefer to phrase it as: "People see what they want to see, not what is."