2007-01-08 19:48:08 · 16 answers · asked by ladyrrux 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are in love with someone and you are willing to be his wife or her husband but after a twirling turn of events, you knew from your parents that you were arranged to marry a wealthy monarch of your country. Will you choose your present love or will you marry the monarch knowing that he/she can give you the luxury AND help your family finacially>
2007-01-08 19:51:54 · update #1
happiness is d most important thing in life not money.
money comes n goes in seconds.
ask urself who can make u happier??
is money everything or lov is??
4 me lov is everything..love is god!
2007-01-08 19:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by dgigf f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough decision. Has this person met the monarch and iis he a good person and could she be a part of his life? On the other hand if she is in love with someone and her parents will give her the choice then she will be the only one to know what the right thing to do is!
2007-01-09 04:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people , especially in the west do not understand clearly about arranged marriages. Many love marriages in countries where arranged marriages are prominant fail.
The explanation for this is fairly simple. The reason why arranged marriages work well in countries like India and so on, is because, there are pre-defined criteria on how a man or a woman should behave and certain roles and responsibilities are enforced by the society itself. Also in those countries, families are more united and they have a big influence in the couple's lives. Respect for elders, respect for advise from experienced people and family is enforced by the society itself. So a couple living to gether in such a society in midst of the families always live their lives by satisfying many intrinsic family and traditional values and social values (unlike western world, there in almost all cases, they are very independent ).
So a couple living in such an arranged marriage always think twice before they do something bad, or say something bad and think about the consequences which would affect their siblings and their traditions and their entire families. And that is why, there is much compromise , support by the family and trust established. And that is why many arranged marriages there are successful, because of the variations in the social structure.
This will not work as well, in the Western Coutries, where we do not have such structure.
Given that many in the western worlds think that in an arranged marriage anyone just pick anyones and just marry. It is not so. Many times, especially these days, both men and women are given the choice to see many such prospective families and look at their traditions and also to many levels about personality compatibilities and also for most part they seek their spouse from their own culture, relligion, traditions and so on, which makes a life a lot easier. Just a couple getting along in life is a challenge. And when religion, culture, traditions are varied, it takes a huge amount of work to keep things in place. Their society gets rid of some complexities , so marriages can last.
Many love marriages do not last as long as arranged marriages in those countries, because of the same issue. If the couple has a issue, there is no one to really help or advise, and they won't listen to in the first place. It's a fight between two, and who is to say among them, is wise?
There is love at first sight and then love formed because you completely understand a person. And arranged marriage usually has the second form of love. Beauty is only skin deep. Love at first sight is all about physical attraction , even before you know anything about the character of a person.
The more you get to know a person, the more you get along with your spouse and his/her families, the more everyone loves you, and love is built slowly in arrange marriage. And of course love alone doesn't feed a family. There is both financial and moral support given to the couple in many cases.
But that does not mean 100% of the couple in the arranged marriages are happy. There are always exceptions. Not everyone can get along with everyone in the family. But then again, that is where tradition and compromise and religious values give them the power to keep things together.
The reason these days there are issue in arranged marraiges more than the older times, is primarily because of loss in family values, and family and social unity, and where these countries become more Westernized and people become independent.
2007-01-09 04:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by thewiseone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-09 03:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lothario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if the people getting married arrange it.
2007-01-09 03:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by George B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your case, since you're already involved, I would say no. No disrespect for your parents, and not to be too Hollywood about it, but your life is the only one you'll live.
2007-01-09 03:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by diegomcnamara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that Love marriages are more successfull.
2007-01-09 03:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Priyanka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because it stands against the real concept of marriage
2007-01-09 03:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by lifeseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should marry who you choose, not who is chosen for you.
2007-01-09 03:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by newsoutherngirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... arrange marrage is not healty
2007-01-09 03:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋