including all Xmas presents. I told a friend what had happened to me on the day of the burglary & all she did was go on about a bloke she knew and how he'd found the love of his life! She did say hope everything goes well for me. A few days later, she left me a message on my mobile to say, "I've not had one Xmas card from the temp agencies and haven't been invited to their Xmas parties". There was no mention about my suffering, she never asked anything about my burglary, how I'm managing, if I need anything etc. Because I've had so much to sort out at home, I've not had a lot of time for her, as I've had to have emergency locks put on the front door and a load other stuff to sort. Now my friend left me another message saying, "I've not heard from you for a while. If you don't want any contact anymore, let me know". The thing is, she's full of herself and I haven't had the chance to keep up the 'friendship'. What should I do with her? It's like all or nothing with her from me.
2007-01-08
19:44:04
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Secretly, I don't really want to carry on the friendship.
2007-01-08
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update #1
Sorry to hear of your burglary - what a terrible thing to happen at any time of year, let alone christmas time. With the friend, I would have to tell her exactly where she's gone wrong. I would leave her a message along the lines of 'Sorry to hear you feel neglected by me but I'm afriad I've been a little busy of late due the fact I was BURGLED before christmas - I did tell you but you seem to not have heard. Have a nice life' xxxx It wont change things but I'd feel better getting it off my chest xxxx
2007-01-08 19:55:23
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answered by Anonymous
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This isn't a friend in the first place. A true friend would drop everything for you and simply BE there when they were needed..
Sometimes it's a hurtful lesson we learn, but then at other times, it's a blessing in disguise.
I honestly think you've been blessed !
I hope everything gets sorted out as far as the burglary goes....
2007-01-08 19:55:50
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answered by Kate 6
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sounds to me like a very selfish & full of her own self importance person. She will not care about anyone but herself & she has shown that big style with how she has been with you, If I were you I would tell her in no uncertain terms that you do not wish to carry on the friendship with her, reason being for her selfish attitude & actions during a very traumatic time for you.
I hope everything is alright for you now, you must have had a terrible time. I have been burgled before & its not pleasant at all is it.
2007-01-08 19:55:06
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answered by Denise W 4
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if you class her as a friend I shudder to think what your enemies would be like!!!!
Shes totally selfish and self centered and you can do way better for yourself - a true friend would have dropped all prior engagements to come and help you sort out your home.
I wouldnt even acknowledge her message about letting her know if you want to keep the contact up - why bother - you say yourself you dont want to stay friends so dont waste your time or money acknowledging her.
If she does persue you after you ignore her tell her straight out that shes been a useless mate and that you cant be bothered to make the effort anymore. then go out and make REAL friends for yourself! good luck -xx
2007-01-08 20:23:10
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answered by Anonymous
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It is only when you encounter difficulties in your life that you find out who your friends REALLY are.
You have just learned an important lesson about life.
Sorry about the burglary: it has probably affected you on an emotional level, much more deeply than you realise yet. Don't be in too much of a hurry to dump friends at a time like this.
what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger.
2007-01-08 19:48:41
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answered by Not Ecky Boy 6
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She is focussed 100% on herself.
Just stop the contact, she's not a friend at all.
I'm not really good with talking to people I know (that's why I like it here) and a lot of my friends are more helpful than I am to people who need help, but just for a comparison - if you were my friend, I would at least offer to help with phone calls and getting things organised to make your place secure, and maybe offer to make you dinner.
And if you don't contact her and she is ready to drop you like stone for not calling her. Just move on and be happy you have one less person like that in your life.
2007-01-08 20:03:47
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answered by Anna K 3
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your "friend" is very self absorbed, and for her everything will always be about her. I know i've had friends like this where it seems like all they talk about is themselves and when your in need it's not important to them. Since you already know you don't want to be friends with her anymore either ignore her from now on, or just tell her that you don't want to stay in contact with her.
2007-01-08 20:26:39
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answered by Angel_Face 2
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answered by kleckner 4
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She sounds very self absorbed and self centred. You would be best to just be honest with her as you break off your friendship with her saying you couldn't be more hurt by her lack of concern about your situation. If it had been her you would have......etc.......and do it nicely and finish by saying I am trying to get over this and I don't need any reminders of it and I'm afraid any time I think of you it makes me very emotional as you have hurt me deeply.
2007-01-08 19:51:15
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answered by Confuzzled 6
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Dont call her ever again who needs friends like that what a cow u are better off without her babes trust me, good luck to hun xx
2007-01-08 20:06:03
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answered by Mea 2
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