Is it true that when a guy befriends a girl, it means that he's also attracted to her? Even if nothing happens between them? Sometimes I wonder if girls and guys can JUST be friends without one or both feeling attracted to the other. Most of the guys I've been friends with I've felt attracted to, though knowing that I wouldn't want to pursue a relationship, even if I had the opportunity to.
So, what do you all think about this? Can they or can't they?
2007-01-08 19:39:31 · 16 answers · asked by mikey19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well I think that if there wasn't any attraction, people probably wouldn't be friends with each other. Just think, having a preppy person hanging out with a Gothic person, does that mix? No because there is no attraction in a friendship way. But of course you have those types of people that are friends with everyone, because they like to look beyond the looks. They're is also different types of attraction, physical, emotional, "personality", and intellectual. Being physically attracted to someone is most akin to sexual attraction. Emotional attraction, is when your attracted to the way the person carry's themselves. Then intellectual attraction is being attracted to a person's intelligence, which arises from the need to bread smarter humans. This is a primitive instinct and most basic but not necessarily the strongest. In conclusion you have many different types of attraction to look at.
2007-01-08 20:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by natali3x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times its true that a guy befriends a girl after being attracted to her but doesn't sum up the courage to move on to next level of relationship. Thats when they remain as good friends because they feel comfortable in each others company. If they had been seeing each other and later on decide to be friends. Its never gonna happen that way. It only ends in a disaster.
2007-01-08 20:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by modi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a instantly guy who occurs hence far and love ladies who like ladies too. i comprehend, there's a experience of getting to attend to him falling for yet another guy in case you 2 grow to be intimate. that could want to damage more effective than you comprehend.you're literally not being hesitant for no reason. It takes a dedication on his section that he's by no ability commonplace(being with a lady), and he and also you may communicate it over. i imagine you may also attempt to work out if he's attracted to you. tell him you pick to work out if he's grew to grow to be on by way of you;then without asking, commence rubbing his groin. If he receives an erection, i imagine there's a actual chance you 2 might want to have an staggering affair. yet do not imagine of it as a affirmation for a courting. he's no longer likely to offer up yearning for a dude.
2016-12-28 12:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I have tried to brainwash myself into believing this, I don't think that it is highly probable. It can happen in a few off chances, but its usually because one person has a mate already and is committed to them, or one of the people is attracted to members of the same sex.
I have friends, but I have either had an attraction for them in the beginning, in the middle, or at some point in the relationship. It is only natural for feelings to grow when you are truly friends with someone. In essence the person you want to settle down with (if you choose to settle down) is usually the person you will consider one of your closest friends... if not best friend.
2007-01-08 19:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Absolutely they can be just friends. My best friend of 20 years is a male and our relationship is based on trust, unconditional love, support of each other, lots of laughter and tears and total commitment to being friends. We have completely separate lives but it works. Incidently I have been married to someone else for 11 years and he's been fine with my best friends prescence in our lives. I guess it all depends on ones motives and the basis for the friendship - if its for the right reasons it can work, if there are underlying/hidden reasons then I guess once the surface is scratched you'll end up disappointed.
2007-01-08 19:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by kfraserseeto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that is possible from a man's standpoint. Men are just made to pursue women naturally and at some point the guy will become interested in more than friendship in nearly all cases.
2007-01-08 20:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by Roaddogg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe they can, I have a male friend who I have been pals with for years, there has not been one uncomfortable moment between us. We have always just been friends and we were flatmates too, we used hang out everyday, have fun, go to the pub, clubs, bands, everything.
All of our friends though always thought something was going on, but they only thought that because they couldn't understand how or why we could hang out with each other so much, we just got along so well, like forest gump and Jenny!
2007-01-08 19:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Glad you should ask. I'm going throught hat very same thing. I'm a Male, by the way. And I've got a lady Friend, that swears I'm wantin' some. But I just wanna show her that she's much better than she thinks she is. some Guys, aren't always Horney. The ones that you wanna be around. Are more respectful.
2007-01-08 19:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think so. I have a lot of friends who are girls and for me it is not more than a friendship that I'm Happy to have with them. some times friendships leads to a different kind of relationship because both sides are have some kinde of felling toward each other.
for me I think nothing is better than having a good friendship with someone regardless if of their sex.
2007-01-08 20:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by edo a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they can be just friends. I know a lot of nice guys that I could never be attracted to in that way.
2007-01-08 19:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋