I'm married and have 2 kids and my hubby is 32 and his 10 years my senior. I just sometimes don't understand him, but who am I really to complain. I bet he sometimes can't understand me either...lol...
Any of you guys feel the same way with your spouse? Do you just wake up to your senses that even though you are pissed at him so much that you feel like you want him kicked out of your house so came to realize that everything else is just passing and everything will be back to normal?
2007-01-08 18:59:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, we are on our 3rd year of marriage. I know it's a long way to go, I intend to keep my marriage.
Regarding my nickname, it's basically a intimate thing between my and my husband.. lol....
I do love him so much and my kids, there are just time that I hate him so much that I tend to be physical. I think its more of a roller coaster ride on my end. Today its fairy tale, next thing you need it feels like you both are gonna start world war 3. Its crazy but funny also.
2007-01-08 19:31:01 · update #1
oopps, sorry by the way for the wrong grammar. Wasnt really double checking on my composition. Hope you just undestood it. In a way that is.......
2007-01-08 19:40:27 · update #2
oopps, sorry by the way for the wrong grammar. Wasnt really double checking on my composition. Hope you just undestood it. In a way that is.......
2007-01-08 19:40:30 · update #3
You seem very mature for 22! You don't say how long you've been married? I've been married almost 9 years. The first years were wonderful, but these past few years have been very tough. I definitely feel that I am not understood or listened to more than 1/2 the time! However, I do feel that I understand him! Lately, I feel like I've "woken up" so to speak and seem to be able to analyze the whole situation a lot better. A big thing that has happened is that I've grown personally, spirit ally, etc. and I don't think he has. We're on different levels right now and I've thought about divorce more than once. It seems like every time we speak to each other, there's a misunderstanding and we argue because I feel he's NOT listening or HEARING me. Anyway, that's my marital bliss for ya!
2007-01-08 19:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering your name here is shedevil, are you sure the blame all lies with him?
Do you work? My wife doesn't, she is a stay at home mom, and goes about her day of taking care of the house and kids while I go about my day of making a living, keeping a roof over our heads and food on the table. Both stressful jobs. Maybe you both need to do the others job, or at least put yourselves in each others place, and maybe you will get a new appreciation for the other.
The age difference thing is probably a factor too. I am now 50, and I remember going through stages as I got older. Things don't stay the same, you have grow and change together.
2007-01-08 19:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very young and need help and therapy. You are operating out of disrespect and probably had that fanned by other women around you also behaving disrespectfully towards their men. I did the same thing when I was 22 and married. It nearly cost me my marriage. Years and years later I picked up a book called LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs which told me that all men want from their wives, is good old respect and that all women want from their men is love. WHen those two elements are lacking in a relationship then everything goes completely crazy. The wife gets disrespectful because she gets no love. THe husband goes quiet and cold shoulders the wife and because she shows him no respect he immediately cuts off the love firstly because shes standing on his air hose. Thats not healthy at all. Your comment clearly shows me you have lost respect for your man because you think he doesnt love you. Now try something that works! Start behaving respectfully towards him. Did you know that God clearly commands men to love their wives and commands wives to respect their husbands because mostly neither do what they are meant to do. He doesnt have to earn your respect. You are commanded to give it so do it. Change your thinking from anger mode to safe mode. Choose to rectify the situation and you will get all the love you need. I cannot tell you all that the book says because this will become too long, but I urge you to buy that book and also find one called WILD AT HEART by John Eldredge. Both books are written by American people and are excellent. THese books brought me to sober mode and have brought love and respect right back into our relationship with the result that we are so happy together and people can actually see it too. It can happen for you. Its up to you. Choose to do the right thing before the crazy mode smashes everything to pieces, because it is spinning out of control. Get off the spinning cycle and all it requires is choice. You have to become accountable to one another and act with dignity and integrity. I hope you will listen to good advise.
2007-01-08 19:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I never have been so pissed that I would want to kick him out of the house... But in some very rare moments, he CAN be trying; the funny thing is, he himself never yells or raises his voice, and seldom acts irritated. But he can certainly drive me to yell at him, just by being all calculating and logical! LOL Of course, this rationality and cool-headedness is exactly what I love and admire in him. Even in the middle of the fight, the irony if this does not escape me.
2007-01-08 19:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a state where in two individuals who think who have perfect compatibility, are in love, understand each other come together. but after marriage all this disappears. Coz u actually start staying together and thats when you reality strikes on you. There are only two options after marriage
1. Compromise n move on with that life.
2. Divorce and start afresh.
2007-01-08 19:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Maharaja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No two individuals can be 100% compatible. Haven't you ever fought with your parents, siblings, friends?
Before marriage it's a compromise & after marriage it's a sacrifice that keeps it going.
2007-01-08 19:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by Vik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course everyone feels like screaming :-) But it sounds like you have the right ides--it will pass and it will go back to normal--that is because you really do love him --and that's good thing--you and he will celebrate your 25 and possibly your 50th anniversary
2007-01-08 19:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband is erroneous for asking her to restoration the blinds formerly taking off the window for air. The instant undertaking replaced into that cool air mandatory to come again in. So, after the homestead has cooled off somewhat, the husband can get off his Lazy Boy and fasten the blinds himself.
2016-10-30 10:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrige is hard work..theres lots of understanding needed.
2007-01-08 19:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sonu G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrige is hard work..theres lots of understanding needed..and sometimes you need your own space.
2007-01-08 19:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋