Icaught my husband red handed, cheating....now he says its over but is not the same with me....what should i d

Answer 1

LEAVE HIM!! you can do so much better. If you stay with him you will always remeber the lady he was with and you will always feel like crap. Its just not worth it. You will start to question yourself..are you not pretty enough...are you not good enough...what does she have that I dont...NOT OKAY! You are so much better that this and I dont even know you! Run and run fast, there is someone better out there for you that will treat you like a queen

Answer 2

There are several things you'ddo well to consider ...

When a Mate is Unfaithful :
- Infidelity--Its Tragic Consequences
- Is Reconciliation Possible?
- The Option of Divorce
- Meaningful Support
- Why Some Stay Together
- Who Is Responsible?
- Children Do Not Deserve Divorce
- Does God Hate All Divorce? http://watchtower.org/library/g/1999/4/22/article_01.htm

That series of articles covers a lot of territory.

Its URL will likely be modified soon, whereafter the Advanced Search at http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm will find the new URL.

Answer 3

Well my boyfriend cheated too and I was very upset and left him. But since then I cant live without him, So I started talking to him again and for now we're just friends and working on creating a better relationship, Im still upset but cant rewind time and I know he's sorry. But if your husband isnt worth it leave him.. He aint good enough for you and you know you deserve better. Maybe once you leave him he'll know he had a good person and like they say "you never know what you got till its gone".So he'll realize he needs you and come back.. Well good luck hun. Wish you the best!

Answer 4

He initiated the break up/divorce could be 2 reason:

1: He is too ashame of his deed and to avoid all the shouting and crying and guilt, he calls quit.

2: He is sabotaging this relationship, its his plan for you to catch them.

You don't want a break up,why? You should sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk with him. Be calm, in that way your emotions will affect your logic thinking.

PS: Such man, it's better u move on, girl, be strong!

Take Care

Answer 5

ok call me stupid, but i believe that if two people want it to make it work it can. You have to decide if he's worth it or not-since you married him i am assuming he is. there is a reason he cheated and the two of you need to figure out what that was and work on it. no matter what it is not your fault. do no blame this one yourself. if you neglected him in some fashion he should have told you instead of cheating. most of the time people cheat because the person they are with are not giving them what they need and i dont mean just sexually-please don't think i am putting this off on you=i just trying to explain in a wierd way. i think your marriage is worth trying to save IF and ONLY IF he is willing to help you save it. you can't save it by yourself. you should try but it's gonna take him too.

Answer 6

Chances are once he cheated, he will do it again. He disrespected you and what you meant to him. I believe in second chances, but that is for you to decide. Things will never be the same because the trust isn't there anymore. Try marriage counseling, if that doesn't work... i'm sorry to say, but you should talk to a divorce lawyer.

Answer 7

Talk to him, discuss why he did it but do your best to not get totally pissed off. If you do, he'll automatically become defensive and things will go nowhere but downhill. Let him prove to you he can do better but raise the bar high. Give him a chance. Who knows, the experience may end up making the bond between you two stronger.

Answer 8

You caught him cheating and he says it's over even though you don't feel that it's over. Well, tighten up your boot straps, just calmly walk to the door, open it up and tell him to get out because he was the one cheating and he said it was over. Tell him good bye, ta ta
I realize it may be difficult but just do it anyway. Try to be strong and not give in to the slightest temptations he might throw your way because he may try to beg for your forgiveness to get you back. If he doesn't, you don't need him anyway because if he couldn't tell you up front that your relationship wasn't working and you had to see it in the harshest way, he ain't worth sh*t.
Believe me honey, you'll find your way.
If you need to talk, you got my email and IM

Answer 9

Let him go, its a male ego he'll come running back as soon as he think you are looking for someone else to take his place,it really something how you can caught the male cheating and he gets mad and quit you like you were the one that got caught cheating(MEN)!!can't live with them can live with out them.

Answer 10

Well i will say keep him if you want to sleep with him and who ever else he is with!.OLD SAYING ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!! I went trew that in my first marraige and he never stoped i was young and stupid .He has no right to play with you and your heart.Do you have kids????If you do you showing your son or girl this is ok. Girl look at your back do you see welcome written on it????If you stay then you are a welcome mat and he will keep wipeing his feet on you and is it worth it?????Now if my #2 husban did that to me he would be gone no i no way would i put up with that NOR SHOULD YOU GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!!!!