My boyfriend hs diebieties (age 30) and I am worried coz he does not take care of himself. He accepts that perhaps I'll take care of him once v get married, but I am somewhow reluctant to marry him now as I can't be a full time housewife.I hav a career & I can only lead horse to water ,I can't make him drink water.So I think if I'll marry him,I'll hav to suffer a lot. He is very emotional type and takes a lot of stress.I love him also but can't decide what to do.
2007-01-08 18:28:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let him know your worries.
let him understand that unless he has a few millions in his bank acc right now which will allow you to be a full time housewife, you will suffer.
and ask he what if his conditions worsen... say *TOUCH WOOD* he has to amputate his legs... will he be able to live with it? you can only care this much for him... but you will never be able to feel his pain when complications set in.
prevention is better than cure.
but if he does change for you... and you still cant decide, then you have to ask yourself... is he the one for you?
my husband has diabetes too. if he loves you, he will understand your worries and will take extra care of himself.
furthermore, diabetics can lead a normal life as well if extra care has been taken into dieting, lifestyle and exercising.
all the best
2007-01-08 18:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by alibaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have he had it? Diabetes is no JOKE. My oldest sister died of complications from it, she was in her late 20's early 30's. She had it since she was little.
I do understand where you are coming from when you are bothered by the fact he's not taking the responsibility for his own health, try not to turn your back on him. If you truly love him, helping to take care of him shouldn't be a second thought.
Honestly, love can be a bummer (4 lack of a better word beginning with b). A person will put their health on the line just to try to keep someone they love from leaving. I watched my sister do it. Countless diabetic comas this is not to say they all were because of her ex but some where in my opinion.
I truly hope you and your boyfriend find the answers you two are looking for. I hope I didn't scare you I am just letting you know what the disease can do to a person in love and who hasn't accepted it.
2007-01-08 19:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all it doesn't sound like you are ready or sure to get married with this man. I'm not going to tell you to marry him or not, but I do think you should hold off on a wedding date for now. He needs to start taking care of himself right now, not when you are married. Talk to him seriously and explain to him to change for the better for himself. If he doesn't change then I would suggest for you to analyze your relationship.
2007-01-08 18:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood sugar problems can lead to a host of other issues--medically and mentally--too much to list. Sounds as if the choice will be difficult but if he won't help himself, you cannot do it for him, Sad to say---move on.
2007-01-08 18:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then go ahead & marry him. No human being is free of disease. One day or the other we all have to die. But what matters is how we live our life.
2007-01-08 20:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Cave Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a rough position. All i can say is sometimes we make sacrifices for the ones we love...
2007-01-08 18:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Vince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what matters in love it is nothing to do with love
2007-01-08 19:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sonu G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he dont tak care of himself dont marry hime becouze,he will not satesfay you,
2007-01-09 19:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by abomomeen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in sickness and in health, richer or poorer, better or worse, til death do you part.
2007-01-08 18:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your life is not good with him. you can consider
2007-01-08 19:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋