I separated from my husband because of domestic violance while I was six months pregnant. This happened about three months ago and I am due next month. Can I give my newborn my last name or am I obligated to use his last name?
2007-01-08 18:24:10 · 19 answers · asked by angelica_164 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You should talk to your husband about the name; it is his child too.
2007-01-08 18:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can give that child any last name you want. I have a friend who's husband's ex-wife gave the child his last name eventhough they have been divorced for over a year. (It's not even his kid) as for putting his name on the cirtificate that is up to you. If he wants to he can have a paternity test done and have a judge legally put his name on the birth cirtificate, but if he does I would make him pay child support and have supervised visit's if the judge grants vistation rights, you need to file a police report if he ever tries to abuse you again to show that he is a dangeous person and shouldn't be left with the child alone.
2007-01-09 03:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by diana h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're never obligated to give you're child his last name. Really you can give the baby any name you want. This is a personal decision. There's nothing wrong with either way you go. Good luck on being a mommy!
2007-01-09 02:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by mizzgov_08 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can give your child a random last name out of the phonebook if you want to. you are under zero obligation to give your baby his last name. but you may have to list him on the birth certificate. for example, in VA, if you are still legally married, your husband would be listed as the baby's father.
2007-01-09 03:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by mommy2evan05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, whoever told you to talk to the father (magick), is out of their mind. If your husband is abusive to you, he will abuse your child. He lost his rights as soon as he hit you. You may choose whichever last name you want, but please, unless your husband considers counseling, do not go back. No parent has a right to their child as long as they are abusive and the courts will agree. Feel free to name the child using your own last name. Good luck and enjoy motherhood.
2007-01-09 02:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by lynzr21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should give him an ultimatum. I gave my son's father a choice; either be there while I give birth to our son, or if not, I won't give him your last name. He didn't go. So he's not on the birth certificate nor does our child have his last name. Let me tell you, he regrets it like no other. But really, it's all up to you. If I were you, I'd give the kid your last name. I mean, the father has hurt you enough. He doesn't deserve the honor of passing his name on to your child. Hope this helps..
2007-01-09 02:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can use your name if you like, and you dont have to put his name on the birth certificate. If he beat you, hes not grown up enough to be a father. Do yourself a favor and get yourself and your baby away from him. hes not going to change.
2007-01-09 02:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom was seprated from my dad when I was born and I had my mom's last name. My mom and dad did get back together and they gave me my dad's last name. You are obligated to put down the baby's father but you dont have to give the baby the dad's last name.
2007-01-09 02:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by nashvillekat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no. I give my kids my last name. He may want it hyphated.. but why would you be obligated to give his name.. it is all about equal rights now... women don't take the man's name anymore all the time.. and the kids can be whatever you want.
2007-01-09 02:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can give your baby your name. And you can put "decline to state" for the father, although that doesn't remove his parental rights.
2007-01-09 02:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can give the baby either last name. however, you will have to put your husband down as the father, un less you can prove otherwise
2007-01-09 02:30:53 · answer #11 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋