I moved in with a guy that was suppose to marry me.?

Question

I moved in with a guy that was suppose to marry me. I quit my job, sold everything. He even wanted me to have his child. I thought wow I meet the right guy. I got pregnet but things got wierd. I found out that he was talking to another woman then it got to be more. I found out he cheated on me with this person while I was pregnet. He said it was all my fault he now admits that he is seeing her after he broke up with me and now wants to get part custody of our child so he can stay with her and have overnights there with our son. I am having such a hard time dealing with it all. How could he do this to me? Why would he put our son in this atmosphere? Can he take him over to her house for overnight stays? I also found out from his ex girlfriend that this woman sounds like the one who he cheated on her with.... Why wouldnt he just date her after ending the relationship with that one? I dont get it. Why did he want a child with me when he has never had one?

Answer 1

I am awfully Sorry that you have to go thrue this. I actually had the same thing happened to me, only I have lost my Baby.
You need to understand, that this Guy is not worthy your time and efforts. You have done everything you could have done to make this work. The sad thing is that now you have that Baby in the middle of this. I can relate towards your feelings to both of the father of your child and the cheapho that got in the way of your Realationship and of course your little cherup who needs you very much.
Hounestly, If it would have not been her- there would be another one in her place. Either way, their Realationship is gonna go the same way that your's did, down the Dumps. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
In regards to where he is going to bring the Baby during "His" weekends, I don't think that there is anything you could do. I am sorry. Unless you know that there is Druguse or any other form of Safety concerns for your Baby, there is nothing you could do. I am wondering, if you would only make it worse for your little one to cause a lot of anxiety around him? I am also wondering how much of a visitation-time he could have if you Nurse your Baby?
I assume it could be a little less, since you got to do what you got to do, Right?
I am so sorry because I really do relate to, how you feel.
Things will get better, even thou you might not see it yet.
Everyone used to tell me that every bad thing that happens to you in Life will have a good Reason. And I admit, I hated hearing this over and over again. But you know what, it is true.
You already have your good Reason, your little Guy!
The best of Luck to you and that baby.
I hope you don't mind, if I keep you and your Baby in my prayers.

Answer 2

You'll never know some of the answers but as the father yes he has the right to have his child sleep at her house. There are many reasonings but the bottom line is he is a jerk. He obviously isnt very good with commitment and perhaps he has a fear, he runs, he leaves-some men always do that. Pray he is a better father than a bf and try to move on and dont waste time thinking about him. You and your child are the most important thing now and always.

Answer 3

seems as if you need to get written documentation of this man's actions--the courts might deny any visits or strict rules at least---GOD what a creep but we all know they are out there--sorry about all this.Me? I would give him the kid permanently---let himraise it. I know you don't agree but I would give him the kid and never want to see it again. The baby is an innocent party here--don't do anything to hurt the baby because it reminds you of him. It does happen--I just thought I'd mention it. I read loads of stories like yours--never could figure how people get involved with these men..I urge you to seek legal council as soon as possible....it is the only way to do it. The baby will only be a baby for a little while, hopefully you can get it settled quickly so you can get on with your life. I really wish you the best of luck

Answer 4

First question that comes to my mind is, Can this girl have
children? Maybe that's why he did what he did. I hope this
isn't the case, but I heard of worst things. But to get to the issue
maybe things weren't the same when u moved in and it just
plain fell apart. But now u have a child and u both have to do the
responsible thing and deal with the child. Look at it this way
when u find Mr. Right he will have to deal with this too!

Answer 5

I'm sorry, but nobody truly has the answers but him. Just accept that he was a scam artist and do the best you can to move on. I guess you need to speak with his ex about testifying in a custody case if you feel it's necessary. If there was any way I could assist further, I would. It's truly a shame to see anyone go through that, and I wish you the best.

Answer 6

Maybe his slutty side woman can't have children so they decided to ruin your life and steal your son away from you. Ya never know. Or she got tired of him and left him then when she found out that he was with you she took him back again. I'm really sorry about what happened to you. That really sucks. I would fight it as much as you can so he can't see his kid. I guess next time don't move in with a guy unless you are married. That's always the best bet.

Answer 7

You will probably never answer any of your whys so don't waste your energy on that jerk and lose any tears on him even though it hurts. He is a dog and thinks he can get away with sleeping around, what goes around comes around, so Hold your head up high and be there for your son.
He does have rights as a parent so try and have as friendly as possible relationship with him for your son.
Its so hard on kids when they feel they have to chose a side. Best of luck.

Answer 8

I don't feel sorry for you one bit....... Girls like you make me sick.... you always claim that you want that "perfect guy" and you always go for the biggest losers..... You should have been able to see right through a jerk like that...... The question you should be asking is " why am I such a loser and go for scumbags all the time?"

Answer 9

Go seek help from the woman charters. I am sure they will help you find ways to get compensation for your son. No mercy for him. He obviously has no 2nd thoughts about you and your son.

I am a guy and I find this guy really sick.

Answer 10

sad...

sorry to hear you are mixed up with this person......

sorry, no advice available.

when your done crying, get your things together, get what education you can and take care of you and your son... it will be tough... but learn to stand on your own, you don't need people like him, and hold him liable for the expenses, child support etc..