im 13 and i love kids, and i want to be pregnate, CALLING ALL MOTHERS?

Question

i love kids i love kids soo much, i young and i want to have a kid of my own, i watch my sisters kids, but the more on around kids i just want to have one, is there anything you could tell me that haveing a kid is something i should do when im older, plz tell me how birth gos, PLZ ALL MOTHERS TELL ME ALL THE BAD THINGS ABOUT HAVING A KID

Answer 1

If you love kids then wait until you are able to be a responsible adult before becoming a mother. Your time and energy is not your own. There is time to become a Mother, but you will be a better Mother if you wait until you are physcially more mature and financially stable. The first step to becoming a good parent is knowing when you are not able to provide the best life for your child. Your parents and the government are not a sound financial plan on taking care of your child.

And do you think it's fair to some teen boy to have you decide YOU want to have a child?

Wanting a child and acting on those feelings are two seperate things. If you wait until your older you will have time with your child and less worries about money, etc. Then if you wait until you are fully ready.

Answer 2

I'll be kind and tell you that at 13 years old you are still a kid yourself. The truth is your body, nor your utereus are not developed fully. This, in itself, is more than one reason not to have a child yet. Save this nobel ambition for when you are older and can conceive a child safely.

Birth can be a very painful and/or complicated process. Babies do not just slip out like a bar of soap. Also, since you are not fully developed yet, you have a high risk of serious complications. There are agencies to help, but since you are only 13 you are completely underage and you would need your parents or guardian to go with you. There isn't a facility in this country that would assist you in conceiving a child at your age.

I know what it is to love children, and want them so desparitely. I could only have two, but wanted more. Even in my late 20's I was high risk and had serious complications. Then, I wasn't able to have any more. However, God gives us a time and a place for everything. He didn't mean for children such as yourself, to bare that burden. It's very hard on the body, uses your calcium and so forth. Even my daughter-in-law said she would only have one. Birth defects could also be an issue. 13 just isn't an age to have children. Be wise and collect the wisdom from those who know, and you'll be much better off for it.

Answer 3

Please whatever you do ... DO NOT GET PREGNANT at your age ... or even when U R in your teens.
You still have a lot of growing up to do. You may be smart, but you are not mature ... maturity only comes with age, and learning about life more. And don't you want a father for your children?
Wait until you can have a meaningful and secure relationship before you think of having any children.

When you are with your sister's kids you enjoy being with them, but they are not your 24/7 responsibility. There's a lot more work and obligation in raising children than you might think.

Also at your age, or even a little older ... you are still not old enough to take care of them finanacially. You need to finish your education so you can get a good job and be able to pay for the things you will want to give your children and for the things they will need.

In the meantime, enjoy your sister's children ... get babysitting jobs if you want to be around kids more.
BUT UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES should you be having children anytime soon.

Answer 4

When you are older like you said...Once you have a kid you have a permanent "beeper" on your side 24 hours a day seven days a week for the rest of your life. This will never stop. The responsibility will never stop. Being a mom will never stop until you die. You will deal with diapers, throw up, colic, and possibly a baby born with downs syndrome or Autism which is 1 in 166 babies not to mention any plethora of other things which will be something you must adapt to. THINK before you start! It isn't all roses. I am not doing this to scare you but to make you think. You cannot just put a baby in a closet when you done "playing" with it. It is a full time job in and of itself. Please think about these things and ponder what it is and that is a LIFETIME commitment and I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Answer 5

First you could end up with morning sickness, vomiting for 3-9 month straight.

You'll keep going to the dr. every month, then twice a month, then every week. Each time you get a bill for between $30-$100. (do the math..thats like $450-$1300 just for dr. visits) (and at 13 years old you would need someone to drive you to all your appointments) that doesn't count all the tests you have to have. Like when they draw blood or you get tested for diabetes, the test are like $100-$200 a pop. Then your belly gets all big & you could get these big purple marks better know as "streach marks" all over. And most of the time they don't go away after the baby is born.

You start to price strollers & car seats & all the gear you need and see how much it all costs.(Check out babiesrus.com)

Your boobs get big too (sound good, huh?) until they get strech marks too!

You go to your "Labor & Delivery" class, which costs like another $200-$300. Only to find out where that 8 or so pound baby is going to come out of. You learn just how big 10 cm's really is, and you still have no actuall understanding of the pain that is LABOR!

You get uncomforatble, no clothes fit, not even your shoes. You could get hemorrhoids at this point. ( Look it up if you don't know what it is!)

Then you go in to labor & you feel that pain and pressure and the doc says," Your doing great! Only like 14 more hours to go." You might choose pain medication at this point...That is called an epidural...Where they stick a needle into your spine and then insert a tube through the needle into you spine which they pump medcine through the rest of the time you are in labor, then you have to have a cathetar (so you wont pee all over yourself!) When you actually get to push the baby out you might poop a little...It normal though. Your boby & baby might also think, on its way out, that 10 cm's is just not big enough so you either tear or get a episiotomy ...(that is where they cut the skin between your vagina & anus to allow more room). Yeah you get a new baby & lots of stiches!

That is just the 9 1/2 month of pregnancy. You (not your mom or dad or grandparents or teachers or daycare) are now responsible for that child for a min. of 18 years. That means paying for it, loving it, cleaning up poop & puke & pee & messy rooms. That means driving them to school, or to Dr.s appointments. That means putting them through college & raising them to not be "trouble makers".

I love my son! I was 22 when I had him, I have matured even more since having him...Although you will never be fully prepared, you can give yourself a head start by letting your body mature, by becoming a responsible adult & learning about love. Wait, then when you are ready then, have a ton of babies & love them as much as you can!

Answer 6

Your life as you know it will end, your body will change and never go back, its hard, pregnancy, labor, birth, KIDS, all of it, you're not old enough chronologically or in terms of maturity, no one would think its a good idea to have a baby at 13, even conservative right wingers, don't have a baby you'll regret it forever, you'll miss out on social funtions, prom, college. and just being a kid yourself. Get into some therapy, usually when young teens "want" a baby its because they just want o be loved unconditionally by someone who depends on them. How would you support it, financially or emotionally. Having a baby at 13 is selfish, you can't give this baby anything it will need, no amount of love you can give it will ever be enough not to permenantly ruin the child's life.

Answer 7

Oh where do I start? How about the age factor here? You are only 13! You cant even spell, so I know you will be in the welfare line. At 13 you cant even get a work permit to have a job. Babies use 50+ diapers a week, which is more than your allowance can afford. I seriously believe you are iso love, your not getting from home. Yeah say you babysit for your sister, and you love it? Of course you do, when your sistere comes home, you get to leave. Kids are a full-time job, at 13years old your not ready for such a commintment.

Answer 8

Your 13 so I assume you are still in school and do not have a job yet. How are you going to support a child and buy diapers, clothes, bottles, etc? Focus on getting a good education and a good job where you can provide for your child when you are older. Having a baby is a full time job. Who will take care of the baby when you are at school/work?
Take care of yourself first...you are young have fun, get your priorities straight, build your life/career, then focus on having a baby.

Answer 9

Well having a kid at thirteen is such a scary thing. My sister found out she was pregnant at 13 and she had the baby at 14...she missed out on everything fun as a teenager because she had the baby. She couldn't go out with her friends, go to prom, go to the movies, wear hot clothes, party, or anything that all of her firneds were doing. Then when it came time to go to college, she had to get a job at a factory and miss out on college because she had bills to pay and nobody to watch her baby. Now she is uneducated, unhappy, and depressed. The child is now 13 and has had a horrible life because my sister is poor and stressed out. There is plenty of time to have a baby after highschool, college, when you are happily married and finincially stable. Please don't screw up your life. Enjoy being young while you can be and enjoy being adult when you actually are one. Get an education, a good job, a husband, a house, a 401k, a savings account, health insurance.....then it is time to have a baby. It isn't fair to yourself, your parents, and most of all the baby to have it at your age. How will you support it? The government is no way to raise a baby. Please be a kid while you can and I promise you will be much happier to wait. College rocks....having a baby at 13 sucks.

Answer 10

I am married, but not a mother because right now I am a student and having your OWN baby would cost a lot of money, it would keep you up late, and I'm sure labour isn't easy. Your body is still growing, you would want to feed your baby your milk and I think your breasts are still growing. Being around someone else's kids is very different than having your own because you have to feed, cloth, change, and be 101% responsible for your baby. Also wait til you are married to have sex, and have a family. Wait until you are settled. It is a very expensive job to be a parent, well worth it when you are settled, but not now! Please wait.