Ive been nice & pleasant to my husband's parents & siblings for 11 years of our marriage yet all i get is criticism, gossip and negative comments.DO YOU THINK THIS HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH KARMA IN MY PAST LIFETIME?
2007-01-08 18:04:02 · 7 answers · asked by LadyLuv 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
That would be the last explanation i look at.
First examine your in-laws' behavior toward most people and within the family. They might just be bad people. You can't change people, only yourself.
If they treat everyone else decently except for you, examine yourself. Are you REALLY as nice and pleasant as you claim? Are you in fact condescending or insincere in your behavior? Things like that can really shine through to people even if you don't think they will ever find out. You may have been passive aggressively insulting them for more than a decade and, if this is going on, stop it and see what happens.
Now, let's say you truly are a nice, sincere pleasant person. It's possible that you're too nice and allowing yourself to be a doormat. Now this is rare, and only seems common because people think of themselves as more giving and nice than they truly are. If they're taking advantage of you, they might have lost respect for you and take you for granted. If you learn to say no and stand up for yourself every once in a while, it would help. Your husband also has a role to play in this. Why is he allowing his family to treat you poorly? Everytime he allows you to be insulted is more proof that you're not worthy of respect. Make sure he's right there with you, demonstrating his respect and love.
Now, if anything, I'd think this is a trial for you and if you handle this correctly, you'll rack up enough Karma points to get yourself a good next-life.
2007-01-08 18:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Surya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your frustration. Yes, if you believe in past lives and reincarnations. It is one of the easiest ways to blame and reduce your frustration by scolding it.
Logically thinking, there is a slight mismatch between you and your family. Probably it is the expectations from each other. Your in-laws expect/want you to do something. You do not will to do it for some reason of your own. This is the beginning of it.
Not all people think logically all the time. So there frustration (which need not exist!) accumulates and you get the comments.
Secondly, you have been 'nice and pleasant' to them in your way. But for them 'nice and pleasant' may be different. Find out their meaning of it & their expectations. Probably a talk with all your family members will resolve all the issues!! Best of luck.
2007-01-09 02:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by Somberi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I believe in karma, a little. Life's never easy. You have to cheer up and move on, no matter how hard it can be. Yes, it's definitely not easy, but....what to do...it's life.
How about talking to your husband and in-laws. Start with the "nicer" in-law; the one that doesn't really make your life difficult,but who doesn't try to stop it from being so either. Ask...why...is there anything you've done wrong..? Nicely, not demandingly, show a little of your hurt, and don't demand or expect a reply. Ask when there's only the 2 of you, then walk away...You don't have to talk a while. Let thins cool, and let them ponder him/her ponder their actions. Good luck:)
2007-01-09 02:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by rosemary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have unfinished business
Maybe you have to deal with each person one at a time
Divide and you will Conquer
When you lesson is learnt they will see you in a different light
Look at what the criticism and if you are able to change yourself
Not to suit them but to better yourself for personal growth.
Then as you accomplish each one remember to go back and thank them
I had a problem with someone it was getting way serious so I had to go and do a course which I knew nothing about it took me over a year and 4 exams 3 of those exams I failed but I finally accomplished what they would never had thought possible, then I wrote them a lovely email thanking them explaining if they had never pointed out I needed more knowledge on a certain matter I may have never done the course it took about a year latter I over heard them telling someone how shocked they were I took the time and did what I did because of their comment.
People are here to teach us many lessons as the same we are here to teach them as well
So put a smile on your face and just do it.
So no matter what it is try the best to fix it for you not them and them thank them for pointing it out ok
Love & Blessings
Milly
2007-01-09 03:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by milly_1963 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dnt worry 2 much... it generally happens with in-laws.... dnt believe in the crap bout karma. If u've done all u can... just wait. Talk to ur husband... that might help...
2007-01-09 02:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by nauts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
future is in ur hand...don't ask someone for it...it's ur life and ur decision....ignore the gossip...be urself and don't care about some1 who doesn't care about u....
2007-01-09 09:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
horoscopes are demonic! dont believe in this junk
2007-01-09 03:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by monica80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋