2007-01-08 17:51:52 · 17 answers · asked by vidya j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-01-08 18:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Have you tried talking to him? Do you think he's stressed about other things and taking it out on you? Or has he been this way for a long time? Rather than figuring out a way to just live with him, why not try to get to the bottom of the problem and find a solution?
If talking to him doesn't work, meaning he thinks he's not at fault at all, then you should consider marriage counseling. A un-biased 3rd party there that's trained in these matters could really help the two of you communicate and work through your issues.
If he's unwilling to go to marriage counseling, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship and decide if it's the right thing for you and your well-being. You deserve to be with someone how appreciates you, rather than one that constantly faults you. I'm not saying to just give up on your marriage, but if he's completely unwilling to listen and work through this, then this marriage may not be the best thing for you.
2007-01-09 02:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by RomanceStuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I faced the same problem as you. it all boils down to the fact that He Don't Love You Enuf.
If he really love you, he will accept you as what it is and love can cover all mistakes, all faults..
Mine started with finding fault, verbal abuse, emothinal abuse, physical abuse, then he have an affair, then it will lead to just divorce, which I am plugging alot of courage to go thru.
So if you really love you man, change now, else our youth is limited, make a decision early and leave now ..
When he stop picking fault on you, means he has another love outside...
2007-01-09 02:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kiki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to like with such a man? Life is too short and its never too late to find true happiness. If you've been married to this man for many years i guess it might be hard to something like a divorce. So if divorce is not an options i guess communication. Let him know that you dont like it when he doesnt appreciate everything you do and if he doesnt like how you do things then why doesnt he do it himself. You can also ignore him. You can also play his game and do the same to him to see how he likes it. Well good luck with whatever you decide to do. But, honestly you shouldnt put up with it.
2007-01-09 02:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by LD82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually your husband may be unhappy with himself. not much we can do if the man we married finds fault with us, and acts as if he doesn't love us, except to confront the man with how we are feeling about his treatment of us, maybe he just doesn't know how it is affecting u, but than again maybe he is doing this deliberately to get u to leave him. have to confront him and watch how he responds to it. if he is sorry than u know he still loves u and values u, if he fails to acknowledge he has hurt u, than it may just be a matter of time till things go wrong, also until u feel that changes have been made in his behavior, u will continue to feel resentful and hurt.
2007-01-09 04:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication. Its a two way street. A complete communication cycle includes both the ability to clearly express a message and to accurately understand the message of others. Tell him how you feel. Sit him down and look directly in his eyes and be clear. I'm learning this now and hope it will save my marriage.
2007-01-09 02:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In two houses with an adjoining door. Seriously Girlfriend, why would you want to? Go get some counseling to find out either how to change things or why you aren't changing things.
2007-01-09 01:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by ThatLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom is currently in a marriage of 20 years, and my dad has done the same thing to her for the entirety of the marriage. she has lost her own individuality because of him. i usually am not an advocate of divorce, but i definately told mom to divorce him numerous times since he didn't view her outlook on things . present your feelings to your husband if he doesn't respect you enough to reevaluate his behavior you may need to take drastic measures up to a divorce or separation. when my husband crosses the line i let him know, and he respects and uses my opinions to better himself and to strengthen our marriage. and i do the same with his constructive criticism. marriage is all about a partnership; it can't be all one-sided.
2007-01-09 02:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by lady_lancaster1026 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignorance is bliss,my dear. you are doing your job and you cannot satisfy everybody in this world.Dont even try to.The more you dance to their tunes, the more they exploit you.Many husbands are that way. They get pleasure by finding faults.
2007-01-09 02:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fault finders are generally (a) perfectionists or (b) insecure people.
In any case you need to make your hubby realise that marriage is an institution of equal rights, and you are no subservient "lesser human"!
But you got to do it with tact and skill. Good luck!
2007-01-09 02:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about NOT living with him, and finding a husband you CAN and LIKE to live with? I know, it's very revolutionary.
2007-01-09 02:52:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋