Married 4 yrs. 2 kids ages 2 and 4. Our marriage had terrible communication problems which resulted in arguments. I still truly love her and want to save this. We have started counseling and have both decided to continue. Today she talked about an apartment. Which gives me the impression shes not going to come back to try. I really want her back to show her this can improve if given the chance. She really has nothing to lose--- Just a chance. I learned so much from this counselor. Its really beating me up.
2007-01-08 17:46:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She says she still loves me and there is no one else.
2007-01-08 18:27:40 · update #1
just keep doing what your doing to improve yourself and kids/
she'll come around
2007-01-08 17:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mz Toy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are tricky business. it takes two to make one work. and when the people cant talk with eachother honestly, you get nowhere.
maybe some time apart will help you out. it hurts to think about, but if the relatiosnhip has something serious that needs to be worked out, then you need to understand that you have to take the time to work it out. it wont be fixed in a day, or in an 'im sorry'. if you couldnt work it out through your 4 year marriage, then it cant happen fast. take your time with this. you may love her, and she love you, but its possibly that you two being together isnt the best way for it to be. spending some time apart to get your heads on straight will help, continue going to the counselor to talk and work on the things you think you need to work on, since you really do want to re-kindle this relationship. if she is as serioous about fixing it, she will do the same. and if she doesnt try to work on herself, too, then you have your answer. because like i said, it takes two people wanting to work things out together, two people being willing to change. good luck with this.
2007-01-09 02:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that she has met someone else? Did you get married b/c she was pregnant? EVERY person I have ever met that has gotten divorced, one of the spouses had met someone else, especially if there was alot of foghting going on. It makes the 'lover' look and feel so good.
2007-01-09 02:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by htowngirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take special care of yourself. I really hope you can both work it out, your families future is worth it.
Read Dr. Phils web page on "Communicating With Emotional Integrity"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/317
"Post Divorce Parenting Mistakes"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/242
2007-01-09 13:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh i really hope it works out for you two especially for the children. Tell her you want to give it one more chance and if it doesn't work then you'll go your separate ways. Tell her to do it for the kids. Good luck!
2007-01-09 02:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by LD82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is just my suggestion - if u move apart from each other u will see things from different perspective. so i say go for it - she will move out but u ask her to give it a try and start dating with u. then u will see whether u can be together
2007-01-09 01:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you ask her right then and there?I guess that is the problem.You miss communicated by not talking to her about trying and the counseling.Should've asked the question.
2007-01-09 01:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS GOING TO BE HARD TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME
2007-01-09 01:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋