I'm separated, but the ex is still staying with us for the time being due to his financial problems and other personal issues to sort out. He is due to move out within the next 5 months. Lately I have noticed that there seems to be a rather big difference in the way we discipline and care for our son. And I am starting to think that this confusion is going to get worse. will only confuse the kid even more. I've even noticed a sore lack of respect for the disciplines and routines that I try to keep with our son. His dad will allow some key things to slip by such as missing his bedtime and sleep in till late the next morning causing our son to miss school, taking cold showers for too long and others. I've been encouraging our 4-yr old to sleep over at his granny's while I travel for work, but how do I break this piece of news to my ex-husband without getting him all angry and defensive?
2007-01-08 17:37:56 · 6 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your filling for divorce, which means he may want partial custody of the kids, you'll have to deal with it eventually, might as well deal with it now.
you two need to sit down and discuss how you want the kids brought up, and family councling probaly wouldn't be a bad idea either.
2007-01-08 17:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since you two are still living in the same household you might trying appealing to him that it is a break for him too. Yes you probably will have to deal with your child staying with the ex at some point. I remember when I was a kid and my parents were split up I speat almost every saturday night at Grandma's and I don't think my Dad ever had a problem with it.
2007-01-08 18:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by fluffybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone alluded to this, but you probably have no legal right to deny him parental status without a custody agreement or court order. You'll need him to agree. If your mother is willing to stay at your house, you can suggest that she stay to "help out" while you are gone, and phrased correctly he may appreciate the suggestion and be none the wiser. If there is any conflict between him and your mother, however, this is probably a bad plan.
Your ex may be acting passive agressive as a response to bitter feelings he has about your marriage. He no longer has to follow your rules and to prove it, he doesn't make your son follow the rules, either. If you can get someone he respects to point this out to him (coming from you probably won't help), he might start to change.
2007-01-08 18:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by sspade30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You DO NOT break such news to him, because you aren't actually going to go through this plan. What are you thinking. Keeping your childrens father away from them is going to cause emotional damage to your kids. The PETTY complaints you mentioned fail in comparison to what YOU will put your kids through emotionally. They will one day resent you for your actions. What if something happened to their dad? A fatal car accident or something. It happens everyday. What do you think your children would say when they learned that when they could have spent PRECIOUS time with their dad, YOU prevented them of that because he let them sleep in. People never think about stuff like that, and if you truly care for your kids, don't do this!
2007-01-08 19:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Won't your kid be confused why he is not staying home with dad??
Once you seperate and he gets visitation you kid will have to stay with him without you being there to supervise. Might as well get the man into the practice now.
2007-01-08 17:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your house,your rules.If he doesn't like it,kick his *** out.Men are worthless pigs.They only deseve the mad pool.They don't deserv a wife or kids.
2007-01-08 17:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋