hubbys sex problem(serious ppl only)?

Question

My hubby and i are having some problems in the bedroom and its started causing marrage problems as well. When we have sex he always cums in less than 2 min. This has been going on for about 3 years or more now and im tired of trying to be nice about it and not hurt his feelings but come on, i havent had a real full blown orgasm in almost 3 years. To me a dildo just isnt the same as the real thing. Ive asked him to see a dr but he wont mainly b/c he is embarrased and we dont have insurance. I think if he dosent do something soon we are gonna get a divorce because he wants to have sex and i just dont see the point or trouble for his 2 min of pleasure and i get nothing. I want great sex like normal people and i dont know what to do anymore please help!

Its not that i want to divorcehim because of that. No we gont have any other problems but he dosent want to get help about this problem and thats what makes me mad. And yes i know sex isnt everything in a marrage but it is a huge part of it.

Answer 1

If you and your husband love each other, divorce is not something that you should consider. However, sex IS a significant part of marriage and it is obvious that you are not getting the satisfaction that you need. Ask your husband to take a little more time before he enters you and show him how to stimulate your clitoris by hand to bring you to your orgasm before actual intercourse. You may ask him to do this more than once before penetration. He should be pleased to do this for you and he will enjoy seeing you in the throes of your climax. Then get him to take you right to the very edge of another orgasm the same way, but just before you come, ask him to put his penis into your vagina and go for it! With any luck, you'll come again before he does and you will both feel fantastic. As he gets older and becomes more experienced, he will learn to control his timing better, but remember that most women never experience orgasm during actual intercourse, whatever they might tell you! "Great sex" takes time to achieve and if you are both young, that's something that you have in plenty.

Answer 2

If a man is postured in the giving position it is a good possibility he will climax quicker than the woman. Trying alternate positions such as the woman being on top and increasing the amount of times of having sex. The first orgasm generally happens fairly quickly, but as we age the recovery time for the man takes longer and the amount of time before a second climax increases as well. Don't rush sex. Turning love making into a chore can make the whole situation complicated and frustrating. The reality is that most married couples lives are busy and hectic and sometimes with kids it can make the amount of available time to enjoy one another difficult. Set up a time where you can have a light lunch and couple it with a sexual interlude where you both can enjoy one another. Another idea if these don't work is just talking. Sometimes there are underlying issues. Mid-life brings with it other complications such as perception of abilities and outlook on life. I hope your sex life gets better.

Answer 3

There are many causes to premature ejaculation and every cause requires a different treatment depending on each individual's situation and preference as well. Sometimes premature ejaculation is due to an over-sensitive glans (skin of penis head). This reduces your ejaculatory control. At other times, it could also be a matter of psychology effect like stress, fear of poor performing. A weak PC muscles (muscles located between the anus and testicles) also causes premature ejaculation. Good news is premature ejaculation can be prevented and cured and there are many treatments out there. But to start off, it's advisable to resort to some safe, natural and proven methods which cure the problem from its root cause. I was once suffered from the same problem and that brought so much stress to me and my girlfriend (now my wife). I tried many different treatments including cream, pill and gel. But really healed me was some simple proven natural techniques including exercising my PC muscles, learning to monitor and control my level of sexual arousal, using last-longer sexual positions, correct breathing methods etc. I learned the hard way, but you really dont have to. Here is the free ebook where you can get a general idea of what premature ejaculation really is, its causes and how to treat premature ejaculation: ( http://prematurejaculation.kyma.info ) The fact is, you can really cure and control premature ejaculation in a matter of weeks, you just need the right information. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

For premature ejaculation, try using the herbs which are very useful in such conditions. There are indian herbs like Indian ginseng and Mineral Pitch, which are useful for erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. I am sure your husband will take more than half an hour or more after using them. Don't worry , try them. Things will be alright. You can even consult an Ayurveda specialist at a website www.planetayurveda.com and also buy herbs like male Support and Atirasadi Churna. They also increase the total sperm counts and semen quality along with increased time duration of the intercourse. Wish you a very happy healthy life !

Answer 5

your gonna divorce him because he lasts 2 minutes in bed?? Are you kidding me,how would you feel if he wanted to divorce you because you didn't have a high sex drive or didn't give him oral sex long enough? I think there's something wrong with the relationship between you guys and it doesn't have to do with sex at all. If his performance is the number one issue, then have him give you oral sex before intercourse, that way you will orgasm and so will he..... and both of you will be satisfied!!!

Answer 6

Ur problem is not sexual problem in the first place, there are many things u didn't told about Ur unstable marriage,so for the sex problem u may convince Ur hubby to use a Viagra to make u happy, and if he agree so he loves u try to work with him to recover his problem, if he refuse so he didn't care about u or Ur happiness,u may ask him to divorce get over all of Ur problems

Answer 7

have him get off before sex with you. then his erection will last a whole bunch longer when you are together.

Here's a guy who finds you so overwhelmingly attractive that he can not control himself. Why would you want to trash that? Just help him gain some self control.

Masturbation works well for men if they stop just before reaching climax, wait a minute, then continue again, stopping again just before climax. These are "exercises" to develop self control over the body's systems. It works quite well with a little practice.

Answer 8

I have the same problem. I was nice about it at first & now I won't have sex with him at all. I feel disgusting now. I feel like a peice of meat. I think he needs medical attention, but if he is unwilling to do so....I think I will end up divorced. It hurts me. Good luck hun.

Answer 9

dear let me tell u one thing he is a bit tense person i suppose. look try to do more foreplay befor sex try to be kind on him i think he is not able to handle the excitation made him feel that ur not going any where so be relax if still problem exist then u should say to him no more sex in required in your relation then he will feel that he has no chance exccept going to doctor hope it will safe ur relation

Answer 10

ah yeah. well I am from Australia and they have this spray, you spray it up your nose. Maybe you have it where your are located. Go to a chemist and ask for a pre immature ejaculation spray. Hey remember love isn't about sex only, it's also about careing for each other, being there for each other. Sex is only a little part of love. -- cheers hoped that helped