Me (im 16 and st8 is as they come) and my bestfriend are on the water polo team, we have been best friends from the 5th grade and i mean he has my locker code and i have his but he always said he wouldn't give me his combination to his locker in the boys lockerrom, well i still gave him mine. I mean i didn't have anything to hide, i mean we like shower together naked. So i thought something was suspicous, so each time i looked secretly took note of his combination until i figured it out. One day after school i came to llok what was inside and i found gay porn. i immdeiately slammed the locker door closed. and i said jesus. i was really shocked because he didn't look gay (he has blue eyes with blond hair) and he sure dosen't act or sound gay. And i really feel bad because i always joke around about gays i call them quuers fag and i also said there disgusting and a whole bunch of other crap because i didn't want him to think that i was gay. And his parents protest against being gay.
2007-01-08 17:03:40 · 18 answers · asked by waterpologoldchampion32 1 in Sports ➔ Swimming & Diving
Just because he doesn't look gay doesn't mean anything. If he's your best friend think about talking to him about it or just quit the gay bashing. He may deal with enough when his parents talk about it and they may not know. Just be his friend and respect his privacy. If he decides to talk to you about it always enter the conversation withan open mind.
2007-01-08 17:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 02:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sabrina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel now knowing your friend might be gay? Do you see him any different? If you are really his friend it shouldn't matter if he's gay or not. Judging by your age, this can determine whether you guys will continue being friends or drift apart. At 16, most people worry so much about what other people think and that not only includes him, but you. Would you be ready to possibly be rejected by some peers if people find out he's gay and you're still his friend? You have to think about how close you guys are and how difficult it must be for him to be closeted from his friends and family. I suggest you think about whether you still want to be his friend (hopefully you can be) and also come clean once you make your choice about you snooping around. Also, don't be thinking that just cause he's gay he's checking you out in the shower, you may not be his type at all and he probably sees you more like a brother anyway. And people who are gay don't necessarily "look or act gay" that is one of the biggest misconceptions there are about homosexuals. Hope you make the right choice.
2007-01-08 17:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rock, Paper, Scissors 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
1) What you did was really dishonest. If you do tell him what you did, you need to apologize.
2) Don't expect him to apologize to you for keeping secrets. He had a right to, especially since both you and his parents have made negative comments about the GLBT community.
3) Don't mention what you found to anyone...not even some nice girl with glasses that you think won't tell anyone. She will.
4) He is still the same person you were always friends with, so you should treat him the same (though cut out the anti-gay comments).
5) Being gay is not a choice and gay people come in different shapes, sizes, and looks. Remember this!
2007-01-10 09:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lost OC Boy 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't do anything. The only reason you know about this is that you used a dishonest method to get this information. If indeed he is gay, he will tell you when he feels the time is right. And if/when he does - you should be a supportive friend. This really shouldn't affect your friendship. He'll need a friend specially since his parents are unlikely to be supportive.
And by the way.. gay people come in all shapes and sizes. "Looking gay" or "not looking gay" is irrelevant.
2007-01-08 17:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
So? He is gay or bi-curious. The only problem is: How this change your perception about him? You two are good friends. Do you accept him as he is? He is after all the same person you are friend from 5th grade. And probably he is afraid that he will lose you as friend if he tells you about his sexuality.
2007-01-10 22:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by mathfreak 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yo dude, why do you ask the same question in 5 different sections?
I don't look gay. I have blue eyes and blond hair. I don't act gay and I don't sound gay. People around me joke about gays all the time and I don't care. I usually join in with the joking. All this doesn't have anything to do with me being gay. It doesn't mean anything.
If you're cool with your friend being gay (and you owe that to him for being his friend) there's really no problem. He will have to be honest to his parents, and hopefully they will follow your good example in accepting him for who he is.
2007-01-09 02:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ti 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
you should of just asked him why you could not have his locker code? That was wrong for sneaking in his locker, now you should tell him what you did and tell him you are sorry. if you are as good a friend as you say you are.
2007-01-08 17:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Tazbunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why didn't you respect his space and not break and enter into his locker?
He's still the same person he was before you broke in.
If you really want to help him be his friend
2007-01-08 17:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
dude, gay are cool. im straight but 80% of my friends are gay, just wait till your get a little bit older then you will see. go hit the gay scene, they have the best drugs around as well. and at gay clubs all the girls are single!! have fun
2007-01-11 08:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋