due to misunderstanding. what can i do now?
2007-01-08 16:42:13 · 36 answers · asked by g.s. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry
2007-01-08 16:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Veer 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, the first thing you should do is something that you should have done years ago and that is learn how to speak proper English. Not only will this help with your relationships, but also with employment. Speaking like you do allows for people to make assumptions about you ie. poorly educated, stupid, lazy, low class, trashy ect. If people make these assumptions they will treat you poorly, be less likely to hire you and so on. This can cause all sorts of problems in your life.
Secondly, move on! It has been 3 years since you were married and subsequently divorced. If you no longer have a relationship with this ex-husband and hopefully you didn't have his child, then you have no reason not to move on. Learn how to properly problem solve within a relationship and learn to compromise and communicate effectively (remember that first suggestion I made?) and most importantly learn how to respect yourself and demand that same kind of love and respect from everyone you meet. That way your next lover won't just up and leave you after 8 months because of a misunderstanding.
2007-01-08 16:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What was the misunderstanding about? you got married at 23 and the marriage only lasted for 8 months? What do you mean legally separated? Did he file for legal separation from you? This goes to show why people that are too young should not get married too quickly. You have to be mature enough to be able to learn how to resolve marital problems. Talk with him, ask him if he is willing to work on the issues at hand. If he is not then get legal advice and be gratful there are no children involved. You are still young and can learn from this experience and make for better choices in your life.Good luck to you!
2007-01-11 08:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you marry him/her?
did you see sparks when you were together before? did you feel the electricity when you touched each other? did feel like you were in heaven when you were together 8 months ago?
if that's so, it means you were inloved with him.
in a relationship, part of being inloved is having a misunderstanding sometimes. because feelings are so unpredictable and irrational. but at the end of the day, you will realize that can't let go of her/him if you really love him/ her.
so if you want to ask for my opinion. REST. and try seek for the right one. learn from your lesson. don't be obsesive compulsive.
make sure that you are really certain before you enter such a serious relationship.
okay?
2007-01-08 16:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by lance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u still love ur husband then u've to clear up the misunderstanding fast. Love cant afford to wait. But if u dont love him anymore then may as well file for divorce as soon as possible, so that u can move on to a better life.
2007-01-08 17:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by le_snowangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Misunderstanding?
2007-01-08 16:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look dear, i feel that try to sort out things between u two but it seems u must have already tried it as it been a long time..almost two years...i feel try to give it a last shot and look at times the other person develop such kind of boundary around them that they actually dont want u to come inside it....belive it, that time making all efforts give u more pain than any relief...leave it as it is..and try to go forward with ur life...coz how sorry u are and how badly u try it might not give any fruit ful result and only pain...try to give ur best shot and if sees some hope than keep trying..coz it might work otherwise keeping urself away from him and his thought and by doing this ull be actually doing a favour to urself...ALL THE BEST
2007-01-08 18:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As painful as it is, you should think about this - you are directly responsible for your life, for your relationships and your current situation.
Really, take charge of your life. If you can not talk to this man, especially about a misunderstanding, rather than a full blow up mistake, then you need to move on, meaning, get a divorce, get in control of your life and get a man who will love you and stand by you.
But all of this depends on you, not someone else. You can and must take charge and become responsible for yourself and what happens to you.
Best of luck
2007-01-08 17:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by Steven S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) you can get over with it or
2)restore your flame
Are you tired of feeling bad, tired of struggling in an unhealthy, unhappy relationship?
Has your relationship ended? Whether you left or you’ve been left and you’re dealing with the pain of a break-up…
If you’re willing to try a few simple techniques, you can let go of the sadness and uncertainty, get your life back on track and be hopeful about your future again.
YES! You too can get over a broken heart and move on; no matter how long you’ve been together and no matter how impossible that may seem to you right now.
2007-01-08 16:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself a couple of questions.1 do you love him? 2.Do you want to stay married. 3 Do you want to fix the misunderstanding. If you say no to all 3 get divorced and find someone who is your type.If you say yes to all 3 ,sit down and work it out. Life is to short to be unhappy.
2007-01-08 16:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by macdaddyev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to give it some time and maybe seek counseling. Really think about it before you jump into it again. I can't think of a misunderstanding that would break my husband and I up.
2007-01-08 16:46:21 · answer #11 · answered by LLL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋