of my personality. People feel that it's there job to "make me talk" I don't feel the need to always engage in conversation. I am mostly introverted. Is this weid?
2007-01-08 16:10:18 · 16 answers · asked by GW.BUSH 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
not to me, I am the same way. I have a couple of close freinds, and I just dont realy need to talk to people that much. Small talk is unnessesary. Its a waste of energy. I talk enough to get the important things accomplished, and that's usualy enough.
2007-01-08 16:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Big hands Big feet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is who you are, but it sure makes the more extroverted uncomfortable. Do realize that it also leaves them feeling as though they are "responsible" for keeping the conversation going. If you want folks to feel that you are involved, make sure to look at them, nod your head and ask them questions to keep them talking. I find that I have an "outside the door persona" and an at home one. I can go out and talk to anyone, but it saps my strength (how you know you are a true introvert) so I have to make sure that I have some alone time each day. It takes all kinds to make a world. You are not weird. Hugs.
2007-01-08 16:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by gramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird, it's just.... uncomfortable. People don't like it, because if you sit for a long time without talking to them, it might seem that you don't have a decent idea about them. Don't we all think that people who don't open their mouths at a party are 'proud'? But from the person's side, it could be mere shyness. So, to clear things, you needn't fall over them or clam up either. You can exchange friendly remarks now and then at gatherings. And you can generally try going out and mixing a little with your friends, to see what sort of life they lead, and how they don't find it hard to socialize. You might realize that you're missing a lot of what you could've got.
2007-01-08 17:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - but you may need to learn some basic conversational skills to keep the conversation focused and moving, so that others don't make you the center of attention.
General rule - people like to talk about themselves and their work or hobby or pet peeve. Ask people about themselves and then you can stand back quietly and listen. Prod them on with a question every now and then, and they will end up thinking that YOU are fascinating.
And they'll stop trying to put pressure on you.
2007-01-08 16:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people tend to confuse being introverted with being shy sometimes. Just because you don't want to engange in a bunch of conversations and chat it up all the time doesn't make you weird or slosed off or any of those tihngs. I'm kinda that way, a quiet observer I love to just step back and take in a situation. Don't feel forced to be someone your not. If people try to "make you talk" maybe let them know that you'd rather listen. One way to help keep them off your back is to use facial expressions to sommumnicate without talking
2007-01-08 16:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that alot of people (at least some of the time) are afraid of silence, afraid that the silence is going to be an "uncomfortable silence"...also, with shy people, it is harder for others to know if the shy person likes them or not (I am not just talking about relationships, just interractions with people in general) because the shy person gives less verbal "cues" as to how they feel...so no, you are not weird, it's just the old saying about the squeaky wheel getting the grease...
2007-01-08 16:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by jennycf2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoke some pot. It will open your mind to lots of thoughts.
Break your shell.
If you don't want to talk, smile and make eye contact. This shows people you have a soul.
Position yourself towards people - arms, shoulders, head. If you sit arms crossed, shoulders facing away, this is CUE that you are uncomfortable.
Read newspaper about current events. Talk about what you read in newspaper. Check sports page for Hockey, Baseball, Basketball stats.
Talk about topics people will relate on - food, relationships, transportation, general life experiences. Don't get involved in your hobbies when no one else relates to them.
2007-01-08 16:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by cheesewhiz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not... everyone has their own way of engaging to different thing. Making someone who doesn't want to talk doesn't make to quiet person feel any better unless they're are shy and just didn't know how to start a conversation,but if you don't want to talk, making you talk is just gonna make you feel uncomfortable. But many just wants to get friendly thats it.
2007-01-08 16:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not. However, when in a social setting, you should put forth the effort to converse. Not to the extent that you are inauthentic or feel awkward, but just to make things more pleasant.
I'm sure people can learn from you.
2007-01-08 16:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by Philip Kiriakis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it makes them uncomfortable to have you sitting their silent, and makes them feel like they have to carry the conversation.
2007-01-08 16:14:29 · answer #10 · answered by TexasChick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋