She is not religious, is unsure about god/gods, so religious comfort is out. She is not afraid of dying, she is afraid of the unknowns after she dies. What can I say to her that will help the unknown seem a little less scary?
2007-01-08 16:06:40 · 9 answers · asked by Irish 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You listen! Be a presence. Be there to comfort if needed. If she asks about the unknown or is scared (she is in one of the five stages of dying, fear) don't make anything up, don't sugarcoat anything, just listen. Ask questions in return. Do not judge. The best gift you can give to her is to let her express her fear and tell her you empathize and care for her. You can also ask if there is anything you can do for her. Good luck!
2007-01-12 10:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by seest12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't what you say that counts, it's just being there. There's no way you can make the unknown less scary, but you can make a dying person's last days and hours easier by behaving just as you would if that person were healthy. That's all we can do, but that is really quite a lot.
2007-01-09 00:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by William F. Torpey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of the most comforting things is to talk about people who have been seen after death. Death doesn't end your existence. Whether or not you believe in God or heaven, you DO continue, just in another form.
My father and my uncle have both been seen and it's clear that they still have free will (the other thing we hate to lose). Where we go after we die is still unknown, but I'm betting it has something to do with the magnetic field of our planet. I'm looking forward to finding out.
Can you imagine a great meeting of souls out there?
The death of the body is painful and she's lucky to have you there for comfort. The soul, though, is not dying, just transforming. Hopefully, you can help her see that.
2007-01-09 00:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like she needs someone to listen to her rather than offer comforting words. Ask her about her life growing up, ask about her family, ask her what her favorite things are. After posing the questions listen to the answers, you're being given remarkable insight, she knows her time is soon, few of us have that luxury.
2007-01-09 00:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by tropicalturbodave 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is tuff when you take out the religious aspect of it...just tell her there is nothing to fear in death. That is the easy part living was the hard part, she will be in peace and all her worries will be over.
2007-01-09 00:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
actually that dying is normal, no big deal, hey no more bills to pay, no more going to work, besides, you get to experiment something that has questioned all the poets of the world, you get to travel, to go to the deepest part of essence, so its a poetic aspect of existence, so is a verse, a rime and song of the life you had, so life is just a song that you will hear, feel, remember and then the play is over........................................................................................ ready for a new one
2007-01-09 03:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by erik m 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old this person is...hard to help you without knowing.
2007-01-09 00:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
hmm, I was going to say to tell her all the christian BS. Well just tell her it will be like going to sleep. She won't know that she is dead.
2007-01-09 00:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by goose1077 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
TELL HER ALL HER TROUBLES WILL BE OVER
2007-01-09 00:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by todd s 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋