I am 8 months pregnant and my husband left us last month. I have tried so hard to cut him out of my life but he calls and texts several times a day and if i don't answer he drives by the house. Finally after 8 phone calls today i gave in and called back. I felt on top of the world before i talked to him but after i feel so bad becuase i miss him. He tells me over the phone that he misses me and that he would love to see me but why would i want to spend time with someone who doesn't love me and left. How do i get over feeling so bad? what should i do?
2007-01-08 16:05:03 · 8 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he seems like a controlling man. if you don't get rid of him now, the longer you wait, the harder it will be for you and your baby. your life won't be so good. stay away from him and get a restraining order. make sure you document everything he does or everything that has happened. You can use this to your advantage and/or use it to defend yourself. Get a lawyer (if you can afford it) and make sure the cops are involved as well, because you will need the documents from them when things are documented with them if things gets worse. Good luck!
2007-01-08 16:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find out why he left you! You both need to see if this relationship can be saved and is it worth saving? With you being pregnant you are more likley to get upset faster then if you were not which is a normal thing we women go thru. You two really need to see what has happened and if it can be corrected or not at this point! Maybe he does love you but something went wrong? You and he need better communication for one thing in order to figure out where you both are going from here. Communication is the key to a lot of relationships not working, I would try to find out for sure where you stand and figure out why he left and if you and he can or are willing to correct it before you give up on him. I wish you both the best of luck. If you have more questions come back and ask away.
2007-01-08 16:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he doesn't love you? Men are very differant from women in their perceptions of life, love and stress. Guys are quite simple and often do not handle dealing with day to day family matters so well. A man might leave a situation temporailly to take a break from the stress then return when things calm down. What most men want from their women is affection, love and acceptance for who they already are. Just because he left the stress does not mean things won't work out in the long run.
2007-01-08 19:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Roaddogg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband left you, but now is borderline stalking you? Makes no sense. You need to talk to him and ask him what is it that he wants. Does he want a divorce? Is he willing to make things work? Don't wait around for him - give him time if he needs it, but tell him the calling all day/stopping by has to stop until he figures out what is going on. Should he want to go back to you, you should demand counseling as something is very wrong for him to just walk out on you like that.
2007-01-08 16:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I feel you but this will not be easy to deal with until after the baby is born right now you are pregnant and emotions are running high. However it is not that easy after the baby but at least your emotion start to get back on track. Good luck
2007-01-08 16:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell you that he didn't love you?
He obviously has done some thinking and would like another chance with you and your child. People make mistakes, and as long as it wasn't something unforgivable like infidelity, then maybe you should give him another chance.
2007-01-08 16:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the phone, girl. He left you and YOUR BABY. That's cowardly.
2007-01-08 16:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time but don't stress yourself so much b/c your pregnant. If you don't want him in your life then say that to him. Tell him you deserve and want better. goodluck
2007-01-08 16:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋