Lately, it's like we have been fighting more and in a way taking a break. It's like she's fed up with my bullshit and I need help! I have been with her 10 months and I really love her to death! PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2007-01-08 16:00:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what have you been doing to piss her off?
2007-01-08 16:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Alexa K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've come to notice men think saying I love you is enough, to you if we say we love you its enough to make you happy, but a woman has to be shown. First by that popular song Respect her. Do you both work, or does she stay home?
If you both work the responsibility around the house should be split down the middle if one cooks the other cleans, one vaccumns the other takes out the trash. Or how is your personallity, are you a pushy person or technical person where if she says can you hand me that while she is standing over the dishwasher and you ask her hand you want and your standing beside the counter with a piece of paper and a cup. I mean duh what do you think shes going to do stick the paper in the dishwasher. Alot of relationship problems are due to communication and trust, so if its not the trust then its the communications because you already know you love each other.
Another thing sit down make a list for each other so theres no yelling of what one another could change to make each other happy and change it.
2007-01-09 00:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by melanie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure yourself out and what you're doing that bothers her, and why you do it. you need to work on yourself first so that you can give yourself fully to her, since you love her. sounds like you could have something great, just don't say anything you don't mean, or give any promises you don't mean to keep. if you already say there's bullshit that you have, then get rid of it and then make it up to her, but take a step back and look at yourself first, because there's something she see's that she doesn't like that you need to fix for your own self too. if she loves you, she'll stick around while you do that, just make sure you communicate about everything while you do it, and tell her you need her love and support. this is what will make her realize that you're worth staying with, that you want to be a better man for her. she'll love you for that, and go into counseling if you need to, whatever it takes to get there. i don't know what exactly is going on so it's hard to give this advice, but i hope you get the general idea of what you could do to really help your situation, and be the man that she deserves.
2007-01-09 00:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by corinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK dud you need some serious help. First of all find out what is the problem, she is probably not happy with some of your behavior. Find out if she want you to change the things she don't like talk to her and compromise, because relationship is all about sacrificing for each other. As you mentioned you love. Do something to show her that you do love her. Don't get pissed off even if she did something to piss you off, at least don't show her that you are pissed off. And yeah as I said show her that you love her and you can do any thing to make your relationship work. good luck
2007-01-09 00:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women really only want one thing out of a relationship. They want to know that THEY are the most important thing in your life. Talk to her...as you've heard before...and really listen to what she says. She fell in love with you...so obviously she likes you. But sometimes as a relationship matures or as things change in your lives, what is needed from your partner changes as well. Take some time to start "dating" again. Play 20 questions....if you won the lottery what would you do?... Let her know that your relationship is important to you. Flowers are nice...but they don't fix anything. Communication and a periodic renewal of your relationship will.
2007-01-09 00:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by motomouth_1965 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop fighting over small stuff. Life is to short. You need to be gentle with her and give her respect. Women like to be treated like Queens not like door mats. Do nice things for her like open the car door, store door, take her coat off for her, get her a drink, show her you care. Talk to her but learn how to not argue by looking at her point of view on things also. It is hard for people to switch and look at things from anothers persons point of view but a lot of times it will help you to understand where that person is coming from. If you really care show her by being nice and doing nice things for her. Always remember we do not own anyone! At times we see our boy friends/ girl friends as a possession and it gets us in trouble because we want to rule them, that does not work in a really good relationship. We cannot take them for granted for some day they may not be with us and then we regret what we have done but by then it is to late to change things.
2007-01-09 00:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think dat 1st of all u should stop ur bullshit or whatever u do makes her feel bad. If u really luv her 2 death then try to change urself a bit for her, make her happy. Give her a candle light dinner and spent most of your time wid her. Sure it will work. Good luck!!!!!!!
2007-01-09 00:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by || SMI || 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh nick!
if you want your relationship to work out just right and last forever..you got to be consistent and constant.Mind you it's a two different things..being consistent is like firmness in mind and heart never-changing while being constant can surpass it..the love you feel for that special someone can grow more and more each day..that's it the love is constant,eternal yet can be perfect..how? well,you said you were having some fighting with her lately and on the verge of breaking up..hmmm...i know it's hard to humble and be the first one to make up..talk with her and let your feelings out-speak your mind,speak your heart out.
Love is all about the good things in life,it is never negative.We just have to be sure that we are dealing with the right person,if it's not then it might not work out the wa you want it.if you feel that burning thing thing inside you then that's going to roll ...as the bible says "if any of you lack widsom let him ask of God..."..so i encourage you to pray for that love you have ...pray for her.Good luck!
2007-01-11 00:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by sly angel :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set aside some time to talk with her.
Tell her that you want to have a talk with her, and do exactly that, talk, don't fight, or yell at each other, or blame each other
Tell each other what you want out of a relationship and listen to what she wants. If both of you are willing to put forth the effort you should be able to get through it!
2007-01-09 00:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy her flowers. Write her nice long letter telling how much you love her and how you want to improve yourself. Tell her you want to change and beg for forgiveness. Take her out on a nice date and treat her right.
2007-01-09 00:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by dispatchokirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surprise her with homemade dinner, or buy take out...romantasize the dinner table and environment ( flowers and whatnot) and have a heart to heart talk...get to the point and see if it's workable...express your feelings and let her do the same.
2007-01-09 00:05:25 · answer #11 · answered by looca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋