Is marriage doomed by a love affair?

Question

It's a love affair, not just plain sex.
Do you think he will leave her?
The marriage is young (2 years).
Do you think it will survive, or even continue the same?

Answer 1

I highly doubt it will survive. Especially because it's a young marriage, if someone is cheating or has found love somewhere else already, then the relationship probably wasn't as strong as it should have been to enter into marriage.
Does the other person in the marriage know about the love affair yet? I would imagine that it will end quite quickly after the other person finds out.

Answer 2

1 out of every 4 couples will have extramarital affairs. Not all of them end in divorce; it depends on the couple if they want the relationship to last or not. If they do the best thing they can do is to find a really good counselor to help them work thru the issues.

If the marriage survives and they do seek good counseling eventually everything will work out and the marriage will be better and stronger than it was before. If you don't seek counseling and get to the root of the problem it will most likely happen again and again.

Realize this. Sins of parents pass down thru the kids. So unless you change your ways your kids will go thru the same pain that you are currently going thru.

Answer 3

It will never be the same. As much as you want to believe in the spouse who cheated you never will trust totally again.

It is hard on the loyal spouse cause damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you allow the marriage to continue you have some new problems.
If you let them get away with screwing around then they may think you will forgive them twice, three times etc..
It is just like saying it is okay to betray you. This may not be the case in every relationship. human nature is a *****! we have a tendency to take take take. Especially if someone is allowing us to do so.

When in love it is hard to know where to draw the line. You could drive yourself bonkers wondering if the cheater is at it again. So unfair to cheat on someone that loves, trust in you. Can a person be any more self centered?
You know how much you love this person. Are they worth the risk? It may be best to cut your losses now and run far and fast.
That is what I wish I would have done quite awhile back. Now it is two years later and things have only become bitter and worse. he cheated a lot after I let him get away with the first time.

Answer 4

if he is in a love affair with her, and not just sex, he could leave his wife, but than again he could decide at anytime that he loves his wife more. and eventually he will have to choose, the wife or the mistress. depends if the mistress demands more time and love, than he can give her, if she does it could spell trouble. but if the mistress has accepted the situation so far, and hasn't demanded this be a serious relationship where she comes first, than unless there are big problems in the marriage, he will stay in the marriage. as divorce usually involves splitting the as setts, and some real changes. how does the mistress know its not just for his sexual gratification? she only knows what he is telling her.

Answer 5

You can definitely make it through it. I found out my wife was cheating they never had sex, but kissed and I was devastated. I felt like my heart was ripped right out of my chest. We talked Ia lot and every time I looked at her I was not mad at her just mad for what happened. Then I was in an accident and got hurt. She was there for me the whole time never left me. We talked some more and found out even though she never told me I had a lot to be blamed for. We both went through a rut and we thought we were doomed, but after all this we are more in love now than when we first met. So all I have to say is good luck to you if you love your spouse show them.

Answer 6

I'm not sure who's leaving who (who's in the love affair, etc.), but it doesn't sound too good. Marriage is between two people, not between two people and their other two partners.

Answer 7

Doomed. Definitely doomed.

Answer 8

Say bye bye! He is not leaving her because he will loose everything. He might say yes, I will leave her but he never will. He will lie and lie until he is caught and she seeks the divorce. If you are mistress, then you are a home wrecker.

Answer 9

it depends on how bad they want to stay married. they could go to marriage counselling and work out their problems. but i would say once the trust is gone its hard to get it back. and they usually split. but again depends on if they really love each other and want it to work. my guess is this is sneaking around and something about that turns guys/gals on. if he/she hasn't left him/her yet they may not.

Answer 10

If he's cheating he's an *** and not worth either woman's time....if you are the one that is cheating with the man then you deserve the bastard...just wait until he cheats on you!