im pissed...?

Question

my mom and her boyfriend just set new rules since the ones she had never worked and me and my brothers never followed them. well now since my mom dosn''t kno how to disciplene she is putting her boyfriend in charge of it. that is so unfair hes not even related or anything and hes going to take charge of disciplene. i am so pissed off rite now cause i have never had disciplene in my life that has worked and they are going to TRY to start now when im 13 almost 14 wit her boyfriend in charge. how is this even suposed to work? wat should i do to rebal as much as possiable so there will be no rules like there were before. im so mad rite now.

Answer 1

You should try following the rules and quit being a spoiled brat and buy a dictionary.

Answer 2

Everyone here knows you are just playing a game of chicken. If it's attention you want from you're mom you're getting it -- just not the way either of you want it. Oh -- you've never had discipline that's worked........ poor baby! You are really behaving like a stupid, stupid child, I hate to tell you this but the more you act out the more rules there are going to be and what exactly do you want to happen? For your mom to get so pissed off that when you rebel by doing something so unbelievably stupid and probably get arrested she'll make you sit your little *** in jail until YOU can figure out how to get the bail money? I'm sure you'll look beautiful in the jump suit after their strip search you and check every body opening imaginable and make you get rid of all jewelry and you get one phone call. Oh yea, that would really be proving a point to her. Good Luck in the cell with all of the lovely ladies if you keep this up. There isn't anywhere on the face of this earth honey where there aren't some sort of rules you have to follow -- and if you don't learn that now but have to learn it in juvi - you will realize just how easy your mom's rules are and how easy it is to step up to the plate and try and make your own life a little easier. Think of all of the energy you are wasting by fighting instead of applying it to some sort of goal that could "surprise" make you feel good for a change.

Answer 3

You sound like a little brat. I would say that your mom's boyfriend has no business disciplining you but in this case when you don't listen to your mom at all maybe you need someone to step in . It also depends on how long he's been in the picture. Stop being bad and start trying to do the right thing before you get yourself into something you can't undo or fix. All you're going to end up doing is hurting yourself in the end. If you keep not listening you'll never amount to anything because you'll probably do bad in school and never make it to college and then your life will be tough and you'll sit back and be upset with yourself for being a jerk when you were younger and wondering why you didn't listen to your mom. Don't be a loser. Listen to your mom.

Answer 4

I'm sorry you are upset...but there are rules that must be followed...too bad your Mom didn't begin these when you were little...they'd be a lot easier to take now. As for your Mom's BF dishing out the discipline, rebeling against him or her definitely won't work. Try this strategy...it might help you and should help them Go along with their new rules... you may surprise them with your agreeableness...have a democratic meeting where everyone gets to say, calmly mind you, how they feel. Rebeling will just make them mad, and you feeling worse about it. Teenagers must has discipline...sometimes self-discipline is even better, and shows them you are maturing.
Good luck...and try to keep your cool! I brought up three teenagers (2 boys and a girl) and we never had any problems in the house. THey learned early I was the boss...age has it's privilege:) THey never took advantage, wanted boundaries, and when I saw they could handle more independence, I gave it to them.. Try it...it might work

Answer 5

If you follow the rules, then they will know they can trust you and will start to ease up over time. Don’t rebel, it will only make things worse. You may find that you actually like a little disapline. It just means they care about you and what happens to you. I agree it sucks to come from your moms boyfriend, but your poor mom is probably at her wits end if you have never followed her rules. You should respect your mom for trying to keep you in line. She loves you.

Just remember, you catch more bee’s with honey than vinegar.
Which means, if you are nice and follow the rules, things in your house will be better for everyone.

Be good, and good luck.

Answer 6

Shame on you for giving your mom such a hard time. She must be a mild-mannered woman who just doesn't know how to enforce discipline and is trying to get help from someone else who is willing to. Her boyfriend probably offered to help because he couldn't stand seeing the woman he cares for be so disrespected by her children. I know you are at a difficult age when your parents become your enemy, but really, you do need to grow up and be mature enough to be thankful you have a mom who cares enough to want you to turn out to be a decent individual when you are older.

Bottom line: Obey the rules and then take a little pride in yourself for being responsible instead of being a burden to deal with. You can set an example for your brothers. Think about it.

Answer 7

Honey, be mad, but you need to really look at it from a different point of view. I am 24...I know that I am not a child anymore, but I am still young enough that I remember going through all that. I put my parents through hell...you have no idea what you are doing to your mom, though. I wish that I would have known. If I would have, and realized that my mom had my best interest in mind, maybe I wouldn't have ended up in jail as many times as I have, and messed up as much. Now, I realize. It will only be time before you do, too. I know that this is really not what you are wanting to hear, but if you really think about it from a more mature point of view, you will realize that you are just mad. How many parents do you really think are just going to let their kids go, with no discipline. Kids (and Teens) don't know everything (well, actually most adults can be pretty niave themselves). I know how you feel about your mom letting her boyfriend take care of discipline, but most likely, she is fed up and doesn't know what else to do. My mom was to that point, too, when she put my *** in jail !!!!!!!!!!!!! Take a deep breath.

Answer 8

That's what comes from having no discipline; when there suddenly IS discipline, you're not used to it. Rebelling is stupid, it just makes you seem angsty, immature and bratty. Life's not fair... this certainly won't be the last time you'll be pissed off over someone else's rules. The real world doesn't let anyone get away with anything; everything is disciplined, so you may as well get used to it before you move out.

Answer 9

well this situation is going to suck for you for a while especially since in the past your mom let you run all over her but get over it eventually in life you are gonna have to listen to one person or the other so it shouldnt be a big deal not to mention in life you are not always going to agree with others but at times you still have to do as they say at school, at work, and in prison people still have to listen to some one thats just how it works and look at it like this..as long as you follow the rules and do what you know needs to be done not too much should be said to you anyway..i understand the whole "he is not my dad" thing but your mom needs help and she is only doing this for the best interest of you and her because she obviously has run out of options at this point

Answer 10

Well of course you are mad. Your mom is finally putting her ...well her Boyfriend's foot down. For some reason she feels she needs the help, and she is trying to get it. Give the woman a break! She worries about you and wants for you to be SUCCESSFUL in life. That is her MAIN aim at giving you discipline. I know it's tough but you will make it!! Some day you'll be older and get to make rules your kid will hate too(edit: that is if you have them).

Answer 11

Parents set rules for a reason. I was a very rebellious teen but now I see why my mom set the rules she did.
If you do not want your mom's boyfriend in charge of disciple(which he shouldn't be anyway) you should try listening to your moms rules. Even if you start by listening to the little rules it will show her that you are trying and I am sure that she will back off a bit!