does it hurt?

Question

okay so ive been seeing this guy for a while now an off and on kinda thing and i kno im NOT READY for sex and i dont plan on it any time soon but incase it does happen i wanna feel safe and i wanna kno whats going on like is it going to hurt alot && when my cherrie pops will i bleed alot or just a little?...another this is most guys i kno dont use a condom and im affraid if we do, do it then he wont so if he pulls out could i still get pregnant?

Answer 1

Yes you can still get pregnant, and an STDS, or even AIDS sweetie.. Always wear a condom, I make my husband wear one.. Hes in the military, and deploys a lot.. Everyone is different you might bleeed you might not..

Answer 2

Sweetie, if you think there's any chance at all you're going to have sex, go get yourself some protection. Birth control pills are a good start, but you also really need to use a condom to protect against STDs.

As for whether the guys you know use condoms - you know what? It's your body. You get to decide whether a condom is used. If a guy doesn't like it, he can lump it. And frankly, you don't need to worry about being rejected because you want a condom used. If a guy doesn't care enough about you to protect you, he isn't worth sleeping with anyhow. (Selfish guys tend to be crummy in bed.) The last time I checked, there was no lack of horny guys in the world, so there'll be a nice guy out there who'll respect your needs.

Absolutely DO NOT depend on your boyfriend pulling out as a means of contraception. There's so much that can go wrong with that ... the guy getting really excited and ejaculating before he expected to, plus the fact that there can be sperm in the pre-ejaculate. God only knows how many teenage girls have gotten pregnant by depending on "coitus interruptis"!

As for the pain issue, it depends on the woman. Some people have just a little discomfort, and some have quite a bit. There are a lot of variables in there, such as whether the woman has an intact hymen and whether she's had enough foreplay to be lubricated.

One thing that helps is being in a good stable relationship, one where the guy really cares about you and doesn't force you to have sex before you're physically or emotionally ready. I say that more for practical than moral reasons: the right guy will spend weeks working up to the main event with you, stimulating you with his hands and helping you lubricate and maybe even relax your vagina a little.

When you do decide to lose your virginity, whether it's next month or ten years from now, take it slow and easy. Bleeding probably won't be a big problem, but if it's a concern, you can bring a towel and a sanitary napkin along.

In the meantime, please don't feel like you have to have sex with your boyfriend because it's expected or it's what everybody else is doing or whatever. Sex is normal and healthy, but it also carries some big responsibilities and big emotional issues.

A few hundred years ago, girls were married off when they were teenagers. They went off, had households and kids, and were old by the time they were forty.

These days we live longer but there's a gap of several years between when we're sexually mature and when we're able to provide for ourselves and any kids we might have. For practical reasons, if you can wait at least awhile longer before having sex, you'll probably be better off.

Regardless of what you do or don't do, best of luck to you -

Answer 3

First things is- ALWAYS USE A CONDOM!!! Don't worry about what he thinks, think about YOU. You're the one that will get pregnant and have to raise a baby. Now, yes you can get pregnant if he pulls out because even before he ejaculates there are secretions that have sperm in them that come out. So don't take ANY chances. As far as it hurting, it does hurt some people, I didn't have any pain or bleeding at all though. It shouldn't hurt too bad, and shouldn't bleed much, if at all. But please don't do anything before you're ready. Losing your virginity is a big thing. It needs to be what you want, not what he wants. Remember that.

Answer 4

I hate to say this, but if your asking about this, then your not ready. condoms are a must! Or should be, unless you've been using birth control pills 100% the right way!

Pain? Eh, you'll be nervous....honestly, it depends on how big the penis is, and how big/small the vagina is. (sorry to be blunt). In my case, there was no pain, or blood, I could be becuase like I said, due to size, or becuase it already ripped from something i've done, like tampons or falling when I was little. I fell off my bike and landed on the bar of my bike....but anyways....
Make sure you do it with someone you know you want to be with!!!! Like a husband or something. I didn't have sex with my bf till we knew we were getting married!!! and I'm glad I did it because We are alot closer now! :)
Good luck hun

Answer 5

1.Okay so your first question is will it hurt? Well it depends from girl to girl. It honostly didn't hurt that bad for me because I was comfortable with who I was with. I dated my ex for a little over a year and we were both ready. I think that can determine a lot if your not comfortable then it won't be as pleasent and nice for your first time, even for your 2nd time it's going to be almost the same as your first. I never bled any, but we also did a lot of things throughout our year without sex :) lol. But even with that stuff you do still feel "discomfort" is what i'll say, it's not really pain. Just feels different.

2. Yes you can still get pregnant if he pulls out before he "cums", because he could easily have pre-*** and you won't even know it. Pre-*** contains sperm. Plus you don't know if he has anything, you can be born with it, or if any girl has give him oral sex without protection then they could have given him herpes, etc. So alwayssss use protection. It doesn't just protect against pregnancy but std's and sti's!! And it's not pleasent always having to worry after did I catch something, or you see something on you that's a bump that could have just came from shaving, so then you have to go the doctor and get poked and touched and stuck with needles.

So don't let a guy talk you out of it. If he does then he doesn't care for his own health or your own well being!

Answer 6

Sex the first time is painful during and after. Every woman is different so there is no way to tell you if you will bleed a little or alot when you lose your virginity. Please DO NOT have sex without a condom. You're young and you don't want to take the chance of having a child so soon nor catching something that may or may not be curable that could possibly ruin or bring your life to a premature end. If he refuses to use protection then please you refuse to have sex.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

1st it depends on your body how bad you will bleed and how bad it hurts. 2nd don't ever let a guy pressure you into sex if he won't wait for you then it shows you how much he actually cares for you. The same thing goes with wearing a condom if he won't wear it for you he really doesn't care about your well being and you shouldn't be with him. Don't settle for anyone or anything!! Your better than that!! Remember these kind of decision's are the ones that can effect the rest of your life...be careful and stay safe!!

Answer 9

Yeah u can get pregnant.I truely think that u should use a condom. No it might hurt and it might don't everybody doesn't bleed. You can have sex with out your cherry being pop. You want bleed like a period. Just a little.

Answer 10

My dear first nobody's perfect but if i were you, you have to give this for a man whom you think, you will spend the rest of your life with him. Don't be offend. But to tell you honesty ofcourse it hurts and it defends on your cherrie pops if will bleed a lot but it will.
One thing more you will never be sure even if he pulls out there's a possibilty to get pregnant, even using a pill it's not safe,how come for this. And if your not ready for making love,don't do it.

Answer 11

Oh my God. . .you are SOOOO not ready for sex! "pop your cherrie'. . .that's nice. How romantic! How connected! And you're worried about what to do if he says he won't wear a condom?? Sweetie, if he doesn't wear a condom then there should be NOOOOOO sex. YES you CAN get pregnant if he pulls out!!! I am a 32 year old mom with plenty of mommy friends, and you won't BELIEVE how that sperm can get up to your egg!!! Don't let him put that penis in your vagina if it isn't covered!!!!!