Why are people scared of commitment these days?

Question

And that for both male and female!

Answer 1

People are afraid of commitment because of responsiblties. They want to be free-spirited insetad of being bogged down to somone. When they get older then nobody want to be with them cause it's too late and there settled in their ways.

Answer 2

Why do you say these days? The other day, I was reading a lovely little conversation between two characters in a book written in about 1860 where a man did not want to marry a woman, but would prefer her as a mistress. While, 1860 is not too long ago, it's long enough for one to question 'these days'. Perhaps, if one were to look, one would find that this so called 'fear of commitment' has evidently been with us throughout the ages. Although, one can easily say that marriage no longer serves the same purpose that it used to and may not be as necessesary for the survival of our species 'these days'.

Often, when someone accuses another of being 'afraid of commitment' it is a defense mechanism because this someone is in some way undesirable for such commitment. Another thing one might want to look into is questioning whether or not commitment is at all desirable. If one simply does not like the idea of marriage commitment and feels that it serves less purpose than ever before and maybe has no need for marriage commitment, then is that fear at all? No sir, it is not!

A simple answer would be something like "omgz look at the divorce rate! and the number of fat wives out there!"

Answer 3

Funny question. Look around you, how many of your friends, family end up having children and then end up in a court battling over who is going to get the leather couch. Not the kids but that leather couch, and hell, how bout the BEAMER. The kids for years here Mom and Dad screaming all the time and they grow up thinking its all their fault. These days people are so messed up. Children are top priority To have a total commitment relationship I am assuming marriage, kids,white fence and Fito. I think I would think twice and damn sure be ready to make that commitment for all the right reasons. Children don't need to be brought up in court battles and who gets Johnny this weekend, Oh and don't forget Moms new boy friend.

Answer 4

Because of the failure rate. It is easier and less dramatic to just walk away than go through divorce court. Which only serves to muddy up the waters. Besides, knowing that the other person can simply walk away, puts them both at an advantage and on their best behavior. Maybe not at all times, but they still have to work out the problems, if not " hasta la vista, baby".

Answer 5

Some are scared today because the media makes a big thing out of divorce ( & everything lol )
& tells you constantly how high the divorce rate is & that turns people off
if they said all that way back when i married i may have had second thoughts

So Blame the Media i say!!! hahaha

Answer 6

Because we live in a society today that preaches it's all about me and if we are not happy, we can just move on to the next relationship or marriage that we think we will get what we want. Instead of actually working at making a marriage work.

Answer 7

they are afraid of failure. and if they dont commit then if it doesnt work out they havent failed so they think. or it could be they were in a bad relationship and just havent been able to get over the hurt that it caused. there can be a million reasons why but i think those are the most common.

Answer 8

Because we live in such a disposable society some feel the same about relationships and aren't willing to work through the hard times.

Answer 9

I have been in some very serious long term relationships and it scares me to death...i am like most people i want it to last forever and everyting to be perfect...the reality is that its not likely to happen so that is my reasoning...instead of getting hurt i am just single...but very happy!! guess you could call me gunshy!!

Answer 10

It's because most people aren't going into relationships trying to be themselves. They are trying to be who ever they think the person they like wants them to be. So when the person they really are shows up it freaks people out and they develop trust issues.