Things haven't been good for 3 years.. He's just been paying less and less attention to me. I've told him this many times. He didn't wish me a Happy New Year, he totally wasn't interested in something important I was trying to tell him last night, and he's just hardly every around anymore. I've nagged him and told him so many times to pay more attention to me but last nite was the last straw. He's going to want to know why I want to break up. What do I say when I think he should already know?
2007-01-08 15:16:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should tell him everything that you just wrote. that he doesn't pay enough attention to you...you deserve to be with someone that listens to you, that cares about things that are important to you, that wants to spend time with you, etc. good luck.
2007-01-08 15:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by somegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't asked why, you're jumping the gun. It may turn out that he's been hoping YOU would break up with him so that he would have the 'excuse' of it being your problems or your choices that broke you apart.
In any case, if he really hasn't been meeting your needs in relationship, and you've been open about your problems with his lack of attention, any attempt on his part to ask 'why' is probably an attempt to establish a guilt-burden on you -- or at the very least, extend the 'ending' of the relationship in an unhealthy way.
If this is your decision, then make it for your reasons. Don't spend time justifying it to him any longer than necessary -- because it won't help you feel better by going over it longer. Do it, don't review it.
2007-01-08 15:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by CarinaPapa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he probably already knows why you are breaking up with him. I mean dating for 3 years and he still hasn't asked you to marry him? Or maybe you two are too young to marry. But usually when someone is dating for that long, you would figure that they would be engaged by now.
Or let me ask this. Why did you wait another year when you knew things were not great between the two of you. Why didn't you address the issues to him then? I believe he lost interest in you within those 3 years.
Just want to let you know one thing. Guys don't like the nagging part. Could it be that you are nagging him too, too much? Could it be that you yourself are the selfish one that he just got tired of you just thinking of yourself?
I think you should ask him if you are the problem. Because when you push him too much with nagging stuff, like it is you, you, you, or me, me, me kind of thing, than you have pushed him too far.
Something to think about. (smile) Sorry for being too harsh with words. But what is his side of the story? I am so curious now. hmmm
2007-01-08 15:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him things have been going really bad the last 3 yrs and you have tryed to talk to him but he doesn't seem interested in what you have to say and tell him you can find someone who can give you what you need. and just like you said last nite was the last straw you are DONE. if he wants you to go into more detail tell him no you have said it all in the past so he should by now know what the problem is and if he doesn't then he needs to figure it out on his own. then just move on. you are not any ones doormat you are your own person with your own needs that hes not fulfilling. so i suggest you move on because your going nowhere with him. best of luck to you. :)
2007-01-08 15:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, look we both know that this relationship is getting boring, and the reason why I have to nag and you keep going in a different direction. Let us be adults about this and agree that this relationship has been over for a long time. I am moving on and you need to do the same. Do it, then do not look back, he apparently has interest else where any way.
2007-01-08 15:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~How to Break Up~
Before having "the talk" that ends the relationship, think about the reasons you are breaking up. Your partner will ask you why you want out, and you should be prepare with answers. If you have trouble remembering examples during emotional discussions or arguments, write your reasons down in advance.
Plan out how long you are willing to spend "breaking up" and stick to it. You may even want to arrange an appointment with a friend in a neutral location so that I can meet with at the restaurant in 15 minutes, so you have to go.
Sit down with your partner and let him know that you need to have a serious talk. When asked "why" or "what" about, simply respond that you've decide to end the relationship.
2007-01-08 15:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have decide he isn't going to change, then why bother giving him the extra attention he is now asking for when he's been denying you that very same thing for 3 years?
You don't owe him an explanation--you've been trying to explain for what must seem like forever now. As long as you know why you are leaving, that's all that matters at this point.
Good luck. I hope you find someone who deserves you.
2007-01-08 15:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right he should already know but it won't hurt to tell him.
It'll give him some closure and then you'll be done with it.
You don't have to bring up every little thing....you can just tell him that for a while now things haven't been going good between you and you think it would be better for both of you if you moved on.
2007-01-08 15:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men are hard to communicate with. They don't get it. That is why women say that men don't listen. Tell him the honest reason why you are leaving him. Do you feel that he doesn't care about you? Then tell him that. Maybe he just doesn't know specifically what it is you want him to do. If he doesn't accept your explanation there is nothing else you can do, leave it at that. Best wishes.
2007-01-08 15:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna think I'm being mean, but it sounds like you nagged him to death. Nothing kills a man's interest like nagging. Want him to pay more attention? Do two things: treat him like gold, and don't always return his calls.
2007-01-08 16:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him things are not going the direction that you hoped. It wouldnt be fair to either of you to stick together, when that will make it harder down the road to seperate and a waste of your youth right now. You are looking out for both of your interests. PUT IT IN YOUR OWN WORDS
2007-01-08 15:21:52 · answer #11 · answered by hoselay37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋