my bestfriend/ex boyfriend was murdered 2 weeks ago and we were together one last time before he was killed he said he had missed me since i had been away at school and he thought of me often. despite everything there was still a tenderness there we would always go back to one another. that night i saw him we slept in the same bed and he held me all night. the problem is now that hes gone idk if he was still in love with me i wonder if i had his heart when he went or part of it. I know he was dating another girl a couple of days after he slept weith me someone he knew from work and according to her myspqace profile their love was deep they were soulmates they had been dating like 3 dyas before he was killed hes known me for 3 years. plus his dad said he also spoke of me fondly to him often. so i dont know i think he loved this girl but i wonder if he loved me we had a history together and the connction we had was so powerful we remained close friends. how do i know whats real?
2007-01-08 15:15:26 · 8 answers · asked by bobbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Give the matter some time. Go through, in your own time, the grieving process; heal; learn; and move on. Hold on to the memories and don't dwell on the negative/bad times. What the two of you shared appears to have been a special relationship where each loved the other. He may have made a mistake by getting involved with another woman but that probably was just a physical situation where he made a bad decision and assumable regretted after the fact. While I in no way approve of infidelity, I must state that we all make mistakes but are worthy of being forgiven and loved in spite of our faults and poor choices. Regardless of the one-night stand he had, I am sure that he loved you and that his heart was, is, and will always be with you. The love you and he shared was special, nothing nor no one can replace that; that will always be there for you. Heal and be happy, remembering that you were blessed to have him in your life and was allowed to receive his love. I'm sure he'd want you to move on, knowing that he did in fact love you.
2007-01-08 15:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by jemeow2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you say he was only seeing her for three days and she felt that he loved her with all his heart ok well that could just be her way of greaving the only way you could ever know the truth is if you ask him and now you cant so I think the real quesion is did you Love him thats all that is real any more is the love you have for him remember that you can love him for the rest of your life but still give your heart to someone els just save a pease for him and remember that there are people that care for you. You should talk to his dad as often as you can and let him know that you still care aboute his son
2007-01-09 22:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Tink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely , I feel that there are different degrees and levels of love
To me if someone touched your heart, there was a connection, and even if your not together, it will always be there and special. It's amazing how many people can touch your heart within a lifetime. And I look forward to many more connections.
2007-01-08 23:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gargirl™® 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't really know! Sorry i cant help much but my guess would be yeah he loved you but you wasn't there all the time so he had to find some one who could be there while you weren't there. He didn't love her because love is something that grows with time and they did not have enough time to let it grow. He was most likely just using her.But that's just a guess!
2007-01-08 23:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by D-Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...thats hard im sorry.... Honestly i think he most likely loved you with that kind of a relationship he did, more than likely he was scared to tell you because of the friendship yall had. Even if he did love the other girl, theres no doubt in my mind that you took part in his heart!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-08 23:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by tootles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's more than one meaning to love,know one love is the same. people dont just love one persons,do they? do you? i dont......BUT being IN LOVE is not the same as loving someone.Sorry for your lost.
2007-01-08 23:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by free4jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, I didn't really read your story, but just from the first sentence I can tell you NO, it can't!!!!
2007-01-08 23:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by BES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just say it ! it was real hold on to it .
2007-01-08 23:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by bigmomma3526 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋