well i have a 3 week old baby named mallory the thing is my sister see how i am with my baby i play with her all day but now she want's a baby and she only 14 i try so many things to tell her but it dont look like its helping at all can you help me plz thank you.
2007-01-08 15:14:07 · 18 answers · asked by lori7642 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Thats great that she wants a baby, dont be too concerned yet, its quite normal, when my sister got a horse i wanted one too! It will wear off. Get her to give you a hand with the diapers, the night feeds, the unsettled times, but also the good times. She will soon see what a tie Mallory would be if she were hers. Also you could try telling her some of the hard things for you, but i'd say at 14 shes not going to hear those!Tell her what a wonderful aunty she is and that should be enough. You obviously have a gorgeous baby and are doing a great job if you make it look such an attractive prospect.
2007-01-08 15:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by askauntkt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow 14 is young! All I wanted at that age was brand name clothing! This sounds bad but can you show her your stretch marks or something? Do you have stitches or any other parts of your body that, whilst undergoing the normal processes after childbirth, will hopefully seem hideous to a 14 year old girl who know doubt is pre-occupied with appearances. Can you make her wear a jumper with sick on it to school? Or stick a dirty nappy in her school bag and when all her friends start calling her names like "poopie-bag" or "stinky-girl" maybe she'll reconsider.
Otherwise, having her mind the baby for awhile is a good idea. And I mean properly mind, not with you there to help. Maybe get her to mind the baby on nights when she would rather go out, making her miss some social life. Also get her to change the nappies, and clean up sick, and wash clothes, cook dinner, clean up dinner, do the grocery shopping, bathing etc.
Another good idea might be to get an alarm clock and set it to go off ever 2 hours all night long. Each time it goes off get her to walk around the house for half an hour carrying a 4 kilo weight. Repeat for approximately 2-5 years and she should be cured I reckon. Well at least until she's old enough to cope properly with the real thing.
As a last resort, get her a script for the pill and tell her not to be so bloody stupid! Good luck with that one...
2007-01-08 15:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with harrisnish, Give her the baby to look after, and make her do everything, do not take the baby from her until the next day. Stay in the house, just in case of an emergency since she is young, but the best birth control would be for her to find out what looking after a newborn it. After a few poopy diapers, uncontrollable crying by both baby and sister, some throw up smelly shirts (Hers) she may not want a baby anymore.
2007-01-08 15:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by MRod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok i am 19 and just finished out high school in june and i have a 3 month old baby girl. and if i was you i would not tell your sis but beg he to wait to have kids. Tell her that she is more than welcome to play and bond with mallory as much as she wants, as a matter of fact encourage her to come and stay with you "help you out" and in a sense give her control to feed and burp and change and calm and soothe and play and get to sleep and wake up at ALL hours of the night with Mallory just to let her get a feel of what she is in for . but i think that for this to really work that you need to act as if you are totally exhausted and just need a break so ask her to take on your responsibilites for about two days with out any help from you or anyone else. This might sound crazy but i tell you what having someone elses child all on your own with no help is the best birth control ever and not only that but it will give YOU a chance to rest.For say a friday night have her stay and you go out for a while. then saturday morning run some arronds like grocery shopping or paying bills, if all that is done then just go and visit an old friend for a while. then when you get back home lay down take a nap. this way you stay occupied and she well hopefully learns that once they are yours you cant give them back. se i have 22 neices and nephews and hae helped raisethem all and i have to say that now that i have my own it is totally different cause evn though i helped raise them i didnt have to get up with them and be there for every moment every cry and now i do and at times yea it is frustrating but i wouldnt give her up for anything in the world. so basicaly give your sis a little taste of motherhood. and if it doesnt help and only makes thing worse then i am so terribly sorry. oh yea and after she leaves dont let go of malory cause it will feel like forever since you have held her.
2007-01-08 15:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your sister take care of the baby all day/night You of course be there to supervise but for all of the diaper changes, bathings, etc have her do them (besides don't YOU deserve the break?). Have her sleep in the same bedroom as the baby and get up with the baby in the middle of the night. What would even be better is to have your sister come over and do all of the above during a time the baby is super cranky.
2007-01-08 15:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her that she can come over and help you with your baby anytime, and let her be around the baby alot and let her take care of her.... with your supervision of course....So she can see how much hard work it is to have a kid.... and maybe while she is doing that ... call up one of her friends and ask them to ask her to come hang out or something... and so she can see... if you have a baby... you can't just go and leave and have fun without taking the baby with you! Just so she sees how it is!
Thats what I would do anyways!
Good luck! Tell her to enjoy being young and not having responsibilities for as long and she can and tell her to buy a baby puppy... they are alot like a newborn! Well in some ways!
2007-01-08 15:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Becca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'm with the others. The words aren't sinking in, so it's time for a demonstration.
Have your sister take care of the baby 24/7 for awhile so she can see exactly how exhausting it is. No trips to the mall, no outings with friends, sometimes not even showers or being able to use the bathroom by herself.
Too bad your baby probably isn't to the point of having colic yet. That's loads of fun.
BTW - congratulations on your new baby!
2007-01-08 15:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your sister to spend the weekend with you and your baby. Under your supervision let her take care of the baby's needs constantly, when the baby wakes at night, drag your sister right along to help you take care of the baby. Let her get a real taste of how it is to be a new mother. She will soon learn that it's not all fun and games, that it's alot of hard tiring work that's done out of love.
2007-01-08 15:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by cookiefactory4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her get up with the baby at night. When I was in high school I got the latest addition of baby alive to take home for a week. It was horrible. Make sure you don't leave her unsupervised with her boyfriend, and talk to her about the dangers of STD's. Explain to her that you are glad you waited, and that she doesn't have a car to take the baby anywhere. I hope that her baby fever goes away. I hate seeing those poor girls on Maury.
2007-01-08 15:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by Pregnant with Baby #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey almost fourteen years ago I was your sister. I thought it was so cool that my sister had a baby and he was so cute and cuddly. She admires you and wants to be like you, and she feels it is fun to have a baby cause thats probly all she ever sees. let her babysit or come over and spend the day with you and take care of the baby for doing everything. The hard thing will be to let her take care of the baby while she's crying cuz you'll want to cut in and take over.
2007-01-08 15:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by lizincali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋