Im really scared! please dont tell me to see a psychologist. I cry every night cause i dont want to go to college and leave my family, I want to be a little girl again. Can you please help me? I dont want to be scared for the rest of my life. will it pass? is it just a stage? dont say anything mean!
2007-01-08 15:08:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Will this feeling ever go away?
2007-01-10 08:19:51 · update #1
It's okay to be scared of growing up. It's just a stage that people encounter. Every now and then you will realize that being a grown up will help you and your family and your country. Growing up doesn't mean your leaving your family, you can always visit them or let them stay with you! Just be careful of the people around you, some may fool you but don't give up on them, learn your rights and wrong! And growing up give you independence in your self! sure there are lots of responsibility but there are life treasures, too! Like being fortunate, having a family or just plain living hapilly ever after! So don't be afraid, it's not going to eat you or something... It's just like others and your parents! They live a life of grown people! Just don't forget to cherish your childhood cause it's just for a few years....
2007-01-08 15:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mae-Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself. No one expects you to be all grown up overnight.
Talk over your fears with your parents, or an older sibling if you can. It's not unreasonable to experience some anxiety over some of the decisions that you are now facing at this time in your life.
I remember having some of the same feelings when I was about to graduate High School, & had to choose a college, & a course.
Everyone makes it seem like you are making a decision that you are going to have to live with for the rest of your life. I chose a course in communications, & later on decided that I wanted to become a musician, & then leven later on I decided to become a flying instructor.
If you can, choose a college that is close to home. If that isn't possible then remember, that even though you will be living away from your family while away at college you really haven't left them at all. In a short while you will have made so many new friends, & will be so busy with classes, & study that you won't have time to miss them anyway. Then all of a sudden there will be a break, like Christmas or something, & you will be home for that.
You won't be moving out really. This will be just a small step in preparation for getting out on your own, but you will still have your family close by you no matter how far away you will actually be.
2007-01-08 15:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I am not being mean I just wonderd. If you are that scared why don't you go to a jr. college first and get all your general education out of the way. That way you could still live at home, or at least in the same town, depending on your parents ideas, and not have to leave them for at least another 2 years. Jr. colleges are everywhere and a good place to start.
2007-01-08 15:13:38 · answer #3 · answered by 'lil peanut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LMFAO, cut your stings from mommy and daddy, and it is just a stage, you are used to always having your family around, and them being there when you need help most, look at it as driving your car for the first time with out your family in the passenger seat, but this is a much long ride. You can always come visit them, and call them, and write.
2007-01-08 15:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was scared to. my mom was always sick and i thought growing up = being sick all the time. but as i got older and i saw life is different for everyone i got more confident and adventurous. by 30 i had been to a dozen countries or more. growing up means freedom. exploring your hearts desires, learning more about yourself and helping others. staying home and a little girl is boring. look forward to growing up!! start imagining how much fun it will be if you make it that way - its up to you!!!
on a side note - you shld see a therapist,, you don't want your fears causing you anxiety attacks or causing you to be co dependant. it doesn't sound healthy to be as afraid as you are,, get help before it gets worse.
2007-01-08 15:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by bb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 15-16 your nevertheless youthful...........in the journey that your not waiting then tell your mothers and fathers your not waiting. this is scary growing to be up i understand this is confusing yet slowly you should commence taking duty's this is not that scary. i'm 16 and in college i had to strengthen up quick . i began college 4 years previous. this is really scary even as till you already understand your growing to be up. it truly is a replace all of us ought to bypass by. yet your nevertheless youthful savour lifelike the youngster you're. each so often you should step out of the relax of your mothers and fathers and study , reality, reality means that sure your mothers and fathers can safeguard you yet till even as? Your nevertheless youthful ,your not a grown up yet............as you strengthen you'll study a thanks to evolve with no need your mothers and fathers round. strong success !!!! Georgia
2016-12-02 00:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all fear separating from the comfort of family, especially if what you're in looks better than what's in front of you. I don't know how old you are, but in your teen years your feelings can be pretty intense, and your attitudes can change a lot. Hang in there, and find friends to confide in. Good luck.
2007-01-08 15:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by bullwinkle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats the fear from the unknown.
happened to all of us,
but once u make the first step out, and know where u goin and wt u doin, then u'll enjoy it, and love it.
it's a beautiful world out there if u go around beautiful ppl and make beautiful freinds.
at the same time it's very harsh too, if u dont know where u goin or wt u doin,
and dont think b4 u act
2007-01-08 15:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was afraid of growing old myself!
i think it's just a stage in our lives especially when we grew very close with our loved ones...
we are afraid to be departed from them...
u know,the sense of independence is kinda scary but i know u'll learn eventually...
i know i did!
2007-01-08 15:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to be like that when i first started college
but it's not bad
you must look at how much freedom you have at college and you can always go back home
the world of adult can be scary but also very entertaining
2007-01-08 15:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by Evermore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋