Okay so after being married to her for 16 years and her gaining the weight, I just don't love her! I don't treat her bad all the time, I just ignor her! Yes, we do have a daughter and in five years she'll be eighteen and I won't have to pay child support. 12 years ago today we lost a daughter. Weather or not my wife is depressed over this, I don't know and to be honest, do not care! Like I've stated before she's packed on the pounds and does not look like she did when we first married, not to say I do either, but at least I try! I feel she is over weight, lazy and doesn't contribute to this family. At least the way I want her to. I've tried to be a little more honest, my wife is the one with the problem! If I was mean I would call her names and tell her she's over weight, but I don't. I just do not want to deal with her, I have other important things to deal with. Like my job, my classes, and homework. Why should I have to deal with her too! Ignoring her is best.
2007-01-08 14:54:37 · 13 answers · asked by -->-->Funkster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So are you teaching your daughter - this is the way "men love women" and to look for a partner that will treat her the same as her father treats her mother?
If you are going to stay with her for the remaining years - you need to improve your attitude so your daughter will see a loving person as her idea mate// That is why you are staying with someone you don't LOVE - so that you can do something right for your daughter?
2007-01-08 15:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by woozeylucy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a a** She should be the one to file for a Divorce, Since you don't care that she may or may not still be depressed over losing your daughter 12 years ago you are a worthless loser. She doesn't need you and if all you are worried about is your daughter turning 18 in 5 years and you not having to pay child support then you don't need your daughter either.
2007-01-08 23:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even stat that in 4 yrs your daughter will be 18 that just sucks on your part. Your wife gained weight help her lose it take her to the gym. Youll lost a daughter 12 yrs ago shes still mourning her loss let her be. It sounds like you are the one with the problem deal with yourself first. Or maybe do her a favor and divorce her... Im so sick of men being punk azz's
2007-01-08 23:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dareisha 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it's all about u, u don't care if she has problems, or if she is depressed. u need to talk to her, not the kind of talk that will put her on the defensive but a heart to heart talk, where u show concern about her. if u don't want to put the effort into dealing with anything, your all about u, u love her conditionally, only if she fits the criteria you've created in your mind, about how she is suppose to act, look, behave...but certain things happened in her life, bad things, that hurt her and may contribute to her weight gain. sometimes we use food to comfort us, when we are depressed. can u get her some counseling? and while your at it also for yourself, as u are really quite insensitive, and self serving, almost narcissistic.
2007-01-09 08:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a jerk sorry to say. Looks has nothing to do with marriage and who cares if she doesnt look the way she did when you first meet. Sounds like you are not contributing to the family either since you just ignore her but gee you are pretty quick to point the finger to her. You lost a daughter and you don't care how she feels about that. SELFISH ahole
2007-01-08 23:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by workit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh so it's okay because you don't treat her bad ALL the time? WTF? Why are you putting her through this? Leaving would be better. Your more worried about child support than trying to work on your marriage?? What kind of example are you setting for your daughter?? Didn't think of that one huh? Ever think about talking to your wife about how you feel? Maybe getting past her looks? Oh wait, your too busy. Whatever.
2007-01-08 23:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by GraceSlickChick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So basically you married her for her LOOKS???! Wow you ever wonder why she doesn't contribute to the family?? I don't blame her your a depressing man.... Dam if I were married to you... I'd lose the weight and leave your bald *** for some young dude!
Of course you don't care about her, your to busy caring about YOU! And it's taking up tons of room!
2007-01-08 23:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Great. That's just great. Well, the handle fits: Funky Cold.
Now there's a tactic to keep a marriage together: Ignore your partner!
Let us know how it works for you.
2007-01-08 23:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'll wait for you until you leave your wife. You sound like a real dream... or nightmare. I'll think about that.
2007-01-08 23:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Selfish, self centered b astard!!! Do her a favor and MOVE OUT!!!
2007-01-08 23:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ann_swer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋