i cannot let this matter down, she is having an affair with my husband, and she ask my husband not to divorce me, else she will leave him...
Although now divorce is inevitable, if you are me, will you purposely create trouble for both of them... or will you just let them happily ever after since you have proceed with divorce?
2007-01-08 14:47:24 · 24 answers · asked by Kiki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why seek revenge, and tie yourself to these two forever, revenge is to show them u did well in life, in spite of the plans they made that caused the heartache. to seek revenge will just keep the pain and hurt alive. know that they can't escape karma, that it will come to them sooner or later, they will not get to live the happy life u think they will. go with your dignity, and self respect. just divorce him let her have him, as u will never be able to have the same relationship as u once had with him, just won't happen. there will be trouble for them much worse than anything u can do, if u just sit back and wait and watch their lives. why is it her decision that he not divorce u? should be your decision, u were the one done the injustice. chances are she is insisting that he divorce u, if u knew the truth of the matter.
2007-01-09 01:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should let things go .... knowing that its hard but since things have already happened the way it is ...no matter how you dwell over it .... it will only makes you more unhappy ... if you create trouble for both of them ... in the end you will still be at the losing end.... whereas if you move on with your life, you might find happiness in other aspects of your life .... who know whether they will end up happily ever after or not .... but if you move on there's a high possibility tat you live your life happily ever after.... I always felt that we woman definately will be able to survive even without the men....and i believe you will too ....
2007-01-09 01:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Yve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure. I am not in that situation I want to say that I would make trouble for both of them and hurt them the way that they have hurt me. But then again I would probably just get a divorce and move on with my life I would probably have to be the bigger and better person than they are apparently he doesn't care about you or he would have never cheated.
Good Luck with your decision.
2007-01-08 22:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been a good wife to your husband prior to his rendezvous, don't you think its a blessing in disguise that you are gonna be free from a man who doesn't deserve you? Besides, if your husband doesn't know how to appreciate his loving and caring wife, do you think there's gonna be happily ever after for both of them? Anyway, creating any trouble for her will not make your life rosier,or would it?
2007-01-09 14:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, neither one of them is worth the time it would take to get them back. Just get out of it and move on. You lower yourself to their level if you start looking for ways to get back at them. Plus no matter how mad you want to be at her, hes the one with the emotional attachment to you and should have known better. The best way you can get either one of them back is to move on. More than likely the 'new' and excitement will wear off the affair and he will come back to you. Thats when you tell him to kiss your a** and will be the best revenge you can get
2007-01-08 22:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by BigEasy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him and take what you can get. She's an issue, but not one for you to deal with. Let's see how much she likes him when he's going through a divorce and ends up homeless and broke.
2007-01-08 22:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely revenge. All you need is patience and when the opportunity shows (you jump on it). Once revenge has been accomplished; leave them alone (they are no longer worthy of your time).
Final statement:
Make sure they know it was you (mission accomplished).
Remember that the best revenge ever is to live well. Good Luck!
2007-01-08 22:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a line of crapp... She the other woman ask the husband not to divorce you... Honey she is probably begging him to divorce you.. Not your problem is not with the other woman... the problem is your hubby.. kick the bum out and take him for everything he has.. As far as the other woman goes well that want last either. He will cheat on her too..
2007-01-08 22:53:35 · answer #8 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say divorce him then don't stoop to their level and create problems. My theory is once a cheater always a cheater so what comes around goes around they will both get it some way just not by you
2007-01-08 22:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by workit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will create enough trouble for themselves. Take the high road and be an island of calm in the troubled sea they have created. You will look (and be) the better person.
2007-01-08 22:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by thrill88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋