Is there organizations to help single mothers with twins?

Question

My friend is about to deliver anyday. She is pregnant with twins. She is going through financial difficulty. Th twins father has left her high and dry. Her mother has passed and she is estranged from her father.I told her to go to social services, but because she works, she is not eligible. Can you think of any organizations that will help her out financially? Please do not give smart butt answers.

Answer 1

There is an organization that does outreach for parents of multiples to help them financially and elsewise, although I can't think of the name of it right now.

A great place for your friend to look into -- it may offer financial assistance, it will certainly know the organization I'm thinking of and point her toward it, and, in any event, is something that any parent of multiples should look into -- is the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs, Inc. The web site is located at http://www.nomotc.org/. Through it, your friend can find local support.

Twins Magazine is another resource -- and I know I've seen the group whose name I can't recall mentioned in the periodical and probably at their web site, which is at http://www.twinsmagazine.com/

A resource that I think is invaluable is at twinstuff.com, a site started by twins -- their forums (message boards) are wonderful and active, and a great support -- your friend will find a lot of support and information there, indeed. Those forums are at http://forums.twinstore.com/groupee

As a parent of twins, single or otherwise, your friend should be sure to register with similac, enfamil, and other makers of formula and other baby products. It doesn't matter if she intends to breastfeed -- there is simply no way to know whether that will work out as planned, and all of these companies offer ongoing coupons for parents of multiples, and free formula (usually they send you a free case of formula after you register, with monthly coupons thereafter for good amounts off formula). The hospital should have the paperwork for this.

Other kid related companies, like Tiny Love (which makes great mobiles and other toys) offer twin discounts -- call them or check out their website for registration information.

Also, your friend should be sure to speak with a social worker at the hospital about this -- the social worker *should* be familiar with numerous sources for twin discounts and financial assistance, including anything from local governments. Your friend may qualify for SSI if the babies are low birthweight (I hope they're not, but, if they are....). She may qualify for WIC. Also, many twins are premature -- if they are (it doesn't sound like it from your post, but, if they are....) they may need or benefit from physical therapy, occupational therapy, etc. (and that may become an issue even if they're not preemies, of course) -- there's something called EI (Early Intervention) in, I believe, every single state, and in the District of Colombia, which is available free of charge in most cases (I know in DC it's on some sliding scale based on income) to provide needed evaluations and services to your children, in your home.

There is LOTS out there. Please, have your friend log on to the forums at twinstuff, or do so for her if she can't -- if you post a question there you'll get lots of responses from parents of twins who really know the ins and outs of this stuff. And if you specify where your friend is living, you'll get local info too.

Having twins is no easy feat -- your friend is very lucky to have someone like you looking out for her!

Answer 2

Organizations That Help Single Mothers

Answer 3

If she lives in the US there is an organization called WIC that offers assistance to mothers and their children. Often they pay for formula or Breast pumps. I remember when I was in the hospital after having my daughter there was a social worker who came to the room asking questions about if we had a crib, clothing ect. for the baby. I am sure that if you contact the hospital they will have many resources for mothers. Often hospitals have support groups for new mothers. I know that I had a supportive family and only one baby and found life after having my daughter difficult, and talking to other new moms going through the same things can really help... it makes you realize you're not crazy! Others have mentioned going to local churches, and that is a fabulous idea. whether your friend is a member or not Churches are often willing to help. I might even recommend checking out Churches in the area now, and maybe finding one that she feels comfortable with churches are a good place to find kind, loving people willing to help people, and often there are lots of "surrogate" grandparents. She is lucky to have a good friend like yourself, watch her closely after delivery for signs of post-partum depression. It is very common and when someone is already facing a lot of challenge in their lives it can make them vulnerable to depression. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 4

She can call Social Services and see if there are other programs available that she does qualify for. She can probably get WIC for food and formula and Section 8 to help with housing. I am a member of our local freecylers group and if anyone needs something all they have to do is ask and other people will happily help. Also there are probably some parents of multiples support groups she can join to get support and suggestions.

Answer 5

Try the National Mothers of Twins Club website (www.nomotc.org). They have just started a new support group for single parents of multiple birth children. You can also search for a Mothers of Multiples club in your area - they should be able to offer lots of support for her.

Answer 6

My cousin had the same thing happen to her. There is an extensive network of support for parents of twins as well as support for moms without husbands.

Look in the yellow pages under "Associations" or "Societies" and I'll bet you will find something. One of the best things about these groups is the sharing of clothes, double carriages, etc. A wonderful group.

You are a good friend!

Answer 7

Unless the twins' father took off in a rocket ship or died, he is required to pay child support. He doesn't have a choice. She needs to sue for it. Social services should be able to help her with that. She might be able to get some help with daycare expenses so she can continue to work as well.

Answer 8

Talk to the health department, local church, goggle search. Just because she works does not mean she cant get help it just depends on how much she make. Go to your local dhs let them decide if she makes to much money. I have two kids and I am a single mom. I work I don't get food stamps, but my 20 month old gets wic and both my kids get medicaid and I get help with my daycare. Because of how much I make I only get help with 40 percent of my daycare but that is better then nothing.

Answer 9

well I don't know any organizations. But you can try this. You can help her give birth to her twins. Then be the godmother and help her out till you can find someone to help her out. But if that doesn't work you shoul try plan B. You go to work and she'll have to shorten her work ours to keep track of her kids. you can work day while she works night and you can keep track. But eaither way you have to help her out.

But even if you do your a good friend. Your better then that ungrateful father. I think he wanted "it" so he can get a another women pregnant and keep leaving them high and dry.

good luck with the twins and god bless you!!!

Answer 10

i don'nt know where you live but where i live there is all kind of help for single mothers. Theres WIC (helps with food like milk,eggs,juice,cheese,peanut butter during the pregnancy and after word) if i were you and your friend i would ask social service if they know of any places that help with single mothers.
Good luck.