So there's this girl in my grade, and she thinks I hate her, because I totally sniped at her one time (I blame it on PMS). But I don't hate her, she just sometimes gets on my nerves. So I'm trying to make her realize I don't hate her, but she won't believe me. Today at lunch, though, I think I made some progress. See, she was whining about how she'd never be a famous actress or singer unless she lost weight or suddenly acquired gorgeous looks. It's true, she's a bit big, but no one tells her that to her face. She also has these beautiful blue eyes, but she has a bad complexion which sets them off. So we (myself and a couple of friends) tried to reassure her that she was fine, but we're all sick of her complaining. I want her to stop complaining about this, but if I tell her, she'll complain that I hate her. So what do I do?
2007-01-08 14:46:20 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She sounds like a diva-in-making, very attention-needy and insecure. I guess it depends how much of a friendship you want to have with her. i.e., do you want to be really good friends or just another girl to have lunch with?
Personally I can't stand whiny people, so I'd either be blunt and tell her that her complaining is irritating (try the soft approach first unless she's really dense) or just suffer in silence and maintain my distance. If she can't handle constructive criticism then too bad for her and no loss for you. Do you really want to spend your days worrying if this girl thinks you hate her, and/or reassuring her about her looks? At the end of the day, you want to be friends with people who share your interests, are interested in you and not just themselves, and have more substance than worry about their looks. If she's so worried about her weight, she can go work out! And get ProActiv for her complexion!
2007-01-08 15:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by alex405hi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being honest is no reason to hate someone
Aint that what friends do to each other, just be honest & explain it to her that she is fine the way she is and tell her if she cant except that, then you dont know what else you can do for her.
2007-01-08 22:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur to you that maybe she complains for the attention??????
2007-01-08 23:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋