2 months ago, i met this girl who rocked my world. she is everything you could ever want and more. she liked me too, somewhat but was scared bc i was moving away (as i just graduated college and am going back home 500 miles away). so now she is dating someone else. and i am also trying to date other people, trouble is i can't forget her. i keep thinking about how my life would be with her, there is like something missing. i just graduated and always thought i'd be glad for that but now all i want is to go back in time. i can't tell her how i feel bc that would be unfair to her. she wrote to me recently that she has gotten over her guilt (i think for liking me while dating someone else but it could be for hurting mean) and that she is open to whatever i want to write but i don't know what this means. i am the most clean-cut, well-behaved kid but all i want to do is disappear into drugs or something, just to forget. what should i do??
2007-01-08 14:38:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you should go back to her.
2007-01-08 15:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Alexa K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have two options.....you can move on and continue to try to forget, or you can make some sort of grand gesture. If you make some sort of grand gesture, you may be embarrassed, but it is better than not knowing what might have been. As far as the drugs and alcohol thing, if you graduated you are smart enough to know that it is not a good response to a life crisis. If you are truly that crazy about this girl, go and get her back! The fact that she has written saying she is open to hearing what you want to say is almost an invitation to tell how you feel, but I wouldn't do it by letter. Good luck!
2007-01-08 15:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by gramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the expression "It ain't over 'til the fat lady sings"?
All hope is not lost . . . perhaps she came into your life for a season to teach you some things, and perhaps you learned from her. That being said, you don't know that she won't ever be back in your life again. I think you should continue to be her friend, first and foremost. Secondly, consider the circumstances and how she may feel - you moved FIVE HUNDRED miles away. =(
It's not like you're 3 freeway exits away from her anymore. And take it from my point of view, as a woman: we women like stability and if someone in whom we're interested ups and moves away as you did, we may feel that stability is threatened. Do we hold on to the notion that it may still work out? Or do we just throw our hands up and say "It's best we just be friends and not attempt a relationship because of the distance"? It's possible she may even feel that perhaps you have moved on too, and since you're not around, who's to say that she's not also thinking that you may be interested in others? So, email her, give her a call here and there, let her know the next time you plan to be in her "hood" =). Show her that you STILL think of her -- that alone gives her a sense of stabilitiy. =) I hope it all works out in your favor.
Best,
Jazzy J
2007-01-10 07:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jazzy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go to drugs as a last resort. Always carry faith in your heart and soul. You are an outstanding person. I feel "honesty" is the best policy. It is unfair if you do not tell her how you feel about her, how you hurt inwardly regarding her and how things would be with her in your life etc. My parents have always taught truth is the best medicine of all. Follow your heart you never go wrong there.
2007-01-08 14:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do drugs. I don't know what all this faith stuff is about but just don't do it.
Second, you met her two months ago. You barely know her. Yeah, I know you don't believe me... Blah, blah, blah, but it's true. Sure you liked her a lot and she liked you back but you don't get to know someone in that short of a time.
You can write her back explaining your feelings and seeing what she says, but it seems that she has mostly moved on and you should try doing it too. Yes, it feels unfair doing that, but sometimes we have to be selfish for just a little while to keep ourselves from getting hurt.
2007-01-08 15:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, forget the drugs. That doesn't fix anything. If you really do connect with her, give it a shot. At least that way you won't go through life wondering what might have been. Be totally honest with her and see where it goes. Good luck. :)
2007-01-08 15:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont drift into drugs, and i hate to be the barrier of bad news but you know in your heart what she meant when she said "gotten over her guilt" just take it and move on always remember when it comes to love the first emotion is the right 1
2007-01-08 14:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by Change 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont turn to drugs, just write her, what do you have to lose? maybe she feels the same way, and cant let you know...tell your feelings to her. Good luck be strong... if she doesnt feel the same- move on ... you deserve someone who can love you....
2007-01-08 14:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by jodi c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try contacting her and let her know how you feel. Then that strong feeling will let you know the rest when you talk to her.
2007-01-08 14:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have faith, if it is true love then it will all work out in the end..good luck to you
2007-01-08 14:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋