Is it ok beat your' kids?

Question

I have grown up with my parents beating me for disciplinary reasons. An exampleis, if I get caught doing something bad or have been messinbg around in school. Do you think that there is anything wrong with what my parents have done and if so, how should they change their disciplinary techniques?

Answer 1

there is nothing wrong with spanking.but spanking is not beating. spanking is discipline.

Answer 2

I'm 34 years old. I came from an era where it was acceptable to physically discipline your children. I don't have kids of my own but if I did I would not discount corporal punishment. I feel it is necessary only if it will be effective. Some kids do not respond to it and some do. My brother did not respond to it well and continued to do the things he shouldn't. I recieved swats all the time at school when I was in the 1st and 2nd grades and by the third discovered I didn't like it and adjusted my behavior accordingly. I didn't get spanked too much at home-mostly because I did my best to not get caught.

I occasionally got smacked around when my parents would find out about something. It was usually out of anger-if there was a discussion, it was usually after I had been slapped and pushed around. It was normally my mom who did the physical part and my dad the discussing. My mom was also an undiagnosed, and therefore unmedicated, bi-polar. I can only remember one time where my parents tried to spank me in a controlled enviroment. I had cut school when I was 14 or 15 and my parents discussed my punishment and then came up to my room with a belt. That was the one thing I feared.

I wish my parents had tried punishing me that way from the beginning. I may have turned out different. Spanking would have worked with me.

I can't say that it would work for you, and as long as it isn't a "beating" defined by slapping, punching, kicking, etc., then yes, it is ok for them to use corporal punishment to disciple you. And of course you can avoid the subject by doing what you are supposed to be doing. Your parents aonly punish you because they want you to do the best you can life. Believe me, I wish I had listened to my parents more when I was a kid instead of having to play "catch-up" now that I am an adult. I hope this helps you and good luck in all your endeavors.

Answer 3

No beating please.

Definitely have your own disciplinary techniques such as time-out, privileges taking out. Most important of all ignore the bad behavior if kid is not in any danger and concentrate on good behavior. Good behavior should always be compensated according to age.

Remember that abuse is the weapon of the vulgar. You should do better than your parents and your kids should do and be better than you.

Find out about parenting classes. Parenting classes will be one of your most valuable assets. Break the cycle of physical abuse.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with a quick swat to the rear particularly in dangerous situations (like running into the road, trying to touch the stove, etc.). However, BEATING a child is not right at all. If you are actually trying to hurt your child when punishing them, you are doing it for the wrong reasons, and you're only going to make the child fear you and your beatings. They won't actually think about what they did wrong or learn any lesson from it. Not to mention, you can lose your children and go to prison if you beat them, especially if you leave marks or bruises on them.

Answer 5

Theres a fine line between abuse and discipline when beating kids so make sure if you have to, its to teach them that what theyre doing is wrong or that they shouldnt talk back to you
My parents beat me and I turned out okay - all my friends were beaten and we're perfectly normal and not psychologically scarred or anything...maybe in this day and age people dont condone it, but I dont think (IF u dole it out in discipline) that it would harm a child...as long as its not malicious
Its funny I would come across this question, just today, a group of students at my school were talking about the different punishments/beatings we got as children and most of them agreed that it was for their own good and they deserved it - so no, i dont think ur parents were wrong for doing it
If u still feel strange beating ur child then u probably want to use another form of punishment...one girl at my meeting today said that the most painful punishment her mother ever gave her that was non-physical was to take her music away from her. Mine, from my father, was to stand in an empty corner and not talk...THAT, for me, was painful!

Answer 6

there's a line between discipline and abuse. whilst i became a baby at my aunt's domicile my cousin did something to me (can't keep in mind) yet I informed his father and his father beat him horribly. If I knew that would have occurred then i does not have informed him. My uncle burnt my different cousin's thigh fairly undesirable. it fairly is baby abuse. Now, my mom, aunts, and grandparents disciplined/whooped my azz purely large. I hardly needed discipline, yet I keep in mind having to head and harm a stick off a tree and the style of leather-based. as quickly as, whilst i became a baby my step-father went too a strategies and hit me interior the face with a belt. My eye stayed slam close the finished summer season. i became youthful and did as my mom suggested (did not say what extremely occurred) yet I wish i might have positioned him in detention center 10,000 circumstances over. there is punishment and then there is baby abuse. If I ever have babies then i'll discipline them as I see in large condition, yet i'll actual not abuse them because of the fact i be attentive to how that is. Azz beatings shop youngsters in line. Now, there are some youngsters the place beating their azz would not do any sturdy anymore. I extremely have somewhat cousin who's like that. He has gotten right into a lot hardship that as quickly as he's disciplined he's lower back at it lower back.

Answer 7

Since I don't know the specifics, I can't say if they should change. Many times, kids exaggerate and call it "beating" when actually it isn't. Do they leave bruises? They are what you might call "old fashioned' - - - you know, they were apparently raised to believe that a good "old fashioned" a** whooping has more effect than a lecture or "time out". I've seen some kids where this is definitely so.

You have admitted they do it only when you have been caught doing something bad - - - which leads me to believe you are naughty. My advice is to straighten up, grow up a bit, and try to earn their respect through good behavior, not bad.

Answer 8

It is never alright to beat your kids although I admit there is a real; lack of respect to elders these days. When we were young we got a switching,a belt or even a hot wheels track accross our back but that was very rare. Today there are many laws forbidding this and even a preschool kid is told to tell if they get a spanking. I myself spanked my kids maybe twice in their life and it was with a clam cool hand on the buttocks that hurt me worse but yet they feel they were disciplined. There is always time outs,taken privalages away etc. Besides I never heard that spanking made a big difference although your well known Ceo's etc said they were spanked.

Answer 9

Yes but never when you are angry, only when you are doing it to teach a lesson, because otherwise you will use more force and it wont actually mean anything. Also try not to beat kids of any age more than once every two weeks because that will just cause them to build up a resilience and become rebellious

Answer 10

what do you mean "beat"?
if you mean a light "whipping" (with a belt or other object) or a spanking (on the legs or butt with hand. paddle or brush) you will survive to improve whatever it is they want you to do.

But then there is the "beat down", like in a fight with bruises and serious chances of being hurt.

If you are being truly beaten--like very hard hits and punches-you need to report it to someone who can help you...there have been incidents of abuse to the point of crippling a person to the point of death or actual death.

Answer 11

NO!! It is not ok to beat children!!! They are people too and if you physically harm a person, you can go to jail. I think that they should talk with the kids about what they did wrong and then can agree on a resonable punishment.