is it normal to have had little or no sexual experiences in highschool?

Question

I'm 18 and in my last year of highschool and I have had no sexual experiences in anyway yet, I've been told im good looking but yet I get no action. I was just wondering if thats weird, my school only has a little over 100 people so it's not like theres many opportunities, I just feel like i should have atleast made out with someone by now.

Like I said earlier I'm actually pretty good looking (so I'm told) but yet I end up being some cute guys that girls like, not a guy girls want to kiss ( i dont think atleast). Also does anyone have advice on how to be more sexual towards girls, without sounding creepy or like I just want to sleep with them. I think thats my problem I keep thinking that if I act like im interested in a someone they will think im creepy or something.

Well I'm going to make this breif because its rather depressing to talk about.


thanks bye

Answer 1

Count your blessings as the problems that come from STDs and being a teen baby daddy are huge.
Hard to believe all the teens that come on here freaking out that they might be preg or a daddy . . .
Like they had no idea that would happen ? Did they think babies came from Sears ?

Aside from the social complications of having a list of sex partners before you get out of high school , I am shocked to see so many CLUELESS about the baby issue .

Count your blessings and hope you go meet some quality people in college.

Answer 2

I think it's quite normal weather you are home schooled or not. If you have a few good friends maybe ask them to keep an eye out or suggest someone you might like and go out as a group to the movies or something. It may not even be that you actually want a boyfriend, maybe just a guy friend or some different friends since yours seem to be not so nice teasing you as they are. I was in the 7th grade when I had my 1st boyfriend, or so I thought. It wasn't good, I found out the truth and it hurt more than I thought it would. My 1st real boyfriend was in high school, we dated for a year and a half or so but he was really glingy. My husband I met when was 21 and now we've been married just over 6 years. I had 2 boyfriends, actually 3, I dated a friend in high school for a short time but he was very confuzed about himself so I don't really count that because it wasn't for very long. But I did have a decent amount of guy friends most of the time. It takes time, but it all works out in the end. Honestly, a boyfriend is not everything it's hyped up to be.

Answer 3

Don't mistake High School for real life. It's not uncommon for some people to peak in H.S., both in popularity and expectations. This means that those big men on campus aren't all that likely to repeat that performance in real life. It is the late bloomers too whom the prizes in life tend to fall. Meanwhile, as for your current level of sexual inactivity, there is a great possibility this has little to do with your appearance, but far more with the signals you are giving off. You are probably not being very aggressive, are a decent guy, and hoping someone will make a move on you. Meanwhile, less attractive, less decent guys are being more sexually active. Frankly, although society bombards us with sexually powered content, there isn't anything wrong with taking your time. While I'm sure you'd like to have some sexual experience, you will almost certainly connect out of H.S. or in college if that's where you are headed. Granted, H.S. is a target rich environment, but that still doesn't mean you should be shooting wildly in all directions. Remember, you're not growing up in a risk free time. Many sexually active people are seeking out younger partners in hopes that they will be STD free. This means that STD's are prevalent in younger and younger people. Hey, it's not worth dying for. Good Luck. (no pun intended!)

Answer 4

I think this is really great and probably a lot more "normal" than you would guess. I would guess that the fact that you are in a really small school makes the situation a lot harder. I am going to really sound like a gramma here, but I think you should have sex the first time when you are truly in love with someone, not to simply have had the experience. Also, know that a lot of the talk you hear about the other guys sex lives is probably not true. :) You only get to have one first time, so take your time and have it mean something and be something special.

Answer 5

Dude you practically described me when I was in high school. I never had a girlfiriend and only had two sexual experiences which I don't really count after growing up a little bit. Nothing excited me more than a pretty girl so I felt wierd approaching them all amped up with hormones. I didn't feel like myself. You just need to relax I've been out of school for over 5 years and was a late bloomer too but I have had my fair share of fun and am happy with my experiences. You have a whole nother life to live after high school don't worry so much.

Answer 6

Well, I was in the same boat in high school and I'm a girl. I lost my virginity not to long after I graduated. To this day I wish I had waited.

I admire you for not being promiscuous. My son recently quit HS, an experience he had been looking forward too, to be homeschooled because of some of the immorality he saw. Teenage girls 16 an under who were having babies. And some it wasn't even their first or their 2nd in one case. At least you want be a daddy at 18.

Pride yourself for your moral fiber and your normal hormones. Don't sweat it and when the time is right you will have sex. And hopefully, it won't be some quickie experience in the seat of a car.

Answer 7

I think it's great. I love for guys to be virgins. A lot of guys aren't as they get older, and it sets you apart. I had no sexual experience in high school either. All the experience I've had, I got after I'd graduated, and even then only after a year with my boyfriend. I'm twenty now, still a virgin, and proud of it. Another user told you to concentrate on finding a good relationship first. I agree. Sex and related things will come.

Answer 8

That is a good thing, it should be in highschool around the country!!! Some girls actually dig guys that still have their v-card (they are still a virgin) I admire you for not having any experiance. Just tell girls that you like them, not sounding desperate. Tell the girls that you like, how you feel about them, without getting too sexual. Make sure you know them really well, so they aren't some white trash whores that you don't know about.

Answer 9

Yes, it's completely normal. In my opinion the media presents a very skewed idea on teenage sexuality because, let's face it, would American Pie have been as popular if it were about a bunch of guys who sat around playing Dungeons and Dragons?

No one in my entire group of friends had sex in high school. We're in our mid twenties now and a few still haven't (too busy with school to pursue a relationship, find the idea of a one-night stand a little creepy). We weren't hugely popular but we weren't complete social rejects in high school, either.

My advice to you is to not worry so much about getting laid, and think about pursuing a meaningful relationship instead. If your interest in a girl is only sexual, of course you're going to come across as creepy! And it sounds like you're asking for advice on how to pursue a girl for sex without her thinking you only want sex, and let me tell you, most girls are too smart to fall for that crap.

If you're interested in a girl for more reasons than sex, you're much more likely to get a girlfriend, and therefore sexual experience. But don't stress so much, because your situation is completely normal.

Answer 10

Well if you are worried about being a creep and not wanting to just sleep with the girl there is one word for you. Gentleman. Don't worry about it. I was a virgin until 22 (I'm a girl). Look, just date a girl and be nice without ever mentioning sex. Trust me, she will like you even more if she is a nice girl. You will get sex when the time is right.