We often fight and argue because I will not let him control me. He wants to tell me what to do and how to do it. I always do the opposite!
2007-01-08 13:59:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Perhaps it's a cultural thing. In some countries, women are still expected to be subservient.
2007-01-08 14:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Arabian men conform to their culture the same way Oriental, Hispanic, or any other type of person. Ask him questions about his childhood. That will give you insights on how he was brought up. Being controlling is only wrong when someone doesn't want to be controlled. Doing the opposite will most likely not change his feelings. His behavior reflects his experiences and beliefs. Talk to him. If it's not what you want and you're not married, it may be in the best interest of both of you to find someone more compatible. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-09 00:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by lola 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That just happens to be his culture. There's alot of different cultures like arabian and mexican who were raised to believe that women are supposed to obey. Any time you don't do something he says he takes it as a personal insult. He's probablly not going to change either so you're going to have to find a way to put up with it or move on.
2007-01-08 22:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Somebuddy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its probably what he saw growing up. You should talk with him and let him know that marriage is a 50/50 partnership. You both will work together and have separate areas of the house that you control.
It may help to have it in writing at first so that you both remember and don't interfere in each other's areas.
2007-01-08 22:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not fair to group all Arab men in the same category. My husband is Arab from Palestine, and he is not controlling at all. If you are having marriage problems, it might not be just him. Marriage is a 2 way street. You admitted in your post you rebel against his demands by doing te opposite of what he says, why not try doing it and in turn he has to do something for you. You both sound very immature to me. Both stubborn, marriage doesn't work like that.
2007-01-08 22:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It may be his culture, but he is now in America. That is not your culture, so stand your ground. If he is in America now, he has to learn to adjust to the way it is in America. He is no longer in his country. Find a happy medium with your man, introduce him to the American way, but don't neglect what he was brought up with in his thinking. Cultural respect on both ends are needed to make this relationship possible and work. If you both love each other, then you will find a way to make it work.
2007-01-08 22:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You do know if you're not married you don't have to stay.
If you're married try marriage counseling but if that doesn't work you may need to walk away.
In a good healthy relationship nobody should be in control.
2007-01-08 22:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is general human trait. Ain't nothing to do with being Arabian.
2007-01-10 08:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by WEBBADGER 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First is not only arabian men I think most of us are that way. Arabian men are more because of their beliefs and religion, and the rest because of the sexism. As simple as that.
2007-01-08 22:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Get out of the relationship if you don't like being controlled...It will only get worse... Good luck
2007-01-08 22:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by redbeansandrice 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋